Wednesday, 14 February 2018


I wish someone had shaken me and given me the advice I’m about to give you. 

Relationships and friendships are as we all know, a two-way streak. You could say that I've had a few, some long term, short term, a disaster or the best years of my life. They were all different but I took a lesson or three away from each.

I started dating at 12-years-old and was with the same guy for over three years until I was 16 years of age. Being youthful comes with a naive outlook on life. This was the same problem in my second relationship of two years between the ages of 16 and 18. 

I thought I knew it all. I thought I was self-assured, that I knew what I wanted in life, but boy, I had no bloody clue. In reality, I was a wrecking ball swinging back and forth self-destructing my own life. 

One thing I did, and I know a lot of people do toowas blow my cool straight away. During these relationships the second the littlest thing upset me I would pour my heart out and get angry. Sometimes in a relationship, things will upset you whether its a jealously thing, he hasn’t done the dishes or he/she has genuinely pissed you off. In my most recent relationship, I started living by something, the 24-hour rule.

The rule is simple if something pisses you off at say 8 o’clock instead of going off on one you don’t say anything to your partner until you’ve waited 24 hours. During that time you will either realise it was silly to get mad and save yourself an argument or you’ll realise that you are actually really hurt and need to have a conversation with your lover. I promise you, it will cut the number of arguments you have in at least half.

If you want to know and learn from my other relationship mistakes I filmed a YouTube video of me giving and explaining how to use my advice to better your relationship on my channel (watch it here).

I hope whether you’re in a relationship or you’re single that you’ve had a lovely Valentines/Galentines Day. 

If you have any tips, tricks or advice you can give please share it in the comments!

Written by VavaViolet’s Founder and Editor-in-Chief Sophie Blackman.

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