Monday, 5 June 2017

Sex on the first date, should we really let a stranger fondle our most private parts?

Sex is one of the most natural things you will ever do in your entire life so it's no wonder we fall into bed with strangers on the first date. 

It's an act of comfort, pleasure, and in some cases love. Some say you should only have sex when it is an act of love and to never do it to achieve pleasure and nothing more. 

But sex is a personal act to all of us, it's up to you as an individual to decide what it means to you. To me it's something that I not only savour but it makes me feel sanguine. I'm at my most confident while having sex, so why would I not want to enjoy that as much as I can? The word 'slut' I'm sure will come into some minds while reading that last line but that word, over time means nothing to me.

What is wrong with doing it for the hell of it? What is really wrong with having a little fun? The thrill of a strangers hands all over you after a hot sweaty night in a club, with some guy that you went on a date with and knew you wouldn't see again, or on a first date that went perfectly? You're not less of a woman or man for getting under those sheets, for being fondled against a wall, or doing it in the back of a car.

But sometimes it can go wrong, you don't know this person or their intentions. You don't know whether they have an STD, a criminal record, whether they put their cups down on coasters, or god forbid if they wear Crocs around their home. If you're going to do the deed with someone you just met then be my guest, it's your life, just do it with care and respect for yourself.

A woman can sleep with who she wants, when she wants, as long as she is safe. As long as you use protection - especially with a 'stranger', someone knows exactly where you are even if that means quickly texting an address to a friend, and as long as you respect yourself to make sure these things are in place as a precaution then live your life as you please.

You are not a slut for living this way but you're an idiot if you don't do it as safely as you possibly can. 

Written by VavaViolet's Editor Sophie Blackman.


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