Tuesday, 19 November 2019

Exclusive: Happn's dating expert shares top 5 tips to survive 'Cuffing Season'



If you feel like sobbing because you don't have a date for Winter Wonderland, then you should probably read these tips.

It's a ball ache being single in the winter when you're surrounded by couples - whether you're content being single or not. 

Everything is 'cutesy', sitting with your friends in a pub garden turns into everyone hermitting with their partners to watch Netflix while you're alone pondering why you don't just get a man to last you for the seasonal period and then chuck him out like a tacky Christmas jumper. 

VavaViolet Magazine spoke to Happn's Dating Trends Expert Jennifer Faura to gather some tips on how to find someone in a healthy manner or to avoid falling into the Cuffing Season trap.

In case you've been living under a rock, Urban Dictionary defines 'Cuffing Season' as the moment when 'people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves, along with the rest of the world, desiring to be tied down by a serious relationship'.



Tip 1 - Change your mindset 

Jennifer explained: "There's no pressure. Dating is supposed to be fun! Remember that although not everyone you meet will be 'the one,' you can still enjoy the time you spend with someone and see where it goes. 

"A lot of singletons claim that dating can feel like a chore, which it should never be! Reframe the way you think about dating - instead of putting so much pressure on finding a soulmate, enjoy the memories you make in the process!

"You might end up being surprised by somebody unexpected… which is part of the magic."




Tip 2 - Stay on top of it  

Jennifer said: "It is easy to get overwhelmed by dating, especially when using apps as there’s just so much choice! 

"In order to avoid this feeling, make the effort of triggering a discussion with your crushes and be able to decide if it’s worth going further on a first date and, you will not put yourself at risk at all. 

"Try to be in the present when you go on dates. Put your phone away for the few hours and enjoy each other’s company. Everyone you meet is unique and it’s important to seize the opportunity and see if sparks fly." 




Tip 3 - Be you 

"Cuffing season – and all year round, simply being the best version of yourself is always key to developing a relationship," Jennifer said. 

"Nobody can keep up a pretence for long, so if you let someone fall for an act, you haven’t found someone who is attracted to you!"




Tip 4 - Be open to new things 

The expert continued: "Maybe they like doing things that you haven’t tried—but just because you haven’t tried them yet doesn’t mean you won’t enjoy them. 

"So, if you get an invite out for an evening of indoor skydiving and you’re not sure that it’s your thing, why not give it a chance? You might find that you love it and it could be a great bonding experience. 

"Similarly, don’t be afraid to encourage them to try something fun with you that might be a little outside your comfort zone."

  


Tip 5 - Get yourself out there

Jennifer said: "One of the best ways to increase your chances and meet someone interesting is to go out! 

"Whether you’re having a drink or dinner with your friends, shopping, or getting involved in an NGO (because karma can help after all)… keep your mind open and focus on the positive things in your life. 

"You will feel good and others around you will feel it and be influenced by your attitude."




Written by VavaViolet's Founder & Editor-in-Chief Sophie Blackman.  


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