Monday, 25 January 2021

5 ways to learn to love yourself while stuck in lockdown


With the UK in yet another national lockdown, it is easy to be overwhelmed by all the things we can’t control. We can’t go out, we can’t see our friends or family and it is so easy to feel down in the dumps. 

However, in any situation, you can not control it is best and most advisable to turn to what you can take the reign on.

In lockdown, there may not be much on offer to do but one thing you can fill your time with is the art of learning to love yourself. 

You can hone the skill and characteristic in many ways from the comfort of your home through carrying out very simple mind and physical exercises with yourself.

These include - but not limited - not comparing yourself to others, complimenting yourself and reading/saying affirmations, doing things which make you feel good, avoiding bad days defining you and not giving a fuck what others think of you.

If you want to live a life where you truly love yourself and feel like you can take on the whole, here are VavaViolet Magazine’s  top five ways on learning to love yourself:

Even those who appear to be the happiest people in the world may not be. It is the greatest example of why we must not compare because we truly do not know. 

Always remember social media can be deceiving and it’s easy to brave a smile even if your world is crumbling. 

Some people cope differently to others and everyone is different, something that affects you, may not affect someone else. 

Focus on yourself - what makes you happy and who truly positively benefits your life. 

Once you train your mind to not compete or compare against others, that's when you will see yourself really thrive.

Look in the mirror at least once a day and point out something to yourself that you love about yourself.

Internally or physically compliment yourself on even the smallest victory - you have beautiful eyes, you got out of bed this morning, you ate something today or even that you brushed your teeth - anything is an achievement.

If you struggle with this, we also recommend giving affirmation cards a go. These are little cards which read-only positive affirmations such as, 'you are brave' or 'you are beautiful', as some examples.

It sounds odd but, you see, once you have trained yourself to talk to yourself like you would one of your loved ones you won't have to do these talks with yourself anymore as it starts to come naturally in time.

This is just a stepping stone to get it going and training like clockwork in your mind.


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One of the best ways you can fall in love with yourself is to do kind things that make you feel good.

Smile at someone, pay for someone's coffee, or just simply saying please and thank you - kindness is free. 

And in a world where everyone is struggling at the moment, even the simplest gesture can make someone else feel all warm inside and in turn that should make you feel fabulous too.

Remember, no one can be perfect all the time. 

So, so what if you wake up and don’t brush your hair! Who gives a shit if you eat the whole bag of chocolate instead of the recommended amount. Or if you spend too much money on a retail therapy order... 

Every single day of your life is a blank canvas. 

We all have down days and we need them sometimes so they can build us back up!

The trick is to not let one decision or moment define your whole outlook for that day, week or month. 

Just remember sleep, recharge and learn from it, tomorrow is a fresh start...

No matter how hard you try, you are never going to please everyone, the only person that you have to live with when push comes to shove is yourself. 

People are always going to try and knock you off your feet and bring you down with their opinions or what they think is best for you. 

You are your toughest critic and no-one is going to be tougher or more judgemental on you than you. 

Breakthrough that barrier and remember that you're the fucking shit and whether you think it or not you have the power to make your own decisions!


Just remember... Do what makes YOU happy. You are stronger than you think and try your best to feel fantastic about yourself... even if it is one tiny step at a time!


Written by VavaViolet's writer, Jessica Murray.


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