Monday, 30 January 2017

Planning our trip to Disneyland Paris

Visiting the most magical place on earth (well, second after Selfridges) comes with a lot of planning, saving and dreaming about pancakes shaped like Mickey Mouse.

My boyfriend and I are going for five days and four nights in October for my 21st birthday and will be there on the actual day. I can’t think of anywhere else I’d rather become ‘an adult’ than surrounded by my childhood of Disney. It will be a nice ending to a chapter in my life, as the next few years afterwards will be filled with work, moving out and all things adult.

We are staying at the New York Hotel which is in the parks, and travelling by the Eurostar (so that I can bring back tons of shit with me of course).

We have come up with a list of things we 100% want to do while we’re there, so let me know if we’re missing out anything key that you would highly recommend!

·      Shop till we drop
·      Go on Space Mountain
·      Buzz Lightyear’s Laser Blast
·      Eat at Mickey’s Café
·      Fantasyland
·      Visit the castle
·      Watch the fireworks
·      Get a Disney McDonald’s
·      Watch the Disney Magic Parade
·      Eat at Planet Hollywood
·      Take a picture in front of the castle
·      Meet Chip n Dale
·      Visit Walt Disney Studios Park
·      Go on the Slinky Dog ride
·      Shop in the Toy Story store
·      Eat at Bistrot Chez Remy
·      Explore the Disney Animation Gallery
·      Get a book from the Disney bookstore
·      Visit Cookie Kitchen
·      Eat at Sliver Spur Steakhouse
·      Eat at Restaurant Hakuna Matata
·      Visit Pocahontas Indian Village
·      Meet Mickey Mouse

·     Eat at Buzz Lightyear’s Pizza Planet Restaurant


Wednesday, 25 January 2017

LIFE UPDATE: Sex and relationships, Disneyland trip, career

The truth

When I entered 2017 I was in the mindset that this will be the best year ever, but things went downhill drastically. Life as they say ‘happened’.

On Christmas Day, myself and my mum had to call an ambulance and my nan was rushed into hospital, when she should have been enjoying Christmas with us, eating Quality Streets and tutting at how stupid EastEnders is. I’ve never seen her look so fragile and ill, the thought of anything happening to her makes my entire body go cold. We’ve always been so close and I am her ‘golden child’ as my family like to joke. Nan came out of hospital but was shortly rushed back in at the start of the New Year. She spent over a week in hospital again and is now finally back home. I am so thankful that she’s okay, that I get to spend more time with her and I go and see her as much as I possibly can. I want to take the time to say to you that it is so important that you make effort with your loved ones, spend as much time as you can with them and as cliché as it is, tell them how much you love them often.

As you can imagine, it wasn’t the best start to a brand new spanking year. The time that you want everything to run smoothly and everything has to be perfect. Things just started going so wrong, and fast as well. Everything kind of built up and I felt like I was just drowning in stress. I kept it all bottled up, like I always do, and carried on as though everything was a-okay. I got myself up in the morning, went to work, smiled all day until I got home, then I’d light a fag and just sit there with my thoughts.

I wasn’t depressed – I’d like to make that quite clear. I’ve never had depression in my life and I’m very strong minded usually. I’m that annoying person who is happy go lucky 24/7, doesn’t ever cry and is the friend who you turn to when you need cheering up or your mind taken off something. Not the girl who sits in the garden with a Marlboro light staring blankly into space.

I won’t go into everything that was getting me down as that is private. But one of the things that really knocked me is my exams that are approaching. I’m an apprentice reporter and I have a couple more journalism exams to take until I get my full qualification and damn am I shitting a brick. Because I felt down anyways everything else seemed so much worse than it was.

The reason I feel like I have to write this life update is because I want to portray how not everything you see on social media is ‘perfect’. I want my life updates to be raw and real and to capture how I feel in that moment.

I decided to make a difference and I picked myself back up. Nan was home and recovering, I started revising harder for exams and I went head first into tackling the other issues that were affecting me. Slowly things started looking up and I felt positive and happy again. I suppose the message behind this story is sometimes you just have to fight for happiness. You have to face your problems head on and deal with them. And bloody hell do I feel pretty darn epic.

Sex and relationships

I have been writing sex and relationship articles on vavaviolet now for nearly three months and I am over the moon with the feedback I have received. At first, I was kind of nervous as in a way talking about sex, blowjobs and all sorts are still rather taboo. But you guys seem to love them and always send me the sweetest messages about how entertaining and interesting you find them (which always makes my day so thank you). If there is anything, in particular, you would like me to feature please let me know by emailing and we can have a chit chat or tweet me at @JournalistSoph. If you have a sex and relationships question and/or dilemma you can send them to me anonymously by sending them to me via

Secondly, I am in a very happy place with my love life. I wanted to give it a couple of months before I said anything about it on here (yano in case my arse got dumped again) but I do have a boyfriend now. We’ve been together nearly three months and he is VERY supportive of vavaviolet and even helps me come up with article ideas. Now I just need to train him on how to take a bomb photo so I can start doing outfit of the day posts…

Disneyland Paris

Even though January was full of doom and gloom it was made a little magical because me and my boyfriend booked a trip of five days and nights to Disneyland Paris. We’re going in October via the Eurostar on October 18, and returning on October 22. On October 20, while we’re there I will be turning 21 years old so I’m overly excited about celebrating my birthday with Mickey Mouse. You’re never too old for Disney right?

We’re staying in the New York Hotel in the park so if you have stayed there before or been to the park please let me know your recommendations. I’ve already started planning and writing down everything I want to do there so recommendations would be v helpful.


Monday, 23 January 2017

Pinterest round-up: The best of interior inspiration

The first thing I do when I wake up is scroll through Pinterest, and the last thing I do before my beauty sleep is scroll through Pinterest (yes my life is really that sad).

I’m all about gathering inspiration and imagery is one of my favourite ways of doing this. I love creating mood boards and letting ideas fill my mind from interior right down to ideas for breakfast. For me it's what motivates me the best, I can look at one single image and come up with about five different article/content ideas, a plan of what I want the photography that goes along with the article to look like, and then about 10 other ideas after that.

Lately interior has been on my mind 24/7. I want to revamp my room and I’m also starting to think about how fast moving out from my parent's house will come around. I’m 20 now and the goal is to move out around my 22nd birthday. Two years sounds like ages away but in a couple of months, I’ll be turning 21. In excitement, I’ve started buying mugs, tea-towels, and more so I took to Pinterest to create a digital mood board so that I can start visualising what I like and what I need to buy.

It's quite clear that my apartment will just be painted white... It appeals to me so much because I love pops of things. Pops of colour, patterns, textures, the whole sha-bang, and furnishings stand out beautifully against something as plain as a white wall.

The pink lockers used as storage are to die for. I'm literally drooling over how cute they are. That nostalgic vibe as you reach for a document, can you imagine?

The wardrobe display showing off designer pieces is something every fashionista will want in their space. I'm no fashion goddess (what so bloody ever) but god do I love a display that resembles a Yvette Saint Laurent store.

I want cactus' and faux fur EVERYWHERE. Cactus' are so easy to look after, I mean you have to water them like once every couple of months! I think...

An investment I want to make for my space is for a record player. I've always thought records look so retro and the album covers are artwork. How cosy would it be to have one in your living room? I don't think I'd ever leave my home.

What kind of interior do you like? Comment down below or tweet me at @JournalistSoph


Sunday, 22 January 2017

How to deal with a jealous partner\dealing with your own jealousy

Jealously is a bitch. We all get jealous and feel that horrid butterfly in our stomach but you can’t let it consume you and you can’t let someone dictate your life because of one emotion.

I’ll admit, I used to get mad jealous when I was younger. I trusted my ex’s, I truly did, the jealously I felt was my own doing. I was SO insecure about myself, my looks, weight, where I was going in life. I was insecure about everything. So I just assumed I was worthless and therefore, I’d get jealous real easy because of it. But now, oh boy I couldn’t give a fuck. I’m not insecure anymore, I’m not your ideal ‘thin and beautiful’, but I have lost weight, discovered myself and I have worked my arse off career wise to make sure I go far in life.

So these tips are from me, to you.

How to deal with a jealous partner

Think about it deeply
Really think about why your partner is so jealous. Before you even ask them, give it a deep thought. Has something in their past fucked them up? Did somebody cheat on them? Are they just massively insecure? I’m not excusing their actions because of any of these things whatsoever but it will help you understand why they’re like this. If they have been cheated on in the past they need to except that you’re a new person, you’re not their ex, you have different intentions, and not everybody cheats. Perhaps suggest counseling to them if that is the root of the problem, offer to sit and chat to them about it, let them know that they can open up to you. Help to get it into their mindset that you’re not their ex, you won’t do that and slowly they will gain their trust again. If they’re jealous because of their own insecurities then the same applies, suggest counseling or just be there for them. If you do love them then it is worth it, tell them how beautiful/good looking they are, help boost their confidence,

Boundaries need to be set
If your boyfriend/girlfriend is being an actual psychopath by checking your phone, telling you who you can and can’t talk to, controlling when you can and can’t go out and who you can and can’t see then you need to set some boundaries. In all honesty, if your partner acts like this I would say deep from within me for you to end it but I know its not always that easy. So if you want to make this relationship work YOU need to set some boundaries. Change your passcode, tell them that they have to start trusting you or the relationship just isn’t going to work. Put them in their place, ‘trust me or that’s it’. Put your goddam foot down. Don’t let somebody dictate your life. You know your partner better than I do so every approach is different. I would personally sit them down and tell them the deal, get over your issues or get over me.

How to deal with your own jealously

Find yourself
Like I said, I was jealous because I was insecure. That’s why a lot of people are jealous it makes sense really – if you deem yourself unworthy you assume everybody else thinks you’re a piece of shit too. I found having time by myself and being single really helped me out. I had time to focus on myself and my own issues. I made a career for myself when I was single, I accepted every single opportunity, I made new friends and I spent time finding out who I was. I was lucky and managed to improve my own self-confidence but seeking counseling could really help you, especially if you don’t want to leave your partner.

Have a chit chat
I also recommend sitting down with your boyfriend/girlfriend and telling them why you’re so jealous. Be honest with them and help them understand. You never know, they may be able to help you.


Friday, 20 January 2017

Five sex habits every woman should stop doing

I hate to be bossy but ladies, you need to stop doing these.

Faking moans/orgasms
I'll hold my hand up and admit I'm in the fake orgasm club. I've pulled that sin before and I made a pack that with my next partner I wouldn't fake an orgasm, not even once. So I haven't and let me tell you why. Faking orgasms means you fall into a trap, we do it because we want to make our partner feel like they are satisfying us even if they aren't. It's false advertising. You do it once and again and again. You keep faking and he/she carries on being shit in bed because, in their mind, they're doing a bloody marvellous job. Stop faking and if you're not enjoying it actually talk to your partner, show them how to make you cum. You're never going to have a real orgasm if you don't teach them how to please you. Trust me, it will make your sex life improve drastically.

Not cleaning up afterwards
You've done the deed and he's done the deed inside you, and then you carry on laying in bed. Therefore cum and all the messy side of sex goes all over your white John Lewis sheets. It's easy to do when all you want to do after sex is lay there cuddling or talking. If that's the case keep a pack of FemFresh wipes in your bedside draw or nearby. They're safe to use on your privates and you won't be lying in a pile of sperm.

Not carrying condoms
We carry everything else in our handbags including the kitchen sink and 12 lipsticks so I know you have room for two condoms ladies. If you're sexually active (or even if you're not, you never know when you could be wishing you had one) put them somewhere and keep yourself safe. It's important that as a sex blogger I preach safe sex and I truly mean it. If you get lucky at the club with a stranger that's cool, I'm all for having fun but make sure you have some in case he doesn't. I say carry two in case the first one breaks, or you want to go for round two...

Sleeping with your friend's ex
Girl code, just stick to the code for crying out loud. Don't be a dickhead.

Not saying what you want
I have so many women message me along the lines of 'I want to try this but I don't know how to ask my man...' this is a habit that needs to be broken. If he's your man you should feel comfortable enough with him to suggest sexual activities/ask him if you can try something. Bite the bullet (not your vibrating bullet) and get into the habit of suggesting what you'd like to try. What's the worst that can happen? He'll say no, that's it. You never know, he may have wanted to try it too.

Of course, you don't have to break these habits but your sex life will be bomb if you do - trust me...

If you would like to see 'sex habits every man should stop doing' let me know in the comments or tweet me at @JournalistSoph


Wednesday, 18 January 2017

What I keep by my desk to maximise productivity yet still keep it looking cute

Grab your duster, a cup of coffee and open up a notepad to take notes on how to create a clean, tidy and inspiring place to work. That is also pretty to look at and photograph of course…

In my room, I have an extremely long white desk that doubles up as my vanity and place to work (as you can quite clearly see in the pictures). To separate these two sections, so that once I’m sat at the work side I stay focused, I have placed a stack of magazines in the middle to work as a divider. I’m a journalist so I use magazines a lot to gather inspiration so this divider is ideal for me as I can pull out magazines to flick through while I’m sat working. I change the magazines each month when the new issues come out, so it’s like my little pit of desperate inspiration when I’m in despair. It’s brilliant.

Next to that, I keep some photos that I deem hilarious of me and my friend Kay, she’s currently away in the army so it’s a nice little reminder that when she’s back I have an excuse to get ridiculously ‘mortal’. And yes, yes my tits are out in that photo.

Next to my pornographic images of myself is a picture in a gold frame of a sloth because well, why not?

On my desk, I have a lot of acrylic storage to store and hold items, such as pens and important documents that I need to deal with, but never do. I find acrylic storage the most appealing because it gives the illusion that it doesn’t take up so much space on a work top, you know what with being see-through and everything. It also means I’m not rooting through for ages trying to find something because I can see it through the draws. However, the only downside to this is that you can’t just shove things in and create a mess because then the whole world can see it. I have a number of different things in these containers from rubbers in the shapes of animals (they’re cute okay), tape, scissors’, glue, and of course as much adorable stationary as they could hold. I also have a mini shorthand book so that I can do interviews at my desk – very handy.

Lastly, I have a lamp that reminds me of the Pixar lamp, some cactus’s because I’m obsessed – although they always stab me when I lean over to turn Pixar lamp on, and some ‘EAT HEALTHY’ books to stare at me and make me feel guilty while I’m eating chocolate cake at my desk at one in the morning… and my pride and joy, my baby, my Ham from Toy Story mug that I use as a pen holder because he’s too precious to put my crusty lips on.

Above the desk, I have a corkboard full to the brim of stuff that makes me happy. Such as an adorable note from my boyfriend, pictures of my best friend Clixby, and other bits and bobs.

I’d love to see what your desk looks like! Tag me in pictures on Twitter at @JournalistSoph or on Instagram @vavaviolett and comment below if you want to know where anything is from or tweet me!


Monday, 16 January 2017

Shopping my beauty stash | Finding old products

I avoided slow walkers, screaming babies and snobby makeup counter staff by rooting through my makeup collection in a shopping-like experience (I even had a glass of bubbly). I rediscovered so many amazing products that were still unopened or in brand new spanking condition. I mean, who spends £40 on a primer and then never uses it?... 

It felt so good to just empty the drawers, clean them and chuck out makeup that was out of date or I just simply didn’t like it anymore. While doing my cleanout I found so many products that I had completely forgotten about and since I have used them and tried them out on a number of occasions. 
Under a pile of primers (literally, poor thing was suffocated) I found my Smashbox Photo Finish primer. When I first bought this I used it every single day and then I got my hands on the new matte Benefit primer and well, Smashbox got abandoned. I’ve started using it since and it's oil-free consistency helps my face stay matte and my foundation stays locked to my face. I prefer my Benefit one but I am going to use this one up and then go back to Benefit. 
Back in the day (like two years ago because I’m still a fetus) MAC makeup was all I wore. My draws are crammed with the famous black packaging. These two little shadows used to be my holy grails in sixth form. I could just slap them on and strut out of the house. So I plan to wear them to work now (how grown up of me). I also have started using ‘Cork’ (the brown shade) for my eyebrows and it is the perfect colour match.
One of the things I was most thrilled to come across was a limited edition piece by Mac Cosmetics, a sculpting powder from the Maleficent collection. I stopped using this and put it at the back of a draw for the sheer fact that I was scared to hit pan on it because it is no longer available. It is the best contour shade I have EVER used, it makes me look so defined. So I’ve pulled this to the front of the draw for ‘special occasion use’ and I will only use it for something I deem as special or worthy. Because I could always just keep the packaging once it’s used up. 

I have so many draws filled to the brim with lip products. There were hundreds that I rediscovered but I thought I would show you the ones I was most excited about coming across. On the same day that I bought the Smashbox primer I got myself a pink Smashbox lipstick in the shade ‘Pout’. Now don’t shout at me or roll your eyes but… I’ve never used this product either since buying it. I must have just put it in the draw and completely forgotten about it. It’s a beautiful shade of hot pink and I’ve been modelling it for well over a week now. After I pulled out that lipstick another one behind it caught my attention, a Charlotte Tilbury lipstick- I know, I have sinned. What kind of moron forgets about a Charlotte Tilbury product? When I want to feel fancy I now smoother this on my lips.

Something I bought for the sheer fact that I thought it was cool and then never used it – the Kylie Jenner liquid lipstick in the shade ‘King’. King is a metallic gold so I thought ‘Oh I have nothing like that – add to cart’ so I have made a promise that I am going to rock it some time.

I also rediscovered about eight of these Claire’s Accessories lip balms in this adorable packaging. It reminds me of Japanese cosmetics, which is just utterly adorable and they actually taste like cookies. So of course, I’ve chucked all of them in my handbag.

While shoving everything into black bags to bin I released that I need to repurchase all of my holy grail Lush Cosmetics lip scrubs. They are all well best their date to be used by and the thought of having to repurchase them is making me want to well up.

The last product I reshopped was my Nars limited edition Andy Warhol highlighter. Similar to the MAC Maleficent piece I was so terrified to hit pan so I hid it at the back of the draw. Now that I’m older and new pieces come out all of the time I’m ready and mentally prepared to hit pan.

Shop your collection and let me know what you find by commenting down below, tweeting me at @JournalistSoph or by emailing me at ALSO let me know if you would like a detailed review on any of these products!

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