The last time I answered questions and gave advice I managed to break a couple up so this should be interesting.
I pulled out some questions from my emails, tweets I’ve received and off Curious Cat to form another ramble of my ‘somewhat’ helpful advice and to cure your nosiness. Let’s get on with it, shall we?
Disclaimer: When you ask a question/send a confession over email, Twitter, Curious Cat just ask to be kept anonymous if you wish and your wish is my command.
When did you lose your virginity?
This question is the question I get asked the most, that and do I have a boyfriend. I won’t lie I am kind of ashamed to admit I was very young when I lost my virginity. I was underage (which is being under 16 years old in the UK). I felt ready, I wanted to do it and even though I was very young I took myself to the clinic and put myself on the pill. So I wasn’t a complete dumbass. And I might as well answer the second most frequently asked question while we’re on the subject – no, I do not have a boyfriend, I watch Netflix alone.
Soph, please keep me anonymous but I cheated on my long-term boyfriend and the guilt is destroying me. I do love him, I don’t know why I did it I can’t explain why I did but I don’t know what to do now. I don’t want to lose him. What should I do? What would you do?
What would I do? Well I wouldn’t cheat on someone if I genuinely loved them so I can’t help you there I’m afraid. However, you need to tell him as soon as possible. Stop being selfish and thinking about yourself, you write ‘the guilt is destroying me’ well how about thinking about your boyfriend and how much it is going to destroy him? It is better he hears it from you than somebody else beating you to it. Who knows maybe he will forgive you if he is a moron. I think the real problem here is your perception of the love you have for this guy. – Sorry, I only know how to give tough love. I hope it works out for you if you do love him.
How comes you are single? Your advice is much wiser than someone should have at your age.
Heartbreak does that to you at any age – cringe but sadly it’s the truth. I’m single because, well I don’t know maybe I am undateable. I mean, I do starfish across the bed and resemble a cat with how annoying I am when I want my hair played with. I also talk a lot, which seems to put men off. I give a cracking blowjob though so maybe one day a guy will stick around.
Sophie, I really like this guy who I work with but I don’t know if he is interested in me. I think we flirt but he is quite flirty with everyone. How can I tell if he actually likes me?
I’ve been in this situation and it is a tough one. I personally asked the guy out, he said yeah, we went on a date and I realised I didn’t actually like him – he was so cocky and vain I just could not deal with it. BUT girl, I think you should grow some balls and test him, ask him out on a date. If he is interested he’ll go – if not get back on Tinder and have some fun.
My boyfriend is shit in bed but I love him. What should I do?
Give him a chance. Talk to him about what you like and tell him what really turns you on. As a couple work on it together, try new things, spice it up a bit, encourage him and support him. If you find it awkward to talk to him about it just suggest things, for example, if you only do one position you get up and you take control and change the position. If he's not making you cum then you need to discover what makes you cum and you need to show him. Teamwork yano.
Where is the most public place you have had sex?
Hyde Park in London. I just love the thrill of getting caught lol.
What turns you on and what turns you off?
Rough sex really turns me on, I am definitely submissive. Neck kissing is the one thing that can always turn me on and giving blowjobs, that’s weirdly a turn on. Turn offs, feet. I can’t be dealing with foot fetishes (it’s not for everyone, fair play if you dig that).
I made a Curious Cat profile which is a place where you guys can send me questions and confessions and can simply click a button to be anonymous, so you know, your boyfriend doesn’t find out you’ve cheated on him, or so you can keep your questions private. To ask a question or send me a confession click (HERE).