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There are some things in this
world that completely and utterly blow my mind. How squirrels jump from tree to
tree, how cameras operate and most importantly whether the guy who pulled
Madonna’s cape got fired…
Relationships and people in
general are another thing that confuse me completely. If you think about it
deeply, its rather strange how we just meet someone and think ‘Oo, I like that
person a lot, I choose this person’ and you partner up, just like browsing the
aisles of Tesco and choosing an expensive Nutella over the Tesco own brand. Why
do we feel like we need someone in our life, Tigers don’t meet another Tiger
and spend their life loving Tigger the Tiger they met by where the Hippo’s
shower…
Being in a relationship myself,
I’ve learnt why as humans we choose to have a partner in crime in our lives.
Its weirdly fulfilling, a simple hug, them making you a tea (even if it tastes
like crap), (I hope Zackary doesn’t read my blog) Just knowing someone is there
for you, someone actually cares about your day, about your chipped nail, about
that bitch you heard bitching about you as you peed in the woman’s room… Yes,
this is the kind of stuff my partner in crime deals with.
Growing up and having experiences
in relationships has made me realise why humans cherish them so much. But what
about when it all goes wrong? They lied, cheated, hurt you, burnt your toast?
I truly believe your only
happiness does not depend on the man\woman you so happen to share a bed with.
If you’re unhappy more than you are happy, get your arse out of there! Or fix
it up so you are happy, I like to think I have a set of rules in my head that I
think of when things get pooey or Zackary and me argue over what to watch on
Netflix.
If you’re having trouble in your
relationship, here are my little tips that I live by!
1. Before you go in all guns
blazing, using the F word as frequently as you can possibly manage, hold back.
Take an hour before you text/call/meet up with your partner to discuss the
situation. Give yourself time to think, or even better, wait 24 hours. At 1pm
your boyfriend/girlfriend upset you, hold back, 1pm the following day sit back
and think ‘Am I still annoyed?’ ‘Is it a big deal?’ If you’re no longer upset,
leave it, it clearly didn’t upset you that much and would be a silly thing to
argue over. If you’re still mad as hell, then girl, do your thing.
2. Do not compare your relationship to other
couples. I use to be terrible at doing this and it’s a fool’s move. Make the
most of the little things in your relationship that are personal to you both.
For example, one of mine and Zackary’s favourite things to do is watch shows
about Police and silly shows like ‘Pranksters’, it may not be super exciting to
some people but its something we both enjoy and cherish our time together when
we do, do it.
3. Do not take your bad moods out
on each other. My personality consists of two types of me. I’m either super
happy, bubbly and talkative or I hit complete rock bottom and become very
quiet, independent and can’t bare simple things like eye contact. Stressy and
frustration is another trait I tend to have and I have learnt to control it
amazingly. If you’re in a bad mood because you dropped your favourite mug or
you stabbed your toe, for god sake don’t take it out on your partner.
Just a few little tips on what I’ve
picked up on in the last few years, I hope this helps one person at least!
Please leave in the comments your opinions and especially any tips for a happy
relationship that you may have!
