Am
I the only woman who feels like I can't talk about sex freely due to the fear
of being judged and labeled as a 'slut'? When let's be real, it's great fun to
sit with your friends with an alcoholic beverage or a coffee and discuss whose
done the dirty that weekend.
I'm
so for equality for men and women, men shouldn't feel pressured to pay for
dinner on a first date and women should get paid the same as men if they are
doing the exact same job. Now don't get me wrong I love men, I'm far from a
'man hater' but why is it that if a group of men, a man, or a male blogger talk
about sex it is acceptable and no one thinks anything of it. Now if you get a
female blogger talk about sex, does that make her a dare I say it... 'Slut'?
If
I was to put my designer lipstick down on a Wednesday and pick up a condom and
teach my blog readers about why they should wear a condom, recommend sex
positions, talk about birth control or share with you my mistakes, would I be
looked down on? Would it be unacceptable? Because, that's what I'm going to do.
I’ve always enjoyed reading the love, sex and relationship pages in
Cosmopolitan, every single month thanks to a fellow female journalist I learn
from one of their mistakes. I read one article a couple of months back called
'5 signs that he is just not sexually attracted to you' and you know what, I'm
not even ashamed to admit this, it made me realise that a guy I liked at the
time just wasn't into me in that way. I learnt about STD's and the signs of a
sexual transmitted disease thanks to Cosmopolitan when I was 15 due to
stumbling across the article. Which, even though I have never had an STD the
article taught me what to look for, how to avoid getting one and what to do if
I did get one. If there were no articles out there on sex and other women's
experiences I probably would have made quite a few mistakes during the time in
my life that I have been sexually active.
So
in honour of women everywhere, whether you just want to be nosey, gain
knowledge or learn from my mistakes I will be discussing sex and relationships
every Wednesday from now on. Like how Carrie Bradshaw talks openly about sex
and relationships to help women out, just it will be through the mind of a
20-year-old. Like Samantha from Sex and the City once said: "I will not be
judged by you or society. I will wear whatever and blow whomever I want as long
as I can breathe and kneel." Who doesn't love Sex and the City, am I
right?
If
you have any sex and relationship blog post requests, or questions you have on
advice you may need, I will be answering your questions, you can comment them
down below or email me privately at vavaviolett@outlook.com
