Confidence?

‘Confidence is key’ a short but sweet sentence that I have always abided by. It’s funny that a simple characteristic can get you so far in life, trying new things, making friends and it even comes down to success.

I know I have quite a few younger readers and followers and younger people out there browsing the web coming across little blogs like Vavaviolet so I thought I would share my story, tips and opinions on ‘confidence’.

Growing up in primary school I had all the confidence in the world. I was like a little evil queen out of a fairy tale story that sucked confidence out of people and kept it for herself. I would boss every body about, talk as loud as I could and never shut up. Leaving my safety net of primary school and a second ‘home’ to me, I lost every single inch of confidence I had managed to create in primary school. The first two years of secondary school were cruel; I had my fair share of ‘mean girls’ experiences, which just completely shattered that wall of confidence I had spent ages building.

A few years later, in my last year of sixth form I am more confident than ever! Not cocky, not up myself, just confident in my abilities, my skills and myself and for the person I have grown to become. Negative comments from other people don’t affect me, people staring as I walk into a room, hearing stuff people have said, none of it takes an inch off my nose anymore. As I have learnt to become confident in the person I am!

I know I’m not fit enough to run a marathon, I know I can’t get a good grade in math’s to save my life and I know I can’t walk both my dogs and check Instagram at the same time. I think that to be confident you have to except yourself for the things you can and can’t do. I know I can confidently do a speech, write well, communicate and do a smokey-eye and that’s what I have to work with.

My tips for being confident are simple yet life changing, write down the things you know you can do well. Good at art? Write down, drawing. Good at math’s? Write it down. Focus on what you’re good at, conquer it. As long as you’re confident in your mind, others will see it as well!

Do you have any tips on how to be confident in yourself? Body image, mind, skills, how do you gain confidence and maintain it?