Wednesday, 3 March 2021

How to manage the 'meh' days | By Life Coach Jadie White


March marks the one year anniversary of the UK shutting down amid Covid-19 and even with lockdown lifting, this is provoking many different emotional responses for everyone. 

Whilst this feels like "good" news, it is also so important to recognise how difficult this year has been and if you haven’t already, now is the time to begin honouring your feelings. 

If you are questioning why you are experiencing mixed responses to the news, instead of allowing the rational mind to intervene, take some time to just feel what’s coming up for you and know, that it’s okay to not be okay.

Period! 

We are human beings and emotions are what separates us from any other living thing. 

Having feelings and feeling them is your birthright and validating them is your only responsibility on this Earth.

The past year, you have been forced to sit amongst your fears, worries and insecurities without distraction.

These circumstances are something we haven’t been trained for nor were predicted so give yourself a break.

To help you out on those "meh" days (which we all have) I’ve created some lil go to’s to manage the lows, in or out of lockdown that you can use and train for the rest of your life!


There is nowhere you need to be. There is nothing you need to do that is more important than taking care of yourself. 

So if you’re having one of those days where it feels really difficult to get out of bed, don’t. 

Once you remove that pressure, you will find yourself willing to get out of bed, in your own time, at your own pace. 

Instead of an intense HIIT workout, replace it with some restorative yoga or a walk. Give your body whatever it needs. 

One baby step at a time.

I will never stop preaching that meditation is the best tool we have as human beings. 

There is no right or wrong way to do it, it is just about letting go and welcoming the peace that is already present within you. 

Create a space to come home to yourself. And if you feel called too, journal after. 

Documenting your lows are not only helpful in the moment to get everything out of your mind and onto non-judgemental paper, but they are also very retrospective to read when you are out of your lows to see the lessons more clearly.

Don’t reach for your phone. Don’t reach for Netflix. Or even your friend. Until you have acknowledged the feelings and spent a bit of time with them on your own. 

Your feelings are there to indicate something to you, they may be trying to tell you something or trying to teach you something or they may simply just be there for you to witness and experience. 

Whatever the purpose of the emotions showing up, please acknowledge them and in this space, trust that your breakthrough is coming. 

When you feel, you will heal.


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Inherently we are just little children trapped in adult bodies. 

We used to have fun, explore, be present but then we learnt that adults have to take responsibility and we lost our true essence. 

When you are low, this is more of an opportunity to pause your responsibilities and tune back into your flow state. 

What did you do as a kid that would bring you a lot of joy? What can you do that doesn’t need to be achieved or accomplished? What can you do purely because you lose yourself in it?

Just don't lose yourself for too long and remember to follow the other lessons to get going again in a positive mindset.

For the empaths out there, it can be so hard to feel low AND be there for your friend who is also feeling low.

That isn’t productive for anyone. 

Your only responsibility is to honour your feelings, so if you need to take time away from your phone or take a break from being a friend for the day, let your loved ones know you are taking time for yourself and you will be back and ready to show up for them when you are refuelled. 

Those who truly love you will only ever respect that.

Lastly, the most important tip of them all... When you experience lows (and you will unless you’re a robot), this is an opportunity to love yourself more. 

In these lows, you need more love. 

You don’t need your criticism or judgement or hard self-talk. 

There is no space for that here.

You need acceptance, patience and compassion. 

Think to yourself, if I loved myself, what would I do? How can I give myself more of what I need? What is the loving thing to do now?

If you take away anything from this, it is, PLEASE be gentle with yourself. All feelings are valid. And you do not owe anyone a reason or explanation for the way you feel. 

Your only responsibility is to take care of yourself. 

However you are coping with this weird phase we are experiencing, is just right. 

Know, this part right here is necessary, don’t try to rush or judge your process. 

This will pass and the sun will rise again.



Written by VavaViolet's Life Coach Columnist, Jadie White.


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