tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-71134480771970816852024-03-16T05:40:26.253+00:00VavaVioletSophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-55273417437776354992023-03-02T21:37:00.000+00:002023-03-02T21:37:27.467+00:008 steps to make a man orgasm: From mastering the perineum to the Gawk Gawk 9000<p><span style="font-family: arial;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNAZc_kH-MPhKqPEAtdeYmAtKOtIdmkeef38RH-YmOBAZNmxi84FEI9PC1GhIT67Butm56y3NyxUFYmXHAWRUqQbPgeSs_RbeOROBI-eULCRofunKOua-VTBMKk_vg3jiyfVMhSkUMt8m16QEOFy0B2eTpj510GV7avFG-dhHWW3hNqMv6j2xoWGI6bg/s5952/VavaViolet%20Mag%20main.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4128" data-original-width="5952" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNAZc_kH-MPhKqPEAtdeYmAtKOtIdmkeef38RH-YmOBAZNmxi84FEI9PC1GhIT67Butm56y3NyxUFYmXHAWRUqQbPgeSs_RbeOROBI-eULCRofunKOua-VTBMKk_vg3jiyfVMhSkUMt8m16QEOFy0B2eTpj510GV7avFG-dhHWW3hNqMv6j2xoWGI6bg/s16000/VavaViolet%20Mag%20main.png" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="color: #0e101a;"><br /></span></span><p></p><p><span style="color: #0e101a; font-family: arial;">So, you want to improve your orgasm-giving skills? Here are the eight handiest tricks to maximise pleasure for the penis. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><span></span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Of course, it goes without saying; ask before you do. Consent is always needed. Not every man wants his perineum or balls touched.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Edging</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Delayed gratification can be hard to get your head around, but the end result is worth the try. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Edging is delaying the orgasm to make it more intense. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">To do this is relatively simple. Do whatever it takes to get the man, or someone with a penis, right to the edge and then make him/they wait. Slow things down, focus on something different and then take him back to climax. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Try this two or three times before allowing them to climax for a far more intense orgasm. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Boost that testosterone </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">The body can naturally produce testosterone in many ways. It can do this by going to the gym, improving diet, getting plenty of sleep, reducing stress and addressing any underlying medical conditions.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Higher amounts of testosterone in the bloodstream suggest the more likely it is for orgasms to be intense. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">So, why not try going for a run before your next session?</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Do not forget his balls and perineum </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">The skin of the scrotum (the bag of skin that holds and helps to protect the testicles) is quite sensitive and can really turn a man on when touched. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">We recommend keeping the biting and nibbling at bay here.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Instead, try sucking, licking, cupping or gently squeezing them.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">To thrill him even more, you can play with his perineum.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">The perineum</span><strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"> </strong><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">is the bit of skin between the balls and his bum. This area contains his ejaculatory muscles, so when massaged, it can make his climax even more extraordinary.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Be present </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Sometimes during sex, it can be nerve-racking, but passion is crucial for a memorable orgasm. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">One basic rule is, do not get in your head. Set yourself free of expectations and let yourself go. Focus on the action happening and live in the moment. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Try and do everything you can to make your partner feel like they are the only person in the world. One easy way to do this is to let your facial expressions do the talking.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Dangle that tongue, drool, grin, smirk, and show him how much fun you are having.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; 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margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">For a truly better orgasm, return to your body. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Do not fantasise about some porn you recently watched or fixate on how to impress (do this before, now for example as you are reading this). </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Hone in on the physical sensations that you are feeling with your body and how that can mimic or contrast your partner. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">It makes the sex feel more raw and primal.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">The Gawk Gawk 3000 and 9000</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">The Gawk Gawk 3000 is a "blowjob that will take his soul," according to Call Her Daddy founder Alex Cooper.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">"Let me tell you, listen, any girl can give a blow job. It is the accessories you bring with the blow job that make America great again," said Cooper.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">To perform the act, Cooper instructs us to imagine we are in a Sahara desert.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">In episode three of Call Her Daddy, she said: "Close your eyes and picture you are parched. You need water. You’ve been trapped in this Sahara. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">"It has been three days, you need water, and his wiener is a big fat gallon of Poland spring water. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">"So, naturally, anybody that is parched will die to get to that water. They would die for dick at that point. I would die for dick at that point in the Sahara Desert. You will die for that motherfucking dick."</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">The point Cooper is making is that men adore it when we look like we would do anything to have their penis in our mouths. The desperation is hot for most.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Cooper continued: "Listen, if a guy looks down and sees a girl that is like, 'I wonder what I’m gonna have for dinner tonight?' He’s like, okay, well then here we go. I’m getting soft… Okay, it’s over.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">"You need to look like I am starving. I am going to die until he literally gives me that gallon of water."</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Now that is the Gawk Gawk 3000 out of the way, let's discuss how we upgrade to the 9000.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">The Gawk Gawk 9000 needs the same desperation behind it as the 3000, but with more levels.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">These are:</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">The noises - put a soundtrack to your mouth, moan as you would if you had not drunk water for a long time and finally are getting a sip. You can also use your saliva and the sloppiness of the wet penis to make erotic sounds. Do not be afraid of the saliva. Spit to your heart's content, and for a bonus, you can use it as lube to slide your mouth up and down.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">The volume of saliva and sloppiness - put simply, to reach the 9000 give the sloppiest, wettest and sluttiest blowjob your mouth can conjure up. Let the drool fall from your mouth and pour onto the penis for extra points.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">The double hand twist - using both hands lets him know he is ginormous and will thrill his ego. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Cooper says to do the double hand twist: "Left hands going right, right hands going left, and we are switching that shit up. We’re going on the merry-go-round, motherfuckers. Lefty righty sloppy."</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Kiss and do it well </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Although it may not seem major, kissing can boost chemistry in a relationship. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Use your tongue (but do so with caution). Avoid shoving your tongue in and use it sparingly - especially at first. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Combined with gentle lip movement and varying head angles, you are well on your way to the perfect snog.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Be open </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Being open and honest with your partner can also increase their pleasure by communicating what you both like and do not want to try. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Talking openly about each other's fantasies can really set the mood. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">It allows you to explore things you may not have considered before with your partner. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Written by VavaViolet Magazine's Editor-in-Chief, <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/sophieblackman" target="_blank">Sophie Blackman</a>.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; 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Both ravenous with hunger, sex was the last thing on our minds until the last crumbs were finished.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">I always need a cigarette following a meal, no matter the size, so I headed to our balcony to light one up even though it was forbidden to smoke on the premises. However, nothing that went down on that balcony all holiday was moral of us; thus, I lit up.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">Donning a pretty pink silk kimono-styled-dressing gown I'd brought specially for the trip, I paired on underneath its matching underwear set and felt very good about myself.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">Pulling in a drag from the fag and staring out at the palm trees, as the sun went down and people headed to the restaurants on the strip, I smiled as I took in the memory I knew I'd never want to forget.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: medium;">You will also enjoy reading...</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2022/11/the-best-hook-up-i-ever-had-was-with-my.html" target="_blank">The best hook-up I ever had… was with my best friend's ex-boyfriend</a></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/11/the-best-hook-up-i-ever-had-was-with-my.html" target="_blank">The best hook-up I ever had… was with my first ever Tinder match who dominated me beyond belief</a></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">Interrupted by a hand sliding down my back above the kimono, I turned my head to see my boyfriend at the time giving me the 'look', the one that says, "slide your knickers off now."</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">As commanded, I did and began heading into the apartment before he grabbed my throat and told me to be a "good girl and stay right where you are."</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">I did, of course, turn back to my view over the balcony. With my back to him, as he pressed up against me, whispering what he was about to do to me in my ear as he kissed my neck, I felt my knees go weak from all the excitement rushing to my head.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">Moving his hand down to my naked vagina as my knickers lay on the balcony floor, he used his other free hand to peel off my robe, leaving me in just my bra.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">Placing a single finger in me as I was already soaking wet, like a pro, he unclipped my bra in one go.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">Naked and lost in the thrill, I let him have his way with me on that balcony, and I didn't give a fuck who was watching.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">In fact, a significant factor of the thrill was hoping someone would catch us. But nobody did...</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-color: white; color: #333333; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: medium;">Fancy sharing your best hook-up story anonymously so we can all live vicariously through you? </span></p><p style="background-color: white; color: #333333; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: medium;">Send yours to vavaviolett@outlook.com for the chance to win a sex toy. </span></p><p style="background-color: white; color: #333333; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: medium;">Names and anything that can identify you will be changed.</span></p><p style="background-color: white; color: #333333; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-color: white; color: #333333; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-31264662959665050032023-02-25T20:29:00.002+00:002023-02-25T20:31:16.100+00:00Post-climax hallucinations to crying: Meet the strangest orgasm side effects known to exist <p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPGYAuJfCnfyQy3BshRpe9NM0obHO0Dim5DFEeh7V4itLC3fTK9G9Z-9KHVEdQdy7nFNAlBBkdfz8VR5boNpAgoDxEmnJPn2HOwFnUk_2Z6ewqrcKQX_lZCdQlbRX3w7GL6HzyOkesPDufMFiDNW50Uxn8vkLOA_kvkmYIpWybSv7XtkbyToRMUTJG-g/s5952/Copy%20of%20Copy%20of%20Copy%20of%20VavaViolet%20Mag%20main.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4128" data-original-width="5952" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPGYAuJfCnfyQy3BshRpe9NM0obHO0Dim5DFEeh7V4itLC3fTK9G9Z-9KHVEdQdy7nFNAlBBkdfz8VR5boNpAgoDxEmnJPn2HOwFnUk_2Z6ewqrcKQX_lZCdQlbRX3w7GL6HzyOkesPDufMFiDNW50Uxn8vkLOA_kvkmYIpWybSv7XtkbyToRMUTJG-g/s16000/Copy%20of%20Copy%20of%20Copy%20of%20VavaViolet%20Mag%20main.png" /></a></span></div><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span><p></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Orgasms are arguably the best feeling in the world and have many positive effects. They can help relieve stress, boost moods, and even reduce pain. However, some side effects of them can make for a negative experience. From hallucinations to crying, here are the most uncommon post-climax side effects.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span></span><span></span></span></p><a name='more'></a><span style="font-family: arial;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></span></span><p></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Hallucinations</span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">A </span><a class="editor-rtfLink" href="https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/g19515928/strange-side-effects-of-orgasm/?slide=1" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #4a6ee0; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;" target="_blank"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Turkish study from 2011</span></a><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"> found that of nearly 50 women who admitted to an, "expanded sexual response," 75% noted a feeling of leaving their bodies, and 76% experienced a flying sensation, which is why an orgasm can feel out of this world.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Many women across the internet (Yes, we are talking about Reddit forums) have backed these findings saying they have sensations of flying or out-of-body experiences following an orgasm. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Some said they were entering a, "cartoon world." </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Equally, many said they experienced an overwhelming feeling of déjà vu following the climax.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Sickness</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Although not widely spoken about, "post-orgasm illness syndrome," is a side effect that can affect men following ejaculation. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Many describe it as a temporary flu-like state following sex. However, it can last for up to seven days.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Science says that the body can mistake the proteins in semen for foreign invaders forcing your immune system into a response which makes you feel ill.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><h2 style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Sneezing</span></span></h2><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">An </span><a class="editor-rtfLink" href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2625373/" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #4a6ee0; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;" target="_blank"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">article</span></a><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"> in the Journal of the Royal Society of Medicine found that sneezing in response to an orgasm, "may be much more common than expected." Nonetheless, the study acknowledges it was likely under-reported due to embarrassment. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">The study identified the stimulation of the parasympathetic nervous system (which controls bodily functions when someone is at rest) as the most probable mechanism to explain this and other reported unusual sneeze triggers.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; 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background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Headaches</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Although an old and cliché excuse to get out of doing the deed for some, there are people who experience headaches from orgasms - and it can come on almost instantly. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">It can start as a dull pain in the head or neck that increases with excitement. While it may mean nothing to worry about but sometimes can be a sign of something more sinister. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Many suffer from cluster headaches after orgasm that can last months.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Laughing</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Laughing is heightened following sex and is very common. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Do not be offended if someone is howling uncontrollably during sex. It can be a sign that you have done an outstanding job. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">The release of dopamine and oxytocin following an orgasm can all play with your emotions.</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: x-large;">Crying</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">A good follow-on from the above is again to do with the side effects of increased chemicals in the body. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Crying after an orgasm can also be called PCD (Post-Coital Dysphoria), essentially sadness after sex. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">In a </span><a class="editor-rtfLink" href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4721025/" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #4a6ee0; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;" target="_blank"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">study</span></a><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">, 46% of women said they experienced crying after an orgasm. However, other studies suggest there are no links between tears and PCD. </span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">It probably means your emotions are running high rather than the sex being terrible!</span></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; 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I am firmly a girls girl, so no matter the undeniable connection between us, I would never pursue it, or so I thought... </p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>I was 18 and didn't know what love was; I just knew what I had seen in High School Musical and wanted that.</p><p>As we got older, we all drifted apart. My friend and the guy I was crushing on split up, and we moved on with our lives. I heard he had moved away, and naturally drifting, the best friend and I didn't have much in common. </p><p>She was into partying every weekend, and I was more the adventurous type wanting to go out and see the world. I still, to this day, don't have a bad word to say; we just grew apart.</p><p>I got a friend request from him randomly one day out of the blue, and I felt mixed emotions. Why did he message after all this time, and what did he want?</p><p>I accepted and pinged that first message, "Long time no speak. You missed me?"</p><p>After talking for hours, I remembered so much; it was like we had never stopped. Once we were all caught up, the conversation took a turn. </p><p>He asked, "So, are you single then feel like I owe you a proper date as I was too scared to ask you years ago?"</p><p>"Thought you'd never ask," I replied.</p><p><br /></p><p><b><i>Enjoying this article? Here’s more like it:</i></b></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/11/the-best-hook-up-i-ever-had-was-with-my.html" target="_blank">The best hook-up I ever had… was with my first ever Tinder match, who dominated me beyond belief</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2022/11/12-raunchy-places-to-have-sex-that-will.html" rel="nofollow">12 raunchy places to have sex - that will have you leaving your comfort zones</a></p><p><br /></p><p>We agreed to meet up and go for a drive, grab a coffee, and have lunch. We were both newly single and didn't have anything to lose, and I don't think I ever truly believed that anything would come of it.</p><p>We met up and talked for hours. He made me laugh and was a super cheeky guy. We clicked on so many levels, so I wasn't surprised when he went in for the kiss. I had secretly dreamt of this moment for years, and it was finally happening. We agreed to take things slow to begin with.</p><p>Our first time together was beyond words. Let's say never have I been paid so much attention, and boy did I enjoy it. </p><p>The sex wasn't just a quick thing. It lasted for hours, and it was clear how we had always felt about each other from the passion. It just took a while for us to realise it! </p><p>Before we knew where we were, we ripped each other's clothes at any moment we had alone together. </p><p>It just felt right. His hands wandered over my whole body, and the coldness on my skin made me shiver every time. </p><p>Some places we ended up doing were out of our comfort zone, but I found him far too desirable to deny. </p><p>Who would have known eight years ago that we would still be together today?</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">Sent in anonymously by a VavaViolet Magazine reader. To send in your best hook-up, email vavaviolett@outlook.com or message us on Instagram at <a href="https://www.instagram.com/vavavioletmag/" target="_blank">vavavioletmag</a>. </span></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-60251765278318513692022-11-04T16:24:00.005+00:002022-11-04T16:24:56.127+00:0012 raunchy places to have sex - that will have you leaving your comfort zones<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj-ss2bloVKs98KlsT83ZCTRgG_HBGpY64SRL1iA7-DSOwpnAoTy3S_8lccJgXfUgy3rcPXWSgCq0mbSE1Py7GRKxiJ54_bGtYJZsuA5OhdCDm7nln-tNu96Z2uvppZw8qH9NTOX6lG6q8AF-x0eUIowclg0rxLhdHOvt4HYz9PvHee2nXYGuhG-FehQA/s5952/Copy%20of%20Copy%20of%20Copy%20of%20VavaViolet%20Mag%20main.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4128" data-original-width="5952" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj-ss2bloVKs98KlsT83ZCTRgG_HBGpY64SRL1iA7-DSOwpnAoTy3S_8lccJgXfUgy3rcPXWSgCq0mbSE1Py7GRKxiJ54_bGtYJZsuA5OhdCDm7nln-tNu96Z2uvppZw8qH9NTOX6lG6q8AF-x0eUIowclg0rxLhdHOvt4HYz9PvHee2nXYGuhG-FehQA/s16000/Copy%20of%20Copy%20of%20Copy%20of%20VavaViolet%20Mag%20main.png" /></a></div><p>Whilst sex in the bedroom can be thrilling, coming out of your comfort zone and getting frisky somewhere new leads to an adrenaline rush the bed often can’t deliver. </p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>Here at <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/" target="_blank">VavaViolet Magazine</a>, we have listed 12 places to bring back the spontaneity and keep the spice flowing.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">1.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The Garden</span></p><p>Although sex outside can seem daunting at first, it can be surprisingly sensual; it has many romantic elements, like the scent of flowers or the stars at night. Outdoor activities can be fun; a perfect place to start is on a chair or blanket. Just make sure it is not in full view of the unconsenting neighbours!</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">2.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>On the beach </span></p><p>The thought of sand in all the wrong places may not be your idea of sexual heaven, but the romantic swell of the waves can make you super relaxed. Try to be discreet about this, opting for an adult or private beach.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">3.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The Car </span></p><p>Fumbling around in the backseat of your car at the drive-in movies may be the dream after watching Grease; however, logistically, it isn’t always easy. Pulling over in a quiet spot and getting it on can be very hot and steamy; hop in the back seat for a little extra room to spread out or do it over the car’s bonnet.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">4.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>In front of the window </span></p><p>Again trying not to shock the neighbours, the best time to do this is at night with all the lights out. The thrill of being able to look out, knowing no one can see in, makes you feel like you could get caught, but you won’t. </p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">5.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The Kitchen </span></p><p>Jump up on the kitchen counter and throw aside the cooking. Spicing things up in the kitchen can be fun and spontaneous, and there are also lots of utensils on hand. So park up, enjoy the ride, and sanitise before dinner.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">6.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The Landry Room </span></p><p>If you’re not lucky enough to have a laundry room, the washer or dryer will do just fine. The height of the washing machine makes it perfect for penetration, and the vibrations create a sexy combination. For extra heat, put the washing machine on a hot wash or a fast spin cycle for added vibration.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">7.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The Bathroom </span></p><p>There are endless possibilities in the bathroom; nothing is off-limits, from the counter to the shower. Large mirrors can also allow you to take in the view and critique your performance. But, of course, running water also drowns out loud sounds, so go to town.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">8.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Living Room </span></p><p>Not known for being the sexiest room in the house, the living room can be the most excellent place for Netflix and Chill! So stick on a steamy film and make your move; after your experience, the living room will never be dull again.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">9.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Outside </span></p><p>Although risky, it can also be surprisingly liberating and a perfect way to warm up on a cold winter walk. One thing can lead to another, and you’re headed off the beaten track before you know it!</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">10.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>On a balcony</span></p><p>A perfect transition between sex outside and the comfort of your home. If you have an enclosed space in the room, lay out a few blankets enjoy the fresh air and enjoy the time together. Just make sure it is secluded, so passers-by can’t see.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">11.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The couch</span> </p><p>Comfy and casual, they are ideal for a hook-up. They provide back support and allow for many different movements in the comfort of your home.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">12.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The spare room </span></p><p>Although it may seem like a safe option, there is something about the comfort and relaxation of your home that can make you feel completely at ease. So, why not try something new in the spare room to spice things up? </p><p><br /></p><p>By <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/JessicaMurray" target="_blank">Jessica Murray</a>. </p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-64545355035886955102022-10-31T19:47:00.001+00:002022-11-02T09:55:10.375+00:00Sexual energy makes you a threat, not a disgrace | Editor’s Letter<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4qGh6NSG5DyQOxx63WDnP8i-ph_nfUABSA5uTA6s5F0RREwa_ME7hU7PUhyFJeFLTQd0e-nfu8a531D51Dpi3GEdCIZrXJh81QL0MCkx_dYqrwfi9tREIGEEyyHyfYE2kgAhmFOVhoWvc_a40vl2dx_wMIYynjNCBMYoHqhYGhAvcWUVM04Kf2W3Rmg/s2000/Green%20Food%20Diary%20Photo%20Collage.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1600" data-original-width="2000" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4qGh6NSG5DyQOxx63WDnP8i-ph_nfUABSA5uTA6s5F0RREwa_ME7hU7PUhyFJeFLTQd0e-nfu8a531D51Dpi3GEdCIZrXJh81QL0MCkx_dYqrwfi9tREIGEEyyHyfYE2kgAhmFOVhoWvc_a40vl2dx_wMIYynjNCBMYoHqhYGhAvcWUVM04Kf2W3Rmg/s16000/Green%20Food%20Diary%20Photo%20Collage.png" /></a></div><p></p><p>Slut-shamed and told not to “talk like a man,” it wasn’t until I witnessed Samantha Jones empowering raunchy one-liners on Sex and the City during my acne-riddled teen years that I realised I too could be free in my sexuality and still be a professional. I am entitled to harness the significant power source of sexual energy, and I can use it to motivate me to access pleasure not just during sex but in life itself.</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>Samantha, many other powerful characters and sex and relationship influencers, such as Dami Olonisakin (famously known online as Oloni), and publications such as Cosmopolitan taught me that owning my sexual energy doesn’t make me disgraceful; it makes me a threat. </p><p>It’s a source of energy I’ve tapped into ever since to live a pleasurable life, and it is thanks to every woman and man before me who has been tearing down the patriarchal walls throughout history. </p><p>Here at VavaViolet Magazine, we are excited to relaunch as a platform dedicated to helping empower people’s sexuality, love lives and freedom. We are proud to join the mission many have walked before us as we continue diminishing the patriarchy by ripping its idiocy apart. </p><p>We want our readers to know it is okay to be their sexual selves confidently. We want you to know it is always your choice. We want you to know it’s your life, no one else’s. Whether your sexual energy is tame or wild, there is no shame in living in your authenticity with boundaries intact. </p><p>With VavaViolet Magazine by your side, we will show you what life feels like when you take your power back and teach you why for as long as we can recount in the history books, the patriarchy fears sexual energy the most.</p><p>And it’s one hell of a story.</p><p>One we plan to tell by revisiting The Sexual Revolution this month. </p><p>We also have interviews with Only Fans Stars, sex workers and relationship experts all month to delve into our pleasure. </p><p>As well as bedroom tips, such as the raunchiest places to do the deed. </p><p>There will also be hook-up stories from our readers, how to get complimented on oral sex techniques, and exploring unusual orgasm side effects. </p><p>And so much more!</p><p>Join us this month and every month after to make the most of your pleasure, not just in the bedroom but in life itself. </p><p><br /></p><p>By VavaViolet Magazine’s Founder & Editor, <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/sophieblackman" target="_blank">Sophie Blackman</a>.</p><p><br /></p><p>PS: To send in article requests, drop us your best hook-up story, or want to get in contact, email vavaviolett@outlook.com</p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-60987015447300760732022-05-12T20:00:00.001+01:002022-05-12T20:00:00.192+01:00The unspoken havoc eating disorders play on sex: How to comfort your partner<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilaQbHaehXWTik2agNinAphcCHH5tTpw2EI1e4pIMckRmx9CAeLO9Hn1CbDEOaYIQcbWoubItfWf1A8rTJVqIQCkhc8IPrxYMFtm-lIjLPB2xrquGTYOqoYoeIP5QEaZ0Od2OGED2IuMps9y4W0FywvHAkNoR2c0HNKb2BKJdm2F-OM6W_PS-dOMJX0A/s1778/5d02b18d210000a718f15ebc.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1000" data-original-width="1778" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilaQbHaehXWTik2agNinAphcCHH5tTpw2EI1e4pIMckRmx9CAeLO9Hn1CbDEOaYIQcbWoubItfWf1A8rTJVqIQCkhc8IPrxYMFtm-lIjLPB2xrquGTYOqoYoeIP5QEaZ0Od2OGED2IuMps9y4W0FywvHAkNoR2c0HNKb2BKJdm2F-OM6W_PS-dOMJX0A/s16000/5d02b18d210000a718f15ebc.jpeg" /></a></div><p>Initial intimacy can be hard in any relationship, but this can be even worse for those suffering from eating disorders. Here's how to help make your partner's sexual experience comfortable if they struggle to shut out their mental illness during <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/sex%20and%20relationships" target="_blank">sex</a>.</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>Eating disorders are complex and have several influences. Contrary to popular belief, they are not just caused by thinness as a beauty standard. The combination of eating disorders and anxiety together is prevalent. So it is more than likely someone you will sleep with will have body issues of some kind. These tips can be used for anyone with anxiety in the bedroom. </p><p><b>Warning:</b> This article is not speaking for all with an eating disorder. These are tips, but it is always best to ask the individual about their needs and boundaries as not everyone is the same. Seems obvious; nonetheless, we recommend sending this article to your partner and asking them what would help best. </p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">What does it feel like to have sex with an eating disorder?</span></p><p><br /></p><p>Typically speaking, people with an eating disorder have a heightened negative perception of how others view their bodies due to how they see themselves. </p><p>This means that the walls for an intimate relationship are likely to be firmly up for those struggling with anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, binge eating disorder, avoidant restrictive food intake disorder, other specified feeding and eating disorder, pica and rumination disorder.</p><p>VavaViolet Magazine's Founder and Editor-in-Chief, Sophie Blackman, who has bulimia nervosa, says the mental illness has limited her sex life and confidence in the sack since she was a teen.</p><p>"While I can't count across my hands how many people I've slept with during this provocative period we find ourselves in, I can count on one hand how many have seen me naked and been able to make me feel comfortable enough to orgasm. I'd rather be set alight than turn the lights on with new people. My bulimia makes me hate my body. It taught me to see my body so negatively that a voice manifested suggesting that others think the same as I do. This often ruins sex."</p><p>Sophie continued: "So when the clothes come off, there's the voice. Telling me to put every item back on."</p><p>The 25-year-old Public Relations Expert describes the experience as "distracting" and "mortifying". </p><p>"You think, or at least I and some others I've spoken to on this matter, that the voice in your head is authentic and is what your partner is thinking, but it's not reality, it's not what they're thinking, it's the illness speaking. However, by the point I've realised this during sex, I've already lost interest thanks to overthinking and self-esteem issues. </p><p>"Basically, you can forget an orgasm. I'm too busy being embarrassed because I think the person I'm doing the deed with is not attracted. That and I'm distracted by the mean thoughts about myself.</p><p>"It's like bullying yourself mentally during sex." </p><p>Eating disorders can also reduce libido and cause an individual to avoid sex altogether if it is too much of a trigger.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">How do I help my partner feel more comfortable?</span></p><p><br /></p><p>Remember that reassurance is essential, and affirming their attraction can be helpful. However, don't be disheartened if this doesn't solve the problem. It will likely take time, patience and a lot of kindness. </p><p>Overcoming such disorders can't be done with a quick fix, so continued love and encouragement are steps to changing the narrative in their mind.</p><p>If someone lets you into their world and struggles, be mindful that this isn't about you but about their relationship with themselves and their disorder.</p><p>Another stressful part of eating disorders can come from dates and food-related activities. Culturally so many romantic gestures can be linked to food. The same can also be said for sex, from whip cream to licking up melted chocolate. Speaking about a person's specific needs before making assumptions about food activities is advisable.</p><p>Lastly, an important thing to consider is that opening up can be challenging for anyone with anxiety about their body. Telling someone you have had or have some kind of eating disorder is hard, especially with modern stereotypes. Negative past experiences and the element of self-doubt can all be factors why having a conversation on the topic may be tricky for your partner.</p><p>Nonetheless, they will likely appreciate your support. You can do this by creating a space where the person suffering can talk freely to you about their experiences so you can help them have a more comfortable sexual experience. </p><p>Talking about it builds trust in relationships and brings physical and emotional closeness between many individuals.</p><p>Try to show genuine interest as this can help them to feel safe. You don't always have to have all the answers; just remember that listening and offering support is enough.</p><p>Even with support and therapy, there really is no quick fix to an eating disorder. All you can do for a partner is show as much support as possible and go at a pace that works for you both.</p><p><br /></p><p>By <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/JessicaMurray" target="_blank">Jessica Murray</a> and VavaViolet's Founder & Editor-in-Chief, <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/sophieblackman" target="_blank">Sophie Blackman</a>. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-37994809661259453762022-05-05T20:00:00.002+01:002022-05-30T07:59:38.179+01:008 ways to make sexting and dirty talk riveting instead of awkward<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhk0Z8VmHFy8ek9kblndEjS0hrO7C8LziQeIA9xGfrSIFFXN5PcC2vdhJsqUXW92JqgUTeiVBkXRv7s96TpNMUZGQAVs7OvrFWvqEAIEQOiezoiim3R2SOt1itYhhvLcKZSYdt1WlLInh3WvHotjIeHM5KlOl6R8svaSmXacBZoE566U3x9F7kHCcTd_w/s5952/Copy%20of%20VavaViolet%20Mag%20main.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4128" data-original-width="5952" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhk0Z8VmHFy8ek9kblndEjS0hrO7C8LziQeIA9xGfrSIFFXN5PcC2vdhJsqUXW92JqgUTeiVBkXRv7s96TpNMUZGQAVs7OvrFWvqEAIEQOiezoiim3R2SOt1itYhhvLcKZSYdt1WlLInh3WvHotjIeHM5KlOl6R8svaSmXacBZoE566U3x9F7kHCcTd_w/s16000/Copy%20of%20VavaViolet%20Mag%20main.png" /></a></div><p>Sex talk can be a quick and straightforward way to get you in the mood, even if you've never done it before. </p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>It never has to be complicated. The best kind is simple and straight to the point with clear instructions, but many can freeze at the moment, making it super awkward for everyone involved.</p><p>Here are our top tips to help you become a sexting and dirty talking filth bag!</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Less is more</span></p><p>When talking dirty, it doesn't have to be a full play by play of what is going down. </p><p>Keeping it short and sweet is an excellent way to get your point across. Consider starting simple with "I want" or "I wish" sentences to really open up the communication with each other.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Simple terms</span></p><p>Use terms that you both understand and maybe have discussed before instead of coming in with something really left field. </p><p>Start with things you have done with one another before as a failsafe in communication and what you know your partner will enjoy and want to hear.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Flattery will get you everywhere</span></p><p>Nothing beats a compliment, especially during sex.</p><p>Giving confirmation if something is good or you enjoy what your partner is saying to you is an easy way. </p><p>You can do this by using phrases such as "It feels good when" or "I like/love it when" this gives your partner reassurance that they are doing things right for you.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Be descriptive</span></p><p>When you're feeling more confident, get out the thesaurus and think of exciting ways to describe your partner and different parts of their body. </p><p>It is proven that couples enjoy hearing their partners describe their bodies. </p><p>For example, saying someone is robust, warm or sexy positively impacts them, so scrub up on your adjectives.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Get inspired</span></p><p>It could be a book, a movie or a song. But, if it is narrative and makes you feel a certain way, why not use it. </p><p>Maybe look into song lyrics and see what makes up their favourite song and alter up the lyrics to appeal to the parts of them you love. </p><p>Just go with what flows now but make sure it is not too outrageous if new to it.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><i>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</i></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2022/04/10-things-that-increase-brain-power-sex.html" target="_blank">10 Things that increase brain power - sex being one of them</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2022/03/sex-journals-explained-is-new-kinky.html" target="_blank">Sex journals explained: Is the new kinky trend right for you? And how to do it</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2022/03/how-to-clean-your-sex-toys-without.html" target="_blank">How to clean your sex toys without harming your privates or devices</a></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Eu Natural</span></p><p>Nothing is more awkward than forced conversation or the use of terms that make you shudder. Just remember you don't have to use them. </p><p>If your partner hates the word "moist", don't use it to describe how you will make them feel. </p><p>Just remember being honest and not forcing it are easy ways to make sexting more enjoyable for all involved.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Get comfortable</span></p><p>The more comfortable you are talking about sex daily, the more satisfying your sex life will be. </p><p>It will reduce inhibitions and allow you to be more open with your partner. </p><p>Sex is not something forbidden and can be talked about, so opening up the narrative with a partner can help you discuss what you think about certain things and what you like or dislike.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Have fun</span></p><p>It is supposed to be fun, so if even the thought is filling you with dread, then don't do it. </p><p>You should both enjoy the experience without feeling judged or uncomfortable so try to relax and not second guess yourself.</p><p><br /></p><p>By <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/JessicaMurray" target="_blank">Jessica Murray</a>. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-50795107342333680342022-04-06T18:00:00.002+01:002022-12-05T19:30:46.156+00:0010 Things that increase brain power - sex being one of them<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMa7v7MyqlMXevRjH48-N6m9g7gZSEx34SUHvgyXzdvj_av1JWaOqKTvCfrxJzcCMa_ndrBlkHEQQdbUijjxpjZNaU0VferIEwgsmlq999WiS9UdjfHQdk3wNZ32rH__Xb7ZG80s5NfXLmYsZ82kg4Hdfuc-RkRas3C1StvpWfP9pT-pluzF-zNAqslQ/s5952/VavaViolet%20Mag%20main.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4128" data-original-width="5952" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMa7v7MyqlMXevRjH48-N6m9g7gZSEx34SUHvgyXzdvj_av1JWaOqKTvCfrxJzcCMa_ndrBlkHEQQdbUijjxpjZNaU0VferIEwgsmlq999WiS9UdjfHQdk3wNZ32rH__Xb7ZG80s5NfXLmYsZ82kg4Hdfuc-RkRas3C1StvpWfP9pT-pluzF-zNAqslQ/s16000/VavaViolet%20Mag%20main.png" /></a></div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="text-align: left;">There is no denying that there have been many breakthroughs in science. One of those is that humans have the power to increase their own brain size - and you can do it by having <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/sex%20and%20relationships" target="_blank">sex</a>! </span></div><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>Like strengthing any muscle, helping your brain to improve will make a variety of things we do every day to become more manageable. </p><p>So why isn't everyone doing it? You may already be doing one or two without realising, but if you want to grow your brain, try these 10 easy ways.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Yoga </span></p><p>Combining breathing, holding positions, and the calming meditation element protects the brain's integrity whilst thickening the cerebral cortex. </p><p>Brain scans show that it positively affects the chemistry in your brain and can build areas of grey matter that help you improve and process pain, increase memory, and reduce emotional problems.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Meditation </span></p><p>Similarly to yoga, meditation can also positively improve the brain's structure. </p><p>A breakthrough study in 2011 at Harvard and Massachusetts General Hospital showed that following guided meditation and mindfulness-based stress reduction led to measurable changes. </p><p>An MRI scanner can detect these changes in just eight weeks, and the individual will generally notice improved memory.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Juggling </span></p><p>Many would argue that they are struggling to juggle life, but why not try and improve that by actually juggling. </p><p>The inside of the brain can be seen to bulk up on both grey and white matter by trying this skill. </p><p>White matter bulks up a lot in the brain's parietal lobe, which helps with exceptional awareness and processing of touch.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Power Nap </span></p><p>This is one of the easiest ways to increase the power of the human brain. </p><p>Having a short nap can obviously reduce tiredness, but it can also improve thinking, reasoning, and memory function.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Play an instrument </span></p><p>It may seem like a bit of an effort but a great one for anyone, especially if you start young. </p><p>Long-term musical training results in better processing of sensory information of several senses all at once. The brain changes with musical training and improves cognitive and sensory skills. </p><p>Training before the age of seven is believed to create more white matter, which means the brain infrastructure is more well-connected in adulthood.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</b></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2022/03/sex-journals-explained-is-new-kinky.html" target="_blank">Sex journals explained: Is the new kinky trend right for you? And how to do it</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2022/03/how-to-clean-your-sex-toys-without.html" target="_blank">How to clean your sex toys without harming your privates or devices</a></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Omega-3s </span></p><p>Having Omega 3 fatty acids within the body link to bigger brains. </p><p>A study taken in 2014 showed that those with twice the levels of omega 3in their body had a larger brain volume than those with lower levels. It is thought to improve memory and the body's nutrients.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Sex</span> </p><p>Regularly having sex increases libido and is an easy and natural way to increase neurons. </p><p>Sex creates new neurons and improves the function of existing neurons in the body. Furthermore, it is proven that sex can help preserve long-term memory during high-stress times.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Cardio </span></p><p>In older adults, exercise can increase brain structure and function. Still, the most significant increase comes from cardio and HIIT-type exercises.</p><p>In 2006, a study found that regular exercise increases grey and white matter. </p><p>HIIT workouts burn more fat than traditional workouts and jogging each day results in new neuron growth.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Chewing Gum </span></p><p>A shocking but uncomplicated way to increase brainpower is through chewing gum. </p><p>In 2011 a study showed that if you chew gum for several minutes, you can boost your short-term memory for around 15 – 20 mins.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Intermittent Fasting</span></p><p>Intermittent fasting in women (if done safely and correctly) is known to help clear brain fog and boost overall brain function. </p><p>As well as improving brain function, fasting can make you less insulin resistant, improve immunity, lower diabetes risk, and improve heart health.</p><p><br /></p><p>By <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/JessicaMurray" target="_blank">Jessica Murray</a>. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-32893861946707147602022-03-23T18:00:00.001+00:002022-03-23T18:00:00.197+00:00Sex journals explained: Is the new kinky trend right for you? And how to do it<p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhppN7nhv4a_nEpQOY09q3lA9fwHCISXQb1o-FgvJs_ikKYJ83DzGiVL2H7SjjP3qxJvJEtpAhjUE1mkb0f-OffYuu_qaG9jeKktn1C2Mb1IlxX3kSWNvZP8OfQlVzwTUEzxT7W-l2TOxIbCzI53f1k4j3TKB3VtCH3QYwssQXzdhB67t9z2i0pVWct8g/s5952/Copy%20of%20Copy%20of%20VavaViolet%20Mag%20main.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4128" data-original-width="5952" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhppN7nhv4a_nEpQOY09q3lA9fwHCISXQb1o-FgvJs_ikKYJ83DzGiVL2H7SjjP3qxJvJEtpAhjUE1mkb0f-OffYuu_qaG9jeKktn1C2Mb1IlxX3kSWNvZP8OfQlVzwTUEzxT7W-l2TOxIbCzI53f1k4j3TKB3VtCH3QYwssQXzdhB67t9z2i0pVWct8g/s16000/Copy%20of%20Copy%20of%20VavaViolet%20Mag%20main.png" /></a></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Whether you are someone who writes regularly or someone that hasn't written anything down since your school days, starting a sex journal could do wonders for your sex life! </div><span><a name='more'></a></span><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Many people have decided to put pen to paper and start documenting their encounters, so let's explore if this new trend is right for you, and uncover how to get started.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">What is a sex journal, and what is the point of one?</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">A sex journal should be a way of voicing your thoughts in one place where you have all of the control. The initial idea may be overwhelming, but so many have begun to benefit from this practice, making the curiosity out whey the fear.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Throughout your life, your sexual journey is not a straight line, and it is something that is constantly evolving. Being able to have a record of this is helpful. It can help you see the good, the bad, and the changes you are on within this journey and how they can correspond with different milestones in your life.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">When dealing with self-love, trauma, and just general likes and dislikes, a sex journal can help you flourish, heal and be a safe space to be honest with yourself without needing anyone else's input. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">A sex journal can be an aid to improving your sexual connections. Meaning it can help you communicate your sexual desires and needs with a partner or explore yourself. That honesty will carry over into other areas of your life too! </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><p style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 15.4px; text-align: justify;"><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? 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Many of you probably think this sounds great, but how do I get started? It is as simple as reaching for pen and paper and just writing down how you are feeling! However, here are some questions to consider if you are stuck or struggling to know where to start.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">- What point are you at in your menstrual cycle, and how has this affected you?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">- On a scale, where is your mental health and stress levels placed?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">- Did you use any sex toys, tools or props? Did you like them? Why?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">- How do you feel about yourself?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">- Did anything trigger negatively with you?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">- Were there any emotional blocks that you noticed?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">- Were there any physical blocks you noticed?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">- How present did you feel?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">- Is there anything you are fantasising about?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">- Any curiosities you would like to explore?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">To keep yourself organised, keep this journal separate from any other diary you may keep and make sure that it is something that makes you want to write - get witty and doesn't miss out on the exciting details. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Consistency is key and each time you have some fun (even the self-love kind), remember to write down just a few words about how you are feeling about the experience if nothing else.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Remember that this is a safe place and that no one else will look at this unless you invite them. You have no excuse to not be completely honest with yourself. It is your moment to reflect, and if what you write makes sense to you, that is all that matters. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">The more honest you are, the freer it is, and the more you will reveal about yourself.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">A sex journal is your space to express yourself in any way you want to. You can set the tone, who gets to read it, what you write about and what you don't and how to make it work.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Most importantly, remember to go to town and have fun doing it!</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">By <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/JessicaMurray" target="_blank">Jessica Murray</a>. </div></div><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-68534542066083003422022-03-21T18:00:00.002+00:002022-03-21T18:00:00.198+00:00How to clean your sex toys without harming your privates or devices <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUKpRznrHwX8LnBANTUFjeht9jw902zpF1-hNaEhHeFdb55kDN2ESIZgqf_1g_YSpeuO4B3x8AowIXoJ9t4slony1M73suzTytK6q7Y_nDTRVjGRiqBT0moDYDIStk7IOHP7CuN52I3I-cuM-7jK4-qFRHScgVN3NoOsEZE4Hkq55POUi1aQR0GNE2Yw/s2000/image.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1333" data-original-width="2000" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUKpRznrHwX8LnBANTUFjeht9jw902zpF1-hNaEhHeFdb55kDN2ESIZgqf_1g_YSpeuO4B3x8AowIXoJ9t4slony1M73suzTytK6q7Y_nDTRVjGRiqBT0moDYDIStk7IOHP7CuN52I3I-cuM-7jK4-qFRHScgVN3NoOsEZE4Hkq55POUi1aQR0GNE2Yw/s16000/image.jpeg" /></a></div><p>Cleaning your <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/sex%20and%20relationships" target="_blank">sex</a> toys is just as important as how much you enjoy using them and making sure you do so in a way that doesn't cause damage to you or your device is crucial. </p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>There should be some indication on the packaging of how best to clean each toy, but how often do we read the small print before heading for a thrill or chucking the instructions in the bin?</p><p>So, if that's you and you're now feeling lost, don't worry. Here's how and when you should clean your sex toys. </p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">When and how often should you clean your toys?</span></p><p>It is advisable to clean the toy before and after masturbation. </p><p>After washing toys, make sure they are thoroughly dried as leaving them damp can be a recipe for breading bacteria such as UTIs or yeast infections. </p><p>It is especially important to clean them if you are using them on another person or are switching between anal and vaginal play.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 15.4px; text-align: justify;"><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? 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Sadly yes, here's how you avoid missing out again</a></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">How to clean your toys depending on materials</span></p><p>Several toy cleaners are available on the market, but good old soap and water can work just as well too if you are on a budget. Here are some of the specifics for different types of toys.</p><p>For Stainless Steel, glass, plastic or jelly-like material soap and water is probably the best way to go. When using soap and water, make sure that the soap is not fragranced, antibacterial or contain Triclosan. Triclosan is an irritant and can be linked to a host of health issues. </p><p>Normal soap or one that is mild and unscented is perfect as scents can risk infection!</p><p>For silicone, boiling is a great way to kill bacteria, but make sure it is only for a few minutes. However, for vibrators or toys that have a motor, these should be hand washed but make sure that the charging port of batteries is protected whilst being cleaned. </p><p>If it is not possible to protect these areas, then a wipe can be used.</p><p>For soft skin items like fleshlights or dildos rinsing them can make them feel sticky so buying a non-talc alternative like a refreshing powder can do the job better.</p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-size: x-large;">Where should you store toys after cleaning?</span></p><p>In all aspects of sex, aftercare is important. Storing your toys properly is super important, don't leave them out to collect dust.</p><p>Several products on the market can be used to effectively store your toys. Such as silicone or fabric boxes which means they don't hold moisture. </p><p>You can even use a good fabric reusable bag from home you don't need to buy one but, just make sure you store them properly.</p><p><br /></p><p>By <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/JessicaMurray" target="_blank">Jessica Murray</a>. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-4679681639869901992022-02-06T18:00:00.001+00:002022-02-06T18:00:00.210+00:00 Thoughtful Valentine's gift ideas for someone suffering from a Chronic Illness <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEjMfMYZgmGI2pkRsXnfScCIt-Q4UbW7nW4Z-pwSemlqvGIV2TN9FKGKwCtpGyqpJ74afFKC4526wz2rtOi2CrpXB7V8FK1JYfc65t9Wd6ju30u17zbNIrxaMdebPW0ifSO1lhgyC6CoPdoO0JFDOeSC2QYd4_nWaGvetCkr_FDanuUWdqmF1-04y0Ddkw=s2121" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1414" data-original-width="2121" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEjMfMYZgmGI2pkRsXnfScCIt-Q4UbW7nW4Z-pwSemlqvGIV2TN9FKGKwCtpGyqpJ74afFKC4526wz2rtOi2CrpXB7V8FK1JYfc65t9Wd6ju30u17zbNIrxaMdebPW0ifSO1lhgyC6CoPdoO0JFDOeSC2QYd4_nWaGvetCkr_FDanuUWdqmF1-04y0Ddkw=s16000" /></a></div><p>With Valentine's Day just around the corner for people like me with a chronic illness, for many different reasons, it can't always be the romantic day we lust after. </p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>Even in a relationship, it can be challenging to enjoy a day of celebrating love. A chronic illness doesn't care if you have plans to be wined, dined, and swept off your feet. Sometimes it will just not allow it. </p><p>And for those dating, it can be daunting enough as it is without throwing an illness into the mix. </p><p>So if you don't know how to ask your loved one to adore you this Valentine if you're poorly or you want to support a lover with a chronic illness, here are some ideas for thoughtful but non-traditional gifts to give.</p><p>And remember, it isn't about how much money you spend or the material things. Simply talking to your partner about what they want or need is enough.</p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">Sharing is caring</span></p><p><br /></p><p>One of the best gifts you can give someone who is ill is to help them with what they need or are feeling. </p><p>Balancing your emotions can be difficult at the best of times, but throw pain, sickness and, in my case, shit into the mix, and it's a recipe for disaster. </p><p>We are often too proud to ask for help. We plod through hoping for the best, but someone taking the time to listen and merely support is a simple yet effective gift.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</b></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/11/ask-james-how-do-i-stop-wasting-time-on.html" target="_blank">Ask James: 'How do I stop wasting time on the wrong guys?'</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/11/does-fantasising-about-someone-else.html" target="_blank">Does fantasising about someone else make you a cheat? Let's debate...</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/11/the-best-hook-up-i-ever-had-was-with-my.html" target="_blank">The best hook-up I ever had… was with my first ever Tinder match who dominated me beyond belief</a></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">Do you need any help?</span></p><p><br /></p><p>An act of service can be a great way to help someone with a chronic illness. </p><p>Performing even the most basic of errands can be exhausting as well as challenging. </p><p>A simple question asking what you can do to help will go a long way. </p><p>Sometimes, those who are sick don't want to be a burden. Not having to run that errand and just relax and converse energy means that there is a higher chance we can celebrate later.</p><p>So, offer to run some errands on your lover's behalf this Valentine's Day!</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</b></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/09/i-didnt-realise-my-incurable-illness.html" target="_blank">I didn't realise my incurable illness hurts my loved ones as much as it does me</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/08/my-irritable-bowel-disease-nearly-saw.html" target="_blank">My Irritable Bowel Disease nearly saw me give up on love, here's why you shouldn't</a></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">Spa day</span></p><p><br /></p><p>If you want to splash the cash, you can't go wrong with a spa day. Most people cannot go wrong with self-care, and a little pamper in all the stress is a lovely gesture. </p><p>If you want to go all-out, book a spa day but ensure that they have a relaxing and safe experience (Ie, make sure there are toilets on sight). </p><p>Many people with chronic illnesses, as I am, are incredibly vulnerable going out, so there must be a toilet accessible.</p><p>However, if your loved one doesn't feel comfortable going out, why not take on the role of the masseuse and give them a massage.</p><p>Get yourself some oils and do it from the comfort of your home.</p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">Self-care</span></p><p><br /></p><p>There is so many great meditation and online yoga classes on YouTube that you can do together. </p><p>I find it calming and relaxing, and learning deep breathing techniques can really help with the pain in a future flare. </p><p>For others, a simple face mask, a warm bath or even chocolate and a movie can really be a lovely and cheap way to enjoy your evening without overdoing it.</p><p><br /></p><p>By <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/JessicaMurray" target="_blank">Jessica Murray</a>. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-17503503679592440862022-02-05T18:00:00.013+00:002022-02-05T20:29:27.371+00:0015 Deep questions to get to know your crushes character better<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiIuxCRNHmBCJ4hZb7nabvDgvs84Ik-6jvpGeVTjE1YOEB6wJT9LY15vumO0X8w0wg4ajWign-9fWkQxRdnFWp2HxVmUoBb1gKoZXnAF6F93YO16kt75Kx4J54Mqaio8RHSLUHByv45Jga8wdQzF_JoA1I0FRj4vco_KqD54G1MxKpgqeM9njX0C0kL6g=s2150" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="2150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiIuxCRNHmBCJ4hZb7nabvDgvs84Ik-6jvpGeVTjE1YOEB6wJT9LY15vumO0X8w0wg4ajWign-9fWkQxRdnFWp2HxVmUoBb1gKoZXnAF6F93YO16kt75Kx4J54Mqaio8RHSLUHByv45Jga8wdQzF_JoA1I0FRj4vco_KqD54G1MxKpgqeM9njX0C0kL6g=s16000" /></a></div><p>The curiosity to get to know the person you're smitten by is an incredible thrill. Still, you can't just outright dig for information from your crush. It is all about establishing a connection, as the last thing you want is for it to turn into an interview. </p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>Here at <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/" target="_blank">VavaViolet Magazine</a>, we have come up with the juiciest conversation starters to ask next time you want to get to know their true character. </p><p>Perhaps their answers will have you lusting over them more or will help you realise sooner that they are not the person for you. </p><p>We recommend, although you can do as you please, chucking in a question here and there over time as a quirky and exciting conversation starter. That way, the fun can last, and it won't feel as if you are interrogating them.</p><p>Here are the questions:</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</b></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/11/ask-james-how-do-i-stop-wasting-time-on.html" target="_blank">Ask James: 'How do I stop wasting time on the wrong guys?'</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/11/does-fantasising-about-someone-else.html" target="_blank">Does fantasising about someone else make you a cheat? Let's debate...</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/11/the-best-hook-up-i-ever-had-was-with-my.html" target="_blank">The best hook-up I ever had… was with my first ever Tinder match who dominated me beyond belief</a></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>1. If money was no problem, what is the first thing you would do? - This can indicate how they enjoy spending their free time and what they value.</p><p>2. What is one rule you would break if you could? - This will test their moral compass, and you can then determine if it aligns with yours, which can help in the long run to reduce disagreements.</p><p>3. What is one place you want to visit before you die? - If you love to travel, you will be able to tell if they feel the same and work out what type of holiday they like.</p><p>4. What is something you are looking forward to? - This is a great way to establish how deeply your crush thinks. They may say something like marriage or kids, but they may say their takeaway on Friday. Basically, it is a great way to gauge their seriousness. </p><p>5. What is the worst date you've ever been on? - A great way to suss out any potential red flags and help you know what to avoid for the pair of you. </p><p>6. Who is your celebrity crush? - This is an excellent way to assess their taste in both looks and characteristics they are looking for in a person. It also means you can see if you fit the bill.</p><p>7. What is your biggest turn-off? - A cheeky and subtle way to assess the sexual chemistry and if you are in agreement on this kind of topic. It could get complicated in the long run if you're not.</p><p>8. Do you prefer staying in or going out? - A great way to assess social compatibility. If they are someone that loves to be out five nights a week while you prefer to binge-watch a series at home, it could be trouble in paradise looming.</p><p>9. What is your biggest fear? - Even though they could answer anything in the world, it will give you something to bond over even if you are afraid of different things.</p><p>10. Who are you closest to in your family? - This can help you assess their family values and is a great gateway question to ask lots about their family and memories they have with them.</p><p>11. What is your love language? - An important one as it's wise to love someone in their love language, not yours. It is a great way to learn how your potential partner can be comforted, supported, and appreciated.</p><p>12. What is your favourite thing to do to relax? - Everyone has their own way that they like to spend their downtime to recharge. Asking so is also a superb way to tell if your crush is an introvert or extrovert.</p><p>13. Are you a dog or cat person? - Although this may not appear to be a deal-breaker or very deep, it can be to some. It will also help to open childhood conversations speaking about old family pets.</p><p>14. What is your most embarrassing moment? - This question helps to see if they take themselves too seriously and how much of a laugh they are likely up for.</p><p>15. Why are you single? - This may seem like a profound question to get into and shouldn't be asked with judgement. Still, it can be a gateway to open up about past relationships and mistakes. It can also help you assess what they think of themselves and whether they take responsibility. </p><p><br /></p><p>Written by <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/JessicaMurray" target="_blank">Jessica Murray</a>. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-17107782893353544462021-11-25T18:00:00.001+00:002021-11-25T18:00:00.184+00:00Ask James: 'How do I stop wasting time on the wrong guys?'<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhMD5HFXVNbfdEtFEkoU0ZYNoKON1vXlGT2OGG9HbwZFXwvH3SK3755Zctlz50eEKt1Hn_jwuApTBjaSp_H_3SOkwyZ3gb8Nwa9bOL4qhTf7iLJP7usXnmjEo2k70NKOVRYdGEVPE6OyWsb/s2048/Copy+of+Copy+of+VavaViolet+Mag+main.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1420" data-original-width="2048" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhMD5HFXVNbfdEtFEkoU0ZYNoKON1vXlGT2OGG9HbwZFXwvH3SK3755Zctlz50eEKt1Hn_jwuApTBjaSp_H_3SOkwyZ3gb8Nwa9bOL4qhTf7iLJP7usXnmjEo2k70NKOVRYdGEVPE6OyWsb/s16000/Copy+of+Copy+of+VavaViolet+Mag+main.png" /></a></div><p>Celebrity dating coach, expert and author <a href="https://www.jamespreece.com/" target="_blank">James Preece</a> (and our very own agony uncle) are answering how we can stop wasting time on the wrong dates in his column this month. </p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>The dating coach is highly established in the industry with 16 years of experience working for over 50 dating companies.</p><p>Unlike many dating coaches, James caters for both men and women. Hence, everyone is welcome to send their dilemmas to VavaViolet Magazine - this was very important to us. Thus, there was no better fit than James. </p><p>The author also has 14 best selling dating books for sale on Amazon.</p><p>He has countless success stories via his coaching, and his single events are the best in the country for meeting like-minded souls. </p><p>For November's dilemma, James was approached by Seema* (identities will always be kept anonymous). She asked how to stop wasting time on the wrong guys.</p><p>Here's Seema's story:</p><p><br /></p><p>Dear James, </p><p>I'm starting to think I've got a problem as I keep making terrible dating choices and end up wasting time with the wrong guys! </p><p>What can I do to change this?</p><p>Thanks,</p><p>Seema</p><p><br /></p><p><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</b></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/10/new-column-ask-james-meet-vavaviolets.html" target="_blank">NEW COLUMN! Ask James: Meet VavaViolet's phenomenal new dating agony uncle</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/10/is-right-person-wrong-time-really-thing.html" target="_blank">Is the right person wrong time really a thing? Sadly yes, here's how you avoid missing out again</a></p><p><br /></p><p>James advised,</p><p><br /></p><p>Hi Seema,</p><p>Thank you very much for the question. </p><p>I'd suggest that you get clear about the type of guy you want to be within your life. </p><p>Don't just think about how they look, but also about their personality. Do you want someone kind, family-minded and hard working for example? </p><p>If something is important to you, then write it down. </p><p>Then consider what your values, interests and life goals are. For example, do you like to keep active or perhaps have children in a few years? </p><p>If they aren't aligned with the men you are dating; then it's doomed before it even begins.</p><p>We often don't believe anyone will want to date us, so we set low standards. So, I'd like you to have a good think about what you have to offer someone. </p><p>It's only by understanding your strengths that you'll stop putting other people on pedestals. </p><p>You deserve to be happy, and this means you aren't allowed to settle. </p><p>Yes, a little compromise is necessary as nobody is perfect. However, you can't enter a relationship hoping or expecting that they will change. I can guarantee that they won't.</p><p>If you keep on letting the wrong men into your life, then there won't be any room for a good one. </p><p>It's better to hold out and be single a little longer so you can find them.</p><p>I hope that helps!</p><p>James</p><p><br /></p><p>By Celebrity Dating Coach & Relationship Expert <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/10/new-column-ask-james-meet-vavaviolets.html" target="_blank">James Preece</a>.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><b><span style="font-size: medium;">From not being able to score a date to an array of issues in your love life, James is here to solve it all for you. </span></b></p><p><b><span style="font-size: medium;">All you have to do is email your dilemma to vavaviolett@outlook.com for some free advice from a professional. </span></b></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-7931028493265955092021-11-17T18:00:00.001+00:002021-11-17T18:00:00.181+00:00Does fantasising about someone else make you a cheat? Let's debate...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgOX_Jwd6bL7fNbtINaLZYFTMGBUBldUY7U9QmL6u_QCqik7Ulcb9Xr2bjb9_hTxvE3WAam3GPWPzOquj2rQIy3VZyCk7KirBLqE0ITrEpbT5vERHC47_QY0tV_pSoAf5Fhg85KTqJVbxdp/s2048/IMG_0950+copy.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1334" data-original-width="2048" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgOX_Jwd6bL7fNbtINaLZYFTMGBUBldUY7U9QmL6u_QCqik7Ulcb9Xr2bjb9_hTxvE3WAam3GPWPzOquj2rQIy3VZyCk7KirBLqE0ITrEpbT5vERHC47_QY0tV_pSoAf5Fhg85KTqJVbxdp/s16000/IMG_0950+copy.JPG" /></a></div><p>Many believe fantasising about another person when in a committed <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/sex%20and%20relationships" target="_blank">relationship</a> is complete betrayal and, in many ways, a form of cheating. But is a wandering mind guilty of adultery?</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>Although fantasy is no more than a daydream, it causes much controversy. So why do these thoughts cause so much distress for couples?</p><p>Fantasies are prevalent and come in all shapes and sizes but fantasising about someone else is in the top 10 list of dreams amongst Brits. </p><p>So, if it's so common, should you tell your partner about it? Yes and no.</p><p>Sometimes this can backfire, and partners can find it hard to draw the line between reality and fantasy. They can't fathom those fantasies aren't always what we'd like to do but just a fleeting thought we have.</p><p>If you're getting down to it thinking about your favourite celeb occasionally, there is no harm in it, right? However, how would you feel if your partner was thinking about one of your friends or a co-worker whilst getting down and dirty!</p><p>The closer the person to you, the higher the chance of the fantasy becoming a reality, and this can be all too much to bear and can feel like a dagger to the heart for your partner. </p><p>Before you know where you are, you've been accused of having an affair, all from a probably fleeting thought. </p><p>For others, just the thought of their partner, thinking about someone else enhances their sexual pleasure.</p><p>As much as we would all like to believe that we only have eyes for our partner and vice versa, science disagrees. </p><p>After the honeymoon phase, the novelty of being so in love wears off and reality kicks in. </p><p>Not everyone has time to balance a healthy sex life with the trials and tribulations that come with living daily. </p><p>Many people feel awful to say that someone else is attractive, but it is part of human nature and biology. So there is no need to feel bad.</p><p>The difference is that a fantasy is just that, but if it becomes more than that to the point you are considering acting on it, you need to look at what this means for you. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</b></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/11/the-best-hook-up-i-ever-had-was-with-my.html" target="_blank">The best hook-up I ever had… was with my first ever Tinder match who dominated me beyond belief</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/11/let-successful-strong-women-date-who.html" target="_blank">Let successful & strong women date who they want without judgement | Editor's Letter</a></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>Having thoughts about someone else can cause a lot of jealousy and ultimate guilt in others, which is a cultural thing. </p><p>We have been programmed to think that once we are in love, that is where the story ends. </p><p>What no one talks about is that it is healthy to experience different feelings. </p><p>It is part of the process of accepting them and then letting go. This can be a positive mentality to adapt throughout life, not just over sexual fantasies.</p><p>By suppressing a feeling, you are giving it the power to control and dictate your behaviours for you instead of thinking for yourself. </p><p>In many cases, those that continue to suppress urges often succumb to them. </p><p>It is like being on a diet and telling yourself you can only eat a salad eventually; you'll cave and eat a cake but then regret it seconds later.</p><p>Looking, speaking to, or thinking about someone you find attractive is an enjoyable experience. </p><p>If you meet someone and enjoy their company, it doesn't have to mean you are in love with them. </p><p>Brad Pitt could walk into a room, and you can accept that he is good looking. However, it doesn't mean you're going to end your marriage just because you are in his company.</p><p>Remember, whether we speak about it, everyone has fantasies, and most people bring theirs to the bedroom. </p><p>It is impossible to control our thoughts all the time, and there will always be people in the world that we find attractive. </p><p>Fantasising is a sign of a happy and healthy sex drive and can keep your sex life alive and vibrant.</p><p>Our advice, be open and honest with your partner and never say never. </p><p>If a thought like this comes into your mind, embrace it rather than wasting your energy beating yourself up about it. </p><p>Be reasonable, respectful, and realistic and talk to your partner.</p><p>You never know; it may just spice things up...</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>By <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/JessicaMurray" target="_blank">Jessica Murray</a>.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-4026382349567259332021-11-08T17:00:00.001+00:002022-10-12T14:58:16.369+01:00The best hook-up I ever had… was with my first ever Tinder match who dominated me beyond belief<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnU8u8pnWW0R9SMvCBqlI_2xJivDvhEtk1Wi58XImae6aNvzS8gvtTY5gzgMwKGIBIFygSGxn40_PFKDCrkjyQCE7ZFqD0WBILtlmjemqfdla5PI40sg8ufHnyDXdq1khCKND7zmAkuljtZyDjb0utu8cjofBB_GKVknMPkHf8Lsf_Pe8USfNif3Q3kg/s5952/VavaViolet%20Mag%20main.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4128" data-original-width="5952" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnU8u8pnWW0R9SMvCBqlI_2xJivDvhEtk1Wi58XImae6aNvzS8gvtTY5gzgMwKGIBIFygSGxn40_PFKDCrkjyQCE7ZFqD0WBILtlmjemqfdla5PI40sg8ufHnyDXdq1khCKND7zmAkuljtZyDjb0utu8cjofBB_GKVknMPkHf8Lsf_Pe8USfNif3Q3kg/s16000/VavaViolet%20Mag%20main.png" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><p>After we had both swiped right, little did I know that my sex life was about to change forever and leave me with a thrill I'd never forget.</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>I had never been on a dating app and never really understood the appeal.</p><p>Being a bigger girl dating apps were not on my agenda. I didn't fancy putting up my best pictures for the person I matched with to only be bitterly disappointed when they saw me without a filter. </p><p>I very much appeared a prude to many, but there was a much darker side to me that I was not willing to share until I met him.</p><p>It all began when I started university. I had never been on a night out. I had a boyfriend at home that I had been with for two years. I knew that he would not be best pleased with me venturing out on the town with people I had just met, especially boys. </p><p>Still, on my second week of Uni, as I sat down to Skype with him, missing home like crazy, there was a knock at the door. </p><p>"We are going out, no excuses, get ready!", this was Loz* my new neighbour and fellow taken housemate. </p><p>She had a boyfriend, too, which made me feel much safer about going out because although stunningly pretty, I knew that she was very much in love and wasn't the cheating type. </p><p>Due to Loz's* good looks, drinks were flowing all night basically for free and being her friend, cigarette dealer, and general bodyguard meant that I got a free night out too. </p><p>After a fantastic night of dancing, chatting and way too many shots of tequila, we headed home.</p><p>I woke up the following day. My head was pounding. "I am never drinking again", I said to myself as I rolled over in bed. </p><p>As I picked up my phone, I was greeted with over 100 text notifications from my boyfriend, who was bitter and mean. </p><p>I had had such a good night, and he had just ruined it by being so nasty. I knew this couldn't go on, so I ended it… I went and sat in our communal kitchen, head pounding in my PJ's and sobbed. </p><p>Honestly, I loved him so much, but I wasn't willing to put either of us through the long-distance thing. It was time to focus on myself.</p><p>Sobbing as if my life was over, I must have been louder than I thought, and Loz came in… looking rather upset herself. </p><p>"Not you too," I gasped. </p><p>She slumped down on the sofa next to me and, as she welled up, said, "Fuck boys, we need men!".</p><p>From this point on, we hit the gym… hard. Tried to reduce our takeaway intake but being a student, the free Cheeseburger with a meal was far too appealing. Still, we were happy, free and single, and we got each other through it. </p><p>One night, Loz* was sitting scrolling on her phone, giggling to herself, "what are you up to?" I asked. </p><p>"Tinder", she replied, "You've got to download it. Some of these chat-up lines are hilarious."</p><p>Reluctant at first, I thought, what have I got to lose? I never have to meet these guys, or it might push me out of my comfort zone. So, I started scrolling. </p><p>Loz* and I would exchange funny bios that we had heard and laugh when we matched the same people. </p><p>She would take my phone and swipe for me, and I would do the same for her. It was all lighthearted fun, and no one had ever really messaged me back and then ping….</p><p>"Hey, how are you?" </p><p>That's how it began with him.</p><p>He was not my type, and by that, I mean he was so painfully out of my league that I thought this must have been a joke by some of his friends.</p><p>One day Loz* announced that she was leaving Uni, and I was gutted. </p><p>We had gone through so much together, but in time I got a lovely new housemate. She was quiet and somewhat judgmental (especially of sex), but I didn't mind as I had him to keep me company.</p><p>Months passed of chatting, and we knew so much about each other, but it was so refreshing that sex had never really come about or been spoken about.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><b>Enjoying this article and want to read more like it? Check out:</b> </p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/09/from-to-z-list-of-kinks-and-fetishes.html" target="_blank">From A to Z, A list of kinks and fetishes you may not have heard of</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/07/5-creative-ways-to-make-your-sex-life.html" target="_blank">5 creative ways to make your sex life come alive - and they won't cost you a penny</a></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>It was hinted at for sure, and the conversation was extraordinarily flirtatious but nothing seedy. </p><p>By six years, he was older than me, which was a big gap, but it felt like nothing to us.</p><p>"Fancy meeting up?" he asked one night out of the blue at 10pm.</p><p>"What now!" I replied instantly. How could I not?</p><p>"Yeah, why not be spontaneous, and I'll make it worth the trip," the charm did it for my much younger self. </p><p>All my rational nature went out of the window. "Sure, I am on my way."</p><p>The hour trip to pick him up from his felt like it took two days, and as I pulled up to his house, my nerves had well and truly kicked in. </p><p>I was physically shaking and felt sick. </p><p>As he came to the door, I finally could appreciate that he was very tall, muscly and his blue eyes smiled at me. I just knew I needed him in every way possible. </p><p>The drive back to mine felt like it flew, and we sang duets in the car and just acted like childish fools. As soon as the keys went into my front door, however, things suddenly became very adult!</p><p>My heart was beating hard as he pushed up against me in the hallway. </p><p>I had avoided eye contact for the most part of the journey. Still, I knew from his photos that he was devilishly handsome. </p><p>When I finally caught his eye line, after he slapped my arse… hard, before I knew it, we were kissing.</p><p>The living room curtains were wide open, and although it was dark out, anyone could have been watching. I reached to pull the curtains as he pulled me back and almost growled at me. </p><p>Anything he asked of me, I obeyed without question. </p><p>He grabbed me by the throat and pulled my hair. It was like nothing I had experienced before. The new and overwhelming desire to please engulfed me, and at that point, I would have done anything he asked me to. </p><p>He took me upstairs, and before we knew it, things were progressing more and more rapidly. </p><p>I didn't realise how loud I was being, but I couldn't help myself. Every part of my body was shaking, begging, and pleading with him not to stop. </p><p>He bent me over the bed and entered without any hesitation, which felt like a shock. He was the first person I had ever been with who treated me this way, and to many, it may have seemed overwhelming, but it was the most incredible rush to me. </p><p>As we both climaxed, it was almost surreal to me as in the two years with my previous partner, I had never had that feeling ever. </p><p>After it was over, I went and had a shower, and when I came back in, he had laid out my PJ's, put on a movie and put his arm out to hug me. </p><p>It went back to how it had been in the car, a fleeting moment of intensity followed by the aftercare that I never knew I needed. </p><p>My housemate, who wasn't supposed to be home that night but was, said she had prayed for me after what she had heard. I didn't even know she was home. </p><p>All I know is in the year that followed, she could not look me in the eye again, and if I told her he was coming over, she never seemed to go home.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>Names have been changed throughout this article. </p><p>Fancy sharing your best hook-up story anonymously so we can all live vicariously through you? Please do! </p><p>Send yours to vavaviolett@outlook.com. </p><p>Names and anything that can identify you will be changed.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-79331815584737513822021-11-05T17:30:00.004+00:002022-11-28T16:28:32.684+00:00Therapist Sally Baker's tips: How to strengthen your intuition to spot red flags while dating<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDOfFt2lrKr3bCnKliZ9oIBqUEMuHxLjxR6vTVs2su1JOTcT8HWtrWontrGkjHjZPbj1414TFdd0SOwATDkMGB47eigI2prcl6DEp7NmsbVRYfwsImFR_NcqvkbzOxH3bzL-tv7L1VubYQB5oKcW8e0OJK0FcTIk5HUg_TP1Y-Aj9WwgiWmB45nZHUKg/s5952/1.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4128" data-original-width="5952" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDOfFt2lrKr3bCnKliZ9oIBqUEMuHxLjxR6vTVs2su1JOTcT8HWtrWontrGkjHjZPbj1414TFdd0SOwATDkMGB47eigI2prcl6DEp7NmsbVRYfwsImFR_NcqvkbzOxH3bzL-tv7L1VubYQB5oKcW8e0OJK0FcTIk5HUg_TP1Y-Aj9WwgiWmB45nZHUKg/s16000/1.png" /></a></div><p>When thinking about dating red flags, there are plenty of lists available online. However, many of the behaviours that become abusive behaviour begin incrementally or can initially be subtly or hard to identify.</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>It is helpful when dating to have a balanced approach to meeting new people. Ideally, you should suspend being too critical or writing people off before you have had a chance to get to know them. After all, dating is about being open-minded and embracing the possibility of meeting new people who may well have different outlooks, opinions or attitudes from you. </p><p>Being able to decide whether someone feels out of kilter to you because you are new to each other is different from realising someone's behaviour or opinions will never fit with yours. </p><p>Making the right decision about someone you've just met can save you a lot of energy, time and wasted emotional investment.</p><p>So, how can you do that? The best tool you already have for spotting red dating flags is your intuition. That's when you get a hunch or an inkling about something. It is when your gut reaction lets you know whether something is right or wrong for you.</p><p>When you have a healthy, intuitive solid response, you get a strong hunch. Then, you can act accordingly because, ideally, you listen to and trust your intuition. </p><p>Without a strong sense of your own intuition, you can feel confused about the decisions you make. It also makes it easy to miss early warning signs that someone isn't for you.</p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><b>How strong is your intuition? Let's find out together, shall we?</b></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p>As I said, your gut reaction is your natural response created to look out for your best interests. It's the hunch you feel if something is correct or not for you. So take a moment to consider if you think you have a strong sense of intuition. </p><p>Just take a guess off the top of your head. Then, score the strength of your hunches with zero, meaning you don't feel you have any sense of intuition and a score of ten signifies a high functioning, strong and trusted sense of intuition. </p><p>Rate yourself now. Write down the numbers (1 to 10) and circle the number you feel relates to you. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</b></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/11/change-of-seasons-how-to-accept-journey.html" target="_blank">Change of Seasons: How to accept the journey rather than resist it | By Life Coach Jadie White</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/11/let-successful-strong-women-date-who.html" target="_blank">Let successful & strong women date who they want without judgement | Editor's Letter</a></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-size: medium;">Strengthening your intuition, here's how...</span></b></p><p style="text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span></b></p><p>The idea is, of course, a score often, but if you marked your intuition lower than that, be assured that you can strengthen your gut reaction with simple, actionable steps. </p><p>You can literally start to do this protocol today to make a difference in how you feel about yourself.</p><p>This protocol helps you grow your intuition, which can lead to you discovering powerful insights and a-ha moments as you shift from having a barely functioning intuition to listening and trusting your own hunches or gut reactions.</p><p>When you meet someone who isn't a good fit, a person with a well-developed intuition would usually experience a gut reaction. It can feel like that queasy feeling in your stomach when you are anxious about something or when you are experiencing uncertainty, for instance.</p><p>This physical manifestation is part of the human acute stress response or fight-or-flight reaction within the body's sympathetic nervous system in response to a perceived harmful event or even a threat to survival. </p><p>However, suppose your hunches have often been ignored or overridden in the past. In that case, your intuition can be turned down or muffled to the point it can become muted entirely. This happens when you push yourself to do things that don't serve you. The uncomfortable feeling you are overriding is a part of your body's early warning mechanisms. </p><p>Sometimes people who don't trust their intrinsic value use drugs, alcohol or comfort eating to muffle their intuitive responses. Another way your intuition can be overridden is when the intuitive part of you knows you're exhausted. Still, you ignore that feeling and push yourself through by fuelling yourself with stimulants like caffeine, sugar or illegal drugs.</p><p>I believe everyone can have or develop a healthy, dynamic, responsive intuition. </p><p>Spending just a little time each day makes it possible to increase one's intuitive powers, which can positively affect mental and physical health, relationships, finance, and many other aspects of your personal happiness and success. </p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-size: medium;">Try this to increase your intuition</span></b></p><p style="text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span></b></p><p>The ritual of writing Morning Pages comes from the book The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron. This book was originally written for artists who were undergoing a creative crisis. </p><p>Over twenty-five years old, Julia's classic book and its processes have helped many people from all walks of life to newly discover their inner dialogue or get back onto their creative path and live their life more authentically.</p><p>Morning Pages asks that you fill three pages of paper with words. Write whatever comes into your mind, and don't stop until you've filled the requisite pages. Most importantly, these are your words, just for you and not for sharing. </p><p>The other guideline Julia offers is that you don't read back through them yourself for several weeks so that you don't allow your ego an opportunity to be its judgmental, pessimistic self.</p><p>Some days writing your pages will feel banal, and the whole act feels like drudgery, while other days your Morning Pages will be filled with insights and a-ha moments. </p><p>Stick at it for at least a month, and you'll find it becomes a valued and addictive part of your process of getting to know yourself and your intuition. </p><p><br /></p><p>By Senior Therapist & VavaViolet Columnist, Sally Baker.</p><p><a href="http://www.workingonthebody.com">www.workingonthebody.com</a></p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-size: large;">For an exclusive 10% off Sally's services, use code 'VavaVioletMag' to save some ££!</span></b></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-4927102039393360772021-10-31T19:30:00.003+00:002021-10-31T19:33:51.680+00:005 Halloween-themed sex positions to try: New tricks to treats that will thrill<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsleqqTcPnW8NdpLzb4-UVUE3yfxaXZWtdlg8sdRD5OALLPiSgIdAGPXAgQgFGjzdRwRNzCTP2NcjKMPWC495twHvMvJDVn3lZbQJ0DX47NjsUYWN-EPPQWoKaYym4MMMSC32fAmakOxMo/s1000/B1IHqraIcAArd_t.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="1000" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsleqqTcPnW8NdpLzb4-UVUE3yfxaXZWtdlg8sdRD5OALLPiSgIdAGPXAgQgFGjzdRwRNzCTP2NcjKMPWC495twHvMvJDVn3lZbQJ0DX47NjsUYWN-EPPQWoKaYym4MMMSC32fAmakOxMo/s16000/B1IHqraIcAArd_t.jpeg" /></a></div><p>Whether you want to try a new trick or just give your partner a treat, <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/10/everything-you-need-to-know-about.html" target="_blank">Halloween</a> is the perfect time to try something new. </p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>From the thrills that give you shivers to the ones that make your lust burn like the gates of hell, we have got you covered. </p><p>So, grab hold of the broomstick, put your hand in the cauldron and just let all your inhibitions float away with these positions.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHPh3kUklUCO3b026zl2JDS728xXW335mFhuD10OPSDN9MhuJYlylbW-VRQtR8LHqzKZObw8JhT_q3p_BaNFyhrhq1U9kERwwx6-7ZjI47P0O1pSgYraT_IyMO1fU9Gzvd8AUR3RaiOU3r/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHPh3kUklUCO3b026zl2JDS728xXW335mFhuD10OPSDN9MhuJYlylbW-VRQtR8LHqzKZObw8JhT_q3p_BaNFyhrhq1U9kERwwx6-7ZjI47P0O1pSgYraT_IyMO1fU9Gzvd8AUR3RaiOU3r/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>This position is perfect for awkward hookups and for the more self-conscious among us. </p><p>Maybe the focus was on ripping each other's costumes off, or you just feel a lack of confidence when the costume mask comes off. </p><p>This position means there is no need to make eye contact or even look the person in the face. Instead, you just have to ride until your heart's content. </p><p>How to do it: Have your partner lay on their back and then straddle over them, ensuring that you face their feet. </p><p>This gives you the prime position to control the tempo and speed just the way you like it. </p><p>For added pleasure, circle your hips whilst in this position to add more stimulation.</p><p>After the ghostly vibe? Put an eye mask or something over your partner's eyes to cover them. Then their imagination can go wild. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg8mq7KP6pGCqCvul4o5yVQft9XM3p9XByf8b5bv1wdtdDd2PVLwRbd-VRSGbKWQIbwvAsryieeQIk3azluI9mn08mglww8G6QZAToRAPJXRwvyIQft6PF8hHUich3m1KPiq7VOVab32FEe/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg8mq7KP6pGCqCvul4o5yVQft9XM3p9XByf8b5bv1wdtdDd2PVLwRbd-VRSGbKWQIbwvAsryieeQIk3azluI9mn08mglww8G6QZAToRAPJXRwvyIQft6PF8hHUich3m1KPiq7VOVab32FEe/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>This is perfect for those who are eager for a quickie but may be tired or intoxicated. </p><p>The Lazy Witch is more of a grinding situation than a thrust which may be better if you're feeling slightly nauseous from all the Halloween treats. </p><p>It is perfect for skin-to-skin complete body contact.</p><p>How to do it: Both of you lay on your side facing the same way. </p><p>Bring your knees up slightly to make it easier for your partner to slide up and enter you from behind. </p><p>A top tip for this position is to make sure your pelvises are aligned rather than your heads, as the height difference can make this one difficult. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</b></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/10/69-freaky-tricks-or-treats-to-give-your.html" target="_blank">69 freaky trick or treats to give your sex life a thrill this Halloween</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/10/dating-in-spooky-season-halloween-pick.html" target="_blank">Dating in spooky season: Halloween pick-up lines to whip out of your witches hat</a></p><p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsGQPOQyfGXkhEBkmYuk9dSGy_EYr0CsuZEptYXK0Rn7iB80g8vBH1dhRbO2npWGmFNrV1WNw6D0PegGdclr2BsHJobOdrc65xWsDuf2YjmRu1YYDzmvdJ9uSOmsgNGYo-iDAyeDnzrwjV/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsGQPOQyfGXkhEBkmYuk9dSGy_EYr0CsuZEptYXK0Rn7iB80g8vBH1dhRbO2npWGmFNrV1WNw6D0PegGdclr2BsHJobOdrc65xWsDuf2YjmRu1YYDzmvdJ9uSOmsgNGYo-iDAyeDnzrwjV/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>This position ensures that your partner hits the spot and is sure to cause some Halloween Howls! </p><p>It is perfect for deep penetration and a lovely stretch. </p><p>A more submissive position as your partner really has to take the lead and the control, allowing you to relax and enjoy the experience – although we do recommend stretching before! </p><p>How to do it: Lay on your back and have your partner raise your legs in the air. Then get them to use your hips to roll up onto the top of your back like a shoulder stand. </p><p>Your partner can then aim down, getting a deep angle right at the g-spot. </p><p>For an extra tingle, why not use restraints or handcuffs to heighten the experience.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEglEZT6nkKcEHO8cXpFTb8CE36QIg_QIQaY2SyUMh8VcpxqIhdODvKqjeCLRM51tmhRAFGkbq23ttIo5uABsNXpQxlXdcepEP24Op3m6tmu9AjKKI7vZPFJLabcfi3EpkWiV4piR3T49m-Z/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEglEZT6nkKcEHO8cXpFTb8CE36QIg_QIQaY2SyUMh8VcpxqIhdODvKqjeCLRM51tmhRAFGkbq23ttIo5uABsNXpQxlXdcepEP24Op3m6tmu9AjKKI7vZPFJLabcfi3EpkWiV4piR3T49m-Z/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>Let's not forget it is Halloween, people, so if spooky screams can be heard coming from the bedroom, who cares! </p><p>Lift your legs as high as you can, creating a V and watch an incredible story unfold. </p><p>From oral to intercourse, this position is perfect for deep penetration and pleasure. </p><p>You can get the bed rattling with this one, and it gives the freedom for some seriously intense thrusting.</p><p>How to do it: Get into basic missionary positions and raise your legs up and out in the shape of a V. </p><p>Your partner can then come between your legs and have their wicked way with you. Hold onto your ankles for added stability, and the stretch can quickly boost the sensation.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEib7ZbOG-W6K5G6eTFRF_DijYYwd6vdE3LBA_hoXi2ZUb3FtMspcKKWyJjTlXaBJWFl1JxsCn8BFVWX867tD5tDq7ByqB5u9NaVJ60Jo5WJfYCgNV2ZPSIuGv-gbmPxqeeipIBhMXyUk5Vm/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEib7ZbOG-W6K5G6eTFRF_DijYYwd6vdE3LBA_hoXi2ZUb3FtMspcKKWyJjTlXaBJWFl1JxsCn8BFVWX867tD5tDq7ByqB5u9NaVJ60Jo5WJfYCgNV2ZPSIuGv-gbmPxqeeipIBhMXyUk5Vm/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>There is a reason why doggy is one of the most popular sex positions. Its deep penetration is twinned with an element of control. Thus, it is a sexual basic that gives optimum pleasure. </p><p>The Howler is a spin-off of this and aims to get you screaming louder than you ever have before.</p><p>How to do it: For the deepest of penetration, sit on your partners lap facing away from them with your hands in front of you for added support. </p><p>If they push up as you push down, and the thrusts are in time, you will be howling to the moon.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>By <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/JessicaMurray" target="_blank">Jessica Murray</a>. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-58682111368958310092021-10-28T21:14:00.002+01:002021-10-28T22:07:16.455+01:0069 freaky trick or treats to give your sex life a thrill this Halloween<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixBcoMyauhXcFvMPOxKQBWrKh3c1260_Yf7BtxT4rrk1bm4EJvmc3c-CiydS8p0FG8dABToIiDNU9Ap2gusrbTzBYdDHYYzm-Uu1lzi57VLNTmKZ3reZsQ3IN4cvtztEJVgQiodfY6hA4q/s1200/halloween-sex-toys-1632173296.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="603" data-original-width="1200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixBcoMyauhXcFvMPOxKQBWrKh3c1260_Yf7BtxT4rrk1bm4EJvmc3c-CiydS8p0FG8dABToIiDNU9Ap2gusrbTzBYdDHYYzm-Uu1lzi57VLNTmKZ3reZsQ3IN4cvtztEJVgQiodfY6hA4q/s16000/halloween-sex-toys-1632173296.png" /></a></div><p>With Halloween just around the corner, there are so many ways to spice up your sex life with a variety of tricks or treats. Here are 69 ways to get your freak on this weekend...</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>Whether you want to Conjure up your inner Demon, mask up like Mike Myers or just give yourself a whole new kind of Goosebumps. Here are some of our top tips to spice up your sex life this Halloween!</p><p>Of course, all these acts must require consent from all participating. Yes is yes, and no is no. </p><p><br /></p><p>1.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Ghoulish Vibrations </p><p>Have you and your partner ever used a cock ring before? Then, why not experiment with this Halloween favourite. </p><p>The ghost-themed design is easily cleanable, discreet, and perfect for the season. </p><p>At only £9.99 from Love Honey UK, it makes it an absolute steal! (Halloween Gentle Ghost Vibrating Cock Ring - Lovehoney UK)</p><p><br /></p><p>2.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Sweet Treats </p><p>With all of that leftover chocolate and candy, why not experiment with food play. </p><p>Melt down some chocolate and let the fun begin.</p><p><br /></p><p>3.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Cute Costumes </p><p>Who said costumes can only be worn on Halloween? So why not discuss your partner's fantasies and invest in a costume to spice things up. </p><p>Although it has a cost, this can be used all year round… so go work that naughty nurse costume.</p><p><br /></p><p>4.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Try something new </p><p>Every day should be an excuse to be adventurous, so why not explore something new this Halloween.</p><p><br /></p><p>5.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Full moon </p><p>A full moon often unleashes the crazy side of life, so why not participate in some full moon rituals as it approaches. </p><p>Take in the view by maybe trying sex under the stars, or if it's a bit cold, a car romp won't go a miss. </p><p><br /></p><p>6.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>BDSM </p><p>Why not explore the darker side of fetishes in this spooky season. </p><p>You don't have to be Christian Grey to pull it off. Try experimenting by wearing a little bit of latex or some bondage tape.</p><p><br /></p><p>7.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Sexy School Girl </p><p>It is not quite the Halloween disco you remember from school. </p><p>This one involves knee-high socks and considerably questionable skirt lengths, but why not experiment with this classic role-play character.</p><p>And yes, cheerleaders count too...</p><p><br /></p><p>8.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Time of the month </p><p>Don't let a little bit of blood stop you from getting your freak on! </p><p>Periods are natural, and if your partner is comfortable, why not experiment. </p><p>If you are concerned about the mess, lay down some dark towels, this will disguise it and make it easy to clean up.</p><p><br /></p><p>9.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Wear a wig </p><p>Release your inner Dolly Parton or become someone completely new a wig can change your whole look and encourage role-play.</p><p> </p><p>10.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Take my breath away </p><p>There is no excuse for lousy breath, especially with oral sex-enhancing mints. </p><p>Why not add them to your oral routine for a cool sensation giving them the ultimate kid of shivers.</p><p><br /></p><p>11.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Paint your costume </p><p>Too spooky to leave the house? Why not experiment with edible body paint to create your outfit? </p><p>Drawing them on your party can be a fun way to play, plus you get the bonus of licking it off after.</p><p><br /></p><p>12.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Drip drip...</p><p>Candles are a must-have for a homely feel and can transport you to any season and trigger memories, but why not try wax play? </p><p>Read up about it first; don't just jump into this one if you've never done it before.</p><p><br /></p><p>13.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Wake and Bake </p><p>Why not take the time to cook some delicious treats together (see our Haloween bakes article for inspiration) and awake your inner Hells Kitchen.</p><p><br /></p><p>14.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Halloween porn </p><p>Why not watch some Halloween-themed porn together? </p><p>It may cause you into a night of steamy passion or a night of hysterical laughter. Either way, you'll have a good time.</p><p> </p><p>15.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>It's all about the mood </p><p>Why not grab yourself a cheap fog machine to add to the ambience? </p><p>You can also use it for other seasons or grab yourself a light that creates stars all over your ceiling. </p><p><br /></p><p>16.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Oh, the candyman can </p><p>Why not try a candy garter or edible underwear to spice up the mood? But, then, make it a challenge to have your partner remove it with only their mouth. </p><p><br /></p><p>17.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Frozen Solid </p><p>As a challenge for your senses, why not put your bed sheets in the wash or in the tumble dryer before you use them? The temperature changes will make you feel the chill of the afterlife or the heat of hell.</p><p><br /></p><p>18.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Mummy Massage </p><p>Why not whip out the perfumed oils and let your hands do the talking? </p><p>After the sensual touches, bound your partner up tightly. It will feel like a warm long-lasting hug.</p><p><br /></p><p>19.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Destroy the bedsheets </p><p>A few manufacturers have created blood coloured lube to give your sex life that gory twist perfect for Halloween. </p><p>This is bound to create a big mess, so be prepared!</p><p><br /></p><p>20.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Scary Cocktails </p><p>Why not try drinking a homemade Halloween cocktail together to reduce your inhibitions a little. </p><p>Sangria is easy to make, and it is Spanish for "Bloodletting".</p><p><br /></p><p>21.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Do it like the werewolves </p><p>Why not grab yourself a bullet vibrator to try out that will leave your partner howling for more? They are discreet and can be picked up at most local supermarkets these days – and they are perfect for play on the go.</p><p><br /></p><p>22.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Why not do it like the animals do </p><p>Have a night of pure passion exploring your animal fantasies, be it dressing up, digging your teeth in or pulling their hair. </p><p>The raw nature will get you begging for more.</p><p><br /></p><p>23.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Make them jump </p><p>Why not visit a haunted house or scare maze together? The adrenaline will have them jumping into your arms.</p><p><br /></p><p>24.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Hands-off approach </p><p>Why not get your hands on a remote-control sex toy – this gives your partner all of the pleasure, but you have some of the control. </p><p>They can be discreet and will make watching horror films with your partner much more thrilling.</p><p><br /></p><p>25.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Cuddle up </p><p>Some people find it hard to watch scary movies, so this makes it a great excuse to cuddle up on the sofa and get you closer together.</p><p><br /></p><p>26. Is it dark in here? </p><p>Turn off all of the lights and focus on all of your other senses. </p><p>This can bring a whole new dimension to an already spooky night and give you more confidence to be free.</p><p><br /></p><p>27. Cream pie </p><p>Have you got any cream leftover from making pumpkin pie? Why not use it on the more sensitive parts of your body and ask your partner to lick it off.</p><p><br /></p><p>28. Fantasies </p><p>What better night of the year than Halloween to explore the freaky or unnatural talk to your partner about things you want to try, respecting their boundaries, and giving it a go.</p><p><br /></p><p>29. Get in the feels </p><p>Make a Halloween Feel box and fill the container with different items to trigger your senses. </p><p>Maybe they are cold, slimy or spiky. Put your hands in the box, work out the item, and then use it on your partner.</p><p><br /></p><p>30. You've been jinxed </p><p>A slightly more exciting punishment game. Have a list of words that you cannot say that is Halloween themed or/and are hard to avoid – have a little punishment/dare for any word you say.</p><p><br /></p><p>31. Halloweaner </p><p>Why not try something different by getting your partner to wear a penis sleeve. </p><p>This can be bought in various sizes, shapes and colours, so there is one for everyone, whatever your fantasy.</p><p><br /></p><p>32.<span style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Take it outside </p><p>If you feel super risqué, why not do it in an abandoned building, woods or somewhere spooky.</p><p>This does come with its dangers, though, so always be careful that the pleasure doesn't override the safety.</p><p><br /></p><p>33. Make it sexy </p><p>For this one, you're really going to have to dig deep into the imagination.</p><p>Crack out your favourite horror film and make a role-play out of it.</p><p>Whether it's bringing BDSM (if you're new to it, research first and make sure you have a safe word) into the picture or getting freaky in the woods after watching Friday 13th, the creativity is in your hands. </p><p><br /></p><p>34. Netflix and thrill </p><p>Put on some super scary horror movies and get down to it – make it that you can only scream or moan when something dangerous happens in the film. This is hard to keep under control.</p><p><br /></p><p>35. Spanking </p><p>Whether you've been a ghoulish person all year and it's something you deserve, or you just want to experiment with something new, you can pick up spanking paddles from all good sex toy retailers. </p><p>They are an excellent way to get you close to the edge and purge you of your Halloween sins.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</b></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/10/dating-in-spooky-season-halloween-pick.html" target="_blank">Dating in spooky season: Halloween pick-up lines to whip out of your witches hat</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/10/10-of-scariest-places-to-visit-in-uk.html" target="_blank">10 of the scariest places to visit in the UK - Ancient Roman ruins to haunted countryside mansions</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/10/everything-you-need-to-know-about.html" target="_blank">Everything you need to know about Halloween: Origins, meanings, and traditions</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/10/halloween-decor-inspiration-how-to.html" target="_blank">Halloween decor inspiration: How to style a Pinterest worthy party</a></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>36. Bite me</p><p>If you have a fetish for nibbling, this one is for you.</p><p>You could pretend to be zombies and bite your partner (no blood drawing, of course). </p><p>It also gives you the chance to have more slow, passionate sex, as we doubt zombies can go at it like rabbits.</p><p><br /></p><p>37. Pumpkin flavoured condoms</p><p>Yes, they're a thing!</p><p>If you didn't know, now you do.</p><p><br /></p><p>38. Satan play</p><p>Now, unless you're into summoning demons, then this is likely not your thing... but if you are, why not nab yourself an Ouija board and give someone, or something, something to watch as you and your partner get it on.</p><p>We never said every option would be for everyone!</p><p><br /></p><p>39. Spooky tunes</p><p>That's right, connect your Spotify to a speaker and play the track from your favourite horror classic or check out a Halloween playlist. </p><p>The difference in the atmosphere will be new and thrilling, just like the music. </p><p><br /></p><p>40. Perform the 'six feet under' sex position </p><p>Get your man or partner wearing a strap-on to sit on a chair, then you wheelbarrow them with your legs on either side of them on the chair.</p><p>With your arse up and head down, you will most certainly feel six feet under. </p><p><br /></p><p>41. Go ghost</p><p>A bit of role-playing, pretend you and your partner have split up or ghosted one another.</p><p>Then go on a date to rekindle the flame and end the night with passion. </p><p><br /></p><p>42. Tentacle action, anyone?</p><p>It's a thing that anyone who has watched porn has likely come across, whether they regretted it or not.</p><p>There are an array of dildos with scales on out there if it's your kind of thing - or you want to explore the unknown. </p><p><br /></p><p>43. Get your witches hat on</p><p>Halloween is a full moon, so why not crack out some spells?</p><p>Whip up a love potion or look up sex magic for a thrill. </p><p>You can even get sex voodoo dolls that you and your partner can have of one another.</p><p><br /></p><p>44. Become a fanger banger</p><p>Nab yourself some fake vampire teeth and go at it like Dracula. </p><p><br /></p><p>45. Extreme submission </p><p>For those into humiliation play, you could get yourself a pig or dog customer.</p><p>For added effect, the Internet even offers butt plugs that end with a pigs or dogs tail.</p><p>Chuck in a lead, collar, and a bit of mud to get messy in and you're sorted.</p><p><br /></p><p>46. Accessorise your butt plugs</p><p>As well as pigs and dogs, you can also get unicorn tales if you fancy being treated like a Queen.</p><p><br /></p><p>47. Sage it up</p><p>Halloween is a great time to get rid of any evil spirits or energies, so why not celebrate by bringing some sexual energy back into your home.</p><p><br /></p><p>48. Ride them like a ghost</p><p>Blindfold your partner and straddle the life out of them in reverse cowgirl. </p><p><br /></p><p>49. Screw like a scarecrow</p><p>For this sex position, you're both standing, and your partner holds one leg up while facing them, so they enter you.</p><p><br /></p><p>50. Bad cop/prisoner </p><p>Role-playing as a cop and criminal? To spice this up, we're going to use the Bad Cop sex position. </p><p>For this, both of you stand, one bent over as the other enters from behind.</p><p>Then, to make it more like an arrest, the person being fucked puts their head down as the person behind grabs your hands and leaves you unable to use them as they thrust. </p><p><br /></p><p>51. Trick or treat in 69</p><p>In 69, you have no idea what your partner is about to do to you - it's the best part - so you don't know if you're getting a trick or treat or not.</p><p>Can you see where we're going?</p><p>Spice 69 up a bit by either treating your partner (oral play) or tricking them (spanking etc.)</p><p><br /></p><p>52. Make the most of the animal costume</p><p>If you're dressed up as a cute dog, you may as well have fun and get rough in the doggy style. </p><p><br /></p><p>53. Yeehaw</p><p>Dressed as a cowgirl? Well, kick your boots off (or keep them on) and scream your lungs out in the Cowgirl position.</p><p><br /></p><p>54. Conjure up a sex drive with aphrodisiacs</p><p>No, you don't need to make any potions. You just need to eat foods that increase your sex drives, such as dark chocolate and oysters. </p><p><br /></p><p>55. Invite a ghost to join the party</p><p>Hey, it's the threesome they have been asking for without them jealously! </p><p><br /></p><p>56. Vampire love bites</p><p>Love bites are thrilling but annoying to cover up, so why not save them for Halloween night and have a treat once a year?</p><p><br /></p><p>57. Sex for werewolves </p><p>Into hairy people? Or want to take a break from shaving for a while? Why not romp with a bush and embrace the werewolf look. </p><p><br /></p><p>58. Costume play</p><p>Go shopping together and pick each other's costumes. </p><p>Whether you're going out in them or if you want to just use them in the bedroom, it will be a fun surprise to see what they picked.</p><p><br /></p><p>59. Bake-off</p><p>Bake up some spooky-themed goods and use the mixture leftover to lick it off each other. </p><p><br /></p><p>60. Trick or treat around the house</p><p>Leave sticky notes around the home for your partner to find, such as 'love potion (cocktail) waiting for you in the kitchen', then get freaky with it on the countertops. </p><p><br /></p><p>61. Up for a fright?</p><p>Stick on a horror film and blindfold the one most frightened, then take their mind off of the horror film. </p><p><br /></p><p>62. Props all night</p><p>Halloween is the perfect time to have props around the house, such as fake guns, and hey, if knife play is something you want to try, this could be an excellent time to find a fake one in the shops.</p><p><br /></p><p>63. Spooky photoshoot</p><p>Dress up for your partner and take some sexy photos for them. Whether sending them directly or printing them out, they will certainly be thankful. </p><p><br /></p><p>64. Drive-thru antics</p><p><br /></p><p>Halloween is the perfect time to get it on while watching a film in the car.</p><p>Up and down the country are drive-ins playing horror films at night so no one around you can see what is happening?</p><p><br /></p><p>65. Get messy</p><p>If you like messing up your partner's make-up or rolling around in a mess, this is an excellent time of year.</p><p>With a face full of product, fake blood lying around, lots of treats to melt, you can start a riot.</p><p><br /></p><p>66. Howl all night</p><p>See how many rounds you can go. Can you make it until the sun comes up? </p><p><br /></p><p>67. Scream</p><p>Let it out and be as loud as you damn well, please.</p><p><br /></p><p>68. Host an adult party</p><p>Invite your friends over, set a theme and hey, end the night with an orgy or some sex games because why not!</p><p><br /></p><p>69. Sex positions galore!</p><p>Check back here on October 31 at 5pm for a new article on Halloween-themed sex positions for you to howl all night too.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>Written by <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/JessicaMurray" target="_blank">Jessica Murray</a> and <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/sophieblackman" target="_blank">Sophie Blackman</a>. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-564599993230232552021-10-13T16:00:00.001+01:002021-10-13T16:00:00.192+01:00NEW COLUMN! Ask James: Meet VavaViolet's phenomenal new dating agony uncle <p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinnmELMv41st5KqaCF27Fj4dFt6f2AuWL_WKyl3pB-UyvdC15vtaa9VJxfoC5GDbAs9woN8KBcWOgd0HXanE4HOlgD5AYcORbkshKPzUReP-pKjODRbu-T5N3HF6pXuR0xu3VMyoC4T2lJ/s1536/cuffing-season-460-16x9.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="889" data-original-width="1536" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinnmELMv41st5KqaCF27Fj4dFt6f2AuWL_WKyl3pB-UyvdC15vtaa9VJxfoC5GDbAs9woN8KBcWOgd0HXanE4HOlgD5AYcORbkshKPzUReP-pKjODRbu-T5N3HF6pXuR0xu3VMyoC4T2lJ/s16000/cuffing-season-460-16x9.png" /></a><br /><br /></p><p>As celebrity dating coach, expert and author James Preece becomes our agony uncle, he reveals if it is ever a good idea to get back with an ex. </p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>VavaViolet Magazine could not be more honoured to announce the launch of our new monthly column that will see James (who, not to gloat, but is the most experienced dating coach in the UK!) tackle a host of your relationship dilemmas. </p><p>From not being able to score a date to an array of issues in your love life, James is here to solve it all for you. </p><p>All you have to do is email your dilemma to vavaviolett@outlook.com for some free advice from a professional. </p><p>The dating coach is highly established in the industry with 16 years of experience working for over 50 dating companies.</p><p>Unlike many dating coaches, James caters for both men and women. Hence, everyone is welcome to send their dilemmas to VavaViolet Magazine - this was very important to us. Thus, there was no better fit than James. </p><p>The author also has 14 best selling dating books for sale on Amazon.</p><p>He has countless success stories via his coaching, and his single events are the best in the country for meeting like-minded souls. </p><p>For October's dilemma, James was approached by Sarah* (identities will always be kept anonymous). She asked if she should get back with an ex that cheated on her.</p><p>Here's Sarah's story:</p><p><br /></p><p>Dear James, </p><p>My ex-boyfriend has recently made contact again after eight months. </p><p>We had a bad falling out as he cheated on me, but he has now promised me he has changed and only wants me. </p><p>Should I give him another chance?</p><p>Sarah</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/08/how-to-succeed-with-dating-apps.html" target="_blank">How to succeed with dating apps, according to the UK's leading dating expert James Preece</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/10/is-right-person-wrong-time-really-thing.html" target="_blank">Is the right person wrong time really a thing? Sadly yes, here's how you avoid missing out again</a></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>James advised: </p><p>Hi Sarah,</p><p>Thank you so much for the question. I wanted to answer as it's something I get asked a lot. </p><p>The truth is that once you've broken up for a while, it's doubtful you'll get the relationship back to where it was.</p><p>That'sThat's because you've already come to terms with the breakup and have gone through all the various stages such as grief, anger, frustration disappointment. </p><p>Also, people rarely do change, and you'll always be wondering if you can really trust them. </p><p>It'sIt's like going back to an old job – you will feel like you are settling and likely to be unhappy and bored.</p><p>If you decide that they are worth giving one more chance, then make sure you take it very slowly. </p><p>There'sThere's no reason to rush back to how things were before too quickly. </p><p>Instead, take care to get to know each other again right from the start. </p><p>Go out on dates and talk through issues as soon as they come up. </p><p>Make him prove to you that they are serious this time. </p><p>By taking this time, you can rebuild the relationship and have a chance of a happier outcome.</p><p>Just promise me that if you ever get the slightest feeling, they are taking you for granted, that you'll cut him off once and for all. </p><p>You need someone who makes you his priority and treats you with respect.</p><p><br /></p><p>By Celebrity Dating Coach & Relationship Expert <a href="https://www.jamespreece.com/" target="_blank">James Preece</a>.</p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-10706758344707463472021-09-27T20:44:00.003+01:002021-09-27T20:44:30.094+01:00Relationship rows to friendship feuds: How to apologise successfully<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_OPJS4qmihIrm-KtRkVmCtDp5WMRfw0U9wFRCLMWpYAZxye0WjXIvWgTtoOt-ojQlsz4ua8DR9x2LZhI-qKOnuf2nXrwEPdmf2GZwMEgiTARLayaohkUOsI4FL7fROL0TYrZTc6HSQ_Yj/s1722/004BA6EB00000258-4071774-image-a-15_1482961846367+copy.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="994" data-original-width="1722" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_OPJS4qmihIrm-KtRkVmCtDp5WMRfw0U9wFRCLMWpYAZxye0WjXIvWgTtoOt-ojQlsz4ua8DR9x2LZhI-qKOnuf2nXrwEPdmf2GZwMEgiTARLayaohkUOsI4FL7fROL0TYrZTc6HSQ_Yj/s16000/004BA6EB00000258-4071774-image-a-15_1482961846367+copy.jpg" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><p>Relationships can be delightful, but the odd disagreement is inevitable with one another sometimes. So, if you owe someone an apology, here's how to show you genuinely mean it.</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>Conflicts can cause a lot of stress and upset. However, with conflict comes apology; an insincere apology can make everything worse, but knowing how to apologise effectively can make everything better.</p><p>How you apologise to your partner is extremely important, especially since everyone requires something different to move past an argument.</p><p>Everyone gets over things in different ways, and therefore, it is clear that not one formal apology would suit everyone.</p><p>The most successful apologies combine a perfect blend of empathy, remorse, and regret, as well as a promise to learn from your mistakes.</p><p>When you have hurt someone, be it intentional or not, it is always good to show this with an apology.</p><p>By apologising, not only are you expressing your regret, but you are acknowledging that you were wrong and that you have realised your mistake. It also offers the opportunity to freely talk about the boundaries within your relationship.</p><p>It opens up a line of communication with the other person.</p><p>An apology can bring relief to the other person and relieve you of your personal guilt over your actions and make you better understand why they are wrong.</p><p><br /></p><p style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 15.4px; text-align: justify;"><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</b></p><p style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 15.4px; text-align: justify;">- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/08/10-simple-things-to-do-to-up-your-self.html" style="color: #777777; margin: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-decoration-line: none; transition: all 0.25s ease-out 0s;" target="_blank">10 simple things to do to up your self-development if you're struggling</a></p><p style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 15.4px; text-align: justify;">- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/08/conflict-control-101-how-to-have.html" style="color: #777777; margin: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-decoration-line: none; transition: all 0.25s ease-out 0s;" target="_blank">Conflict control 101: How to have healthy arguments in a relationship</a></p><p><br /></p><p>The saying, "actions speak louder than words," is very appropriate here.</p><p>An apology doesn't erase the hurt caused or make it ok, but it shows that you will work hard to ensure it doesn't happen again, and your action proves that.</p><p>Not apologising is damaging to any kind of relationship, be it personal or professional relationships. It can lead to various awful emotions such as anger and resentment that may only get worse as time goes on.</p><p>People do not apologise because they aren't really concerned about the other person, care too much about themselves, or feel an apology is no good anyway.</p><p>Knowing when you should apologise can sometimes be tricky, but it is just as important as how to.</p><p>A general rule is if you think something you did has hurt someone else, be that on purpose or accidentally, then it is best to clear the air.</p><p>Just remember, if you would be upset if someone did it to you, then it's clear that you need to apologise. However, it is also an opportunity to discuss it if you think the other person is being unreasonable.</p><p>Often when people are hurting, they either are unwilling or find it hard to take this step because admitting you wrong can sometimes be challenging.</p><p>There are a few ways that you can show that you are sorry:</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzY0_le3MDvmg2b0AHPFmAeRnJcahemsru-EXJWxhNo7oSXLTaMg8O75PUpyv2MeUUjIfNoK7lZjTyK-BC3AtTTUdnYpimeEo6zzet2bEFQX1SBwWVq_2xINx8WRDSqq8bojnZCLaYQKIU/s1920/1.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzY0_le3MDvmg2b0AHPFmAeRnJcahemsru-EXJWxhNo7oSXLTaMg8O75PUpyv2MeUUjIfNoK7lZjTyK-BC3AtTTUdnYpimeEo6zzet2bEFQX1SBwWVq_2xINx8WRDSqq8bojnZCLaYQKIU/s16000/1.png" /></a></div><p>When apologising, it is crucial to express regret for your actions.</p><p>Taking responsibility in the first place is essential, but it is vital to show them that you wish you hadn't said/done the hurtful thing in the first place.</p><p>There are several expressions of regret, but some may include;</p><p>"I wish I could take it back."</p><p>"I wish I had thought of your feelings too."</p><p>"I wish I would have thought before I spoke."</p><p>It is helpful for the other person to know that you feel bad about hurting them and wish you hadn't and add sincerity to your apology showing them that you care.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi9OSYSjrvkUYy13BJ7ohM_-nlfDHdGSFf0D6g_mHJdTgAcvIs74iNZHcmP9CebcqWCGSpX0SgwzlLUUXGHDxSqCRNihi8ZU8SGXBm-i7KWk54fR_ZhLA21kvYDii3N8oK-3ZfwOJkr7Nc8/s1920/2.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi9OSYSjrvkUYy13BJ7ohM_-nlfDHdGSFf0D6g_mHJdTgAcvIs74iNZHcmP9CebcqWCGSpX0SgwzlLUUXGHDxSqCRNihi8ZU8SGXBm-i7KWk54fR_ZhLA21kvYDii3N8oK-3ZfwOJkr7Nc8/s16000/2.png" /></a></div><p>If there is anything that you can do to amend or change the situation for the better, then do it.</p><p>For example, if you broke something, you may simply ask, "Can I fix it or buy you a new one?".</p><p>However, suppose you broke something not physical like the trust of boundaries. In that case, you should approach it differently, for example, "I know I hurt you, is there anything I can do right now to make things better?"</p><p>This is offering to put actions behind your words, making them more sincere, and if you are not sure how to help by asking, it will make the other person feel more listened to.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGamgclvVwHTsp_4qP3inw43OmtOYn1g816y8VzQs8PC4dxqQnB0F9i4fLmNQIJsd_orId2tLp2L7y4IdLWBZsNzBI4c6ztK6FH-cPX2smJSuZWrEhhRsAPw0FNypSeWrI3GMoivyA8Nl5/s1920/3.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGamgclvVwHTsp_4qP3inw43OmtOYn1g816y8VzQs8PC4dxqQnB0F9i4fLmNQIJsd_orId2tLp2L7y4IdLWBZsNzBI4c6ztK6FH-cPX2smJSuZWrEhhRsAPw0FNypSeWrI3GMoivyA8Nl5/s16000/3.png" /></a></div><p>This is probably one of the most critical parts of an apology.</p><p>In all relationships, healthy boundaries are essential.</p><p>When having a disagreement crossing the line is usually the cause of the conflict as it breaks trust.</p><p>It also shows that this is something you might do in the future, so it is an excellent way to discuss things you just won't tolerate.</p><p>For example, lying, cheating, shouting or disrespect towards one another. You can then work through these together to set the standard of what you expect from each other physically, professionally, emotionally or sexually.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi8WGmy1KwYS5RuX5VRinpUMqx1cZ-ChhJ09zP7OcdF-4TurswsqP-hcXuyzNN6Ohb8TXAZojv9Aah8fW74LkGR2oCfJmvugdyt1Ylf3A_nehbo55a5BdzcHBkjsZkfv6l02Q7gj9jNyECM/s1916/Screenshot+2021-09-27+at+20.34.13.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="243" data-original-width="1916" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi8WGmy1KwYS5RuX5VRinpUMqx1cZ-ChhJ09zP7OcdF-4TurswsqP-hcXuyzNN6Ohb8TXAZojv9Aah8fW74LkGR2oCfJmvugdyt1Ylf3A_nehbo55a5BdzcHBkjsZkfv6l02Q7gj9jNyECM/s16000/Screenshot+2021-09-27+at+20.34.13.png" /></a></div><p>Remember when apologising that you are taking responsibility for what you have done wrong and the part you played.</p><p>This doesn't always mean that you're admitting that the whole situation is your fault, but you own up to the part you played in it.</p><p>People are frequently scared to say sorry first as their pride makes them feel like the "loser".</p><p>It is healthy to apologise for the part you played. It helps to establish a feeling of responsibility in your actions, but remember not to accept the blame if certain things are not your fault.</p><p>In many cases, it doesn't matter how you apologise as long as you do it in the right way.</p><p>If you struggle face-to-face, write it down and express how you feel that way.</p><p>Remember, apologies are not always easy, but they are a vital part of all relationships in life.</p><p>By being responsible for your actions and being sincere, the steps you need to an honest apology are easy.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>By <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/JessicaMurray" target="_blank">Jessica Murray</a>.</p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-88681416828313662942021-09-10T18:44:00.006+01:002021-09-10T18:44:50.524+01:00From A to Z, A list of kinks and fetishes you may not have heard of<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhMJ6tCiirRGsfRxOo7LE3xftSZzD63JTp08nuB6Mh0s7MDZoMR3IvkYVw3Ws4M4HkzCaPJRLna-kQcqoHB9m_aTgYdXvhRmjXYGn4i4ZJ0XHF2T5ek3YCReqE1cqXI9BsvJ5eWF3lAbtWO/s992/find-out-partner-freak-in-sheets-ss-thumbnail-override-1487255272.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="496" data-original-width="992" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhMJ6tCiirRGsfRxOo7LE3xftSZzD63JTp08nuB6Mh0s7MDZoMR3IvkYVw3Ws4M4HkzCaPJRLna-kQcqoHB9m_aTgYdXvhRmjXYGn4i4ZJ0XHF2T5ek3YCReqE1cqXI9BsvJ5eWF3lAbtWO/s16000/find-out-partner-freak-in-sheets-ss-thumbnail-override-1487255272.jpeg" /></a></div><p>From lusting over criminals to being turned on by mirrors, here are 26 fetishes you may not have known existed. </p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>Kinks and fetishes are becoming more mainstream. Nonetheless, many are still treated as awkward and taboo simply because they are not understood.</p><p>More and more people are scouring the internet in secret, looking for a name for the kinks they fantasise about but look no further. We have got you covered.</p><p>Whether you are looking to try something new with your partner, or explore different things, exploring other kinks and fetishes is an excellent way. </p><p>To begin with, it may feel intimidating, but first, you need to understand the difference between the two. </p><p>A kink is defined as a sexual activity that falls outside of sex that society traditionally considers "acceptable.". In contrast, a fetish technically refers to an attraction to an inanimate object, although this includes body parts. So, the confusion comes in because a fetish is a type of kink.</p><p>Before we begin any sexual encounter, you must have the 3 C's - consent, compromise, and communication. Make sure you are open with your partner and discuss your boundaries, but open your mind and get into the list...</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiogdWGTQFsxElNicsYAVRDSVy-TPbcF40kJ5rWs3RRCq4arzdXVFdJlFQe-m0x3SXte4W0cH8wrVBfmSZglrLuzchT8KIQdJBwpKHz-_f8wCdVzeNUSeXbK1rJdYDS9k1qE2app82VIZW6/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiogdWGTQFsxElNicsYAVRDSVy-TPbcF40kJ5rWs3RRCq4arzdXVFdJlFQe-m0x3SXte4W0cH8wrVBfmSZglrLuzchT8KIQdJBwpKHz-_f8wCdVzeNUSeXbK1rJdYDS9k1qE2app82VIZW6/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>This is a fetish for high heels, either looking at them, wearing them or doing things with them. </p><p>For some people, their partner wearing them is enough to go weak at the knees, but there is way more to it for others. </p><p>Some people like to be stepped on or scratched – but this can be dangerous so do your research first!</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgSEB8go0duBV1oCOGwak8XHiujtAZ3B9jfyIAUsqC8Qk5Ofkt87LePGDGtF416PqO8OtggmgcEAjfnRec1DubO1JsiV9pj2QdCH7jJCJyKBiy_kCLa0yxHzeUtdNlwzUZnS6HCvvNh7KVO/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgSEB8go0duBV1oCOGwak8XHiujtAZ3B9jfyIAUsqC8Qk5Ofkt87LePGDGtF416PqO8OtggmgcEAjfnRec1DubO1JsiV9pj2QdCH7jJCJyKBiy_kCLa0yxHzeUtdNlwzUZnS6HCvvNh7KVO/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>With the rise of Fifty Shades of Grey, Bondage and BDSM became extremely popular. </p><p>It is a form of restraint, and it is one of the most common sexual fantasies. </p><p>Some people enjoy being tied, whereas others get their fix from tying up someone else. </p><p>Typical bondage starter kit must-haves include handcuffs, tape or rope. Of course, you can start simple and build it up - we recommend that route.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2S2mzvb54dopZpDMiAVTyrL5JReocIrbsuHv3Q9xEY10wLAJMS35eErtKmU8vsiSLITha9VodzeOiXzgVCkulOcK4qJgVl-o6Y5CPYeSLv336q98Jwbzjm95UTS5j-nduvaYPGGxNZCDe/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2S2mzvb54dopZpDMiAVTyrL5JReocIrbsuHv3Q9xEY10wLAJMS35eErtKmU8vsiSLITha9VodzeOiXzgVCkulOcK4qJgVl-o6Y5CPYeSLv336q98Jwbzjm95UTS5j-nduvaYPGGxNZCDe/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>This is where a couple agrees that one party sleeps with someone else and humiliates the other person, which turns them on. </p><p>Sometimes the mere thought of the partner being with someone else is enough, and there is no need to act upon it. </p><p>This kink can also be performed virtually through dirty talk or virtual sex.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmY3oaQX70IJRCZWnneMtrGLtuv0VLS2ASE0rdLo1Fj5zGAXx4UNK5jUnMliX0M8FhZ33ph0ojd8WkLPn7HSKDTk_nxLxzfAc-zLXHqhKInivmLY3BSD3hmrS0sZZQyMrpZhe5VpCGgcAQ/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmY3oaQX70IJRCZWnneMtrGLtuv0VLS2ASE0rdLo1Fj5zGAXx4UNK5jUnMliX0M8FhZ33ph0ojd8WkLPn7HSKDTk_nxLxzfAc-zLXHqhKInivmLY3BSD3hmrS0sZZQyMrpZhe5VpCGgcAQ/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>Dominance is all about consensual power exchange. This kink is all about taking control. </p><p>The dominant partner gets sexual gratification from this - and the sub too if their thing.</p><p>Although many books and films have now made this more mainstream, they are not wholly accurate. </p><p>You don't have to sign a contract or have it stem from childhood trauma. Consent from both parties is good enough.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnapxpJUlo3vYfjOzERPgRp9ASqixWPpAj9x09uH-JHAOPFoGT_W0qLAyY6YC6Z9OUrFtTcSLr1EtN7F_VnXfhSSyNHMeaIOvEGj6qp0PBoITg46LZ7e2F8sXfwo1iTq8-8FDIngr1Y0y2/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnapxpJUlo3vYfjOzERPgRp9ASqixWPpAj9x09uH-JHAOPFoGT_W0qLAyY6YC6Z9OUrFtTcSLr1EtN7F_VnXfhSSyNHMeaIOvEGj6qp0PBoITg46LZ7e2F8sXfwo1iTq8-8FDIngr1Y0y2/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>This is the sexual pleasure from electricity. </p><p>For some, simple electric shocks are enough on erogenous zones in the body to provide pleasure. </p><p>A TENS machine can provide everything you desire. However, caution is needed as people can put themselves in great danger to achieve this and safety precautions should be taken.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiG79vNG2dgA2BTlPFSbCx4Xwy6naUwsJkSFYc7S7TDnjAILmYSQTLRlxl0neDifjN-fEZrRyrBmp1UFp8CbwpIs4JMKmyzWCf3v14JdtQ76KY6a8bAzwK9JqW7wGgAMq2WBPNm37xJQK4S/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiG79vNG2dgA2BTlPFSbCx4Xwy6naUwsJkSFYc7S7TDnjAILmYSQTLRlxl0neDifjN-fEZrRyrBmp1UFp8CbwpIs4JMKmyzWCf3v14JdtQ76KY6a8bAzwK9JqW7wGgAMq2WBPNm37xJQK4S/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>This is one of the most common but also the most denied fetishes. </p><p>It is as simple as it sounds someone being turned on by feet, even thinking about them. </p><p>They can get off through massaging, kissing and caressing them. </p><p>Some people enjoy smelling feet of even shoes, but there is a broad spectrum to this fetish like most things. </p><p>Both parties can enjoy it as even if it doesn't turn you on, you still get a free foot massage!</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgInFG4mAkmSX4_BRHtQ_FdylkQmVfzQTDguoMcLWLUwdNYxek2KRbgtErptdV46C9P0WsuIgCQ8QYB3vjGikE1QqlXKS9jIzjgfcY9-34TkD7D6Rg-DBjDvaryzyhNSVj5E5JEt3usuV5c/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgInFG4mAkmSX4_BRHtQ_FdylkQmVfzQTDguoMcLWLUwdNYxek2KRbgtErptdV46C9P0WsuIgCQ8QYB3vjGikE1QqlXKS9jIzjgfcY9-34TkD7D6Rg-DBjDvaryzyhNSVj5E5JEt3usuV5c/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>So many people have glasses but never wear them – even when they should! A common one that is often used in pornography. </p><p>Think about it many love a sexy secretary, librarian, or teacher in the adult movie industry, and they are almost always wearing glasses. </p><p>This is an easy thing to explore for beginners and can be done cheaply to a win-win!</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg5L-TLvjnPPkqlJXPkKSGXSy6hLxd0avlqBGlXa6MOPZ96PHuNK0kpu5pUlcWKEgfWMYxb75xswTbn_0AScVKNAAsUwtR78wqELzzS3eGOlUUbTfiMXWRXB2DPsQWipgwosoR6iD13hI0d/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg5L-TLvjnPPkqlJXPkKSGXSy6hLxd0avlqBGlXa6MOPZ96PHuNK0kpu5pUlcWKEgfWMYxb75xswTbn_0AScVKNAAsUwtR78wqELzzS3eGOlUUbTfiMXWRXB2DPsQWipgwosoR6iD13hI0d/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>Everyone loves a bad boy, right? This fetish is about those that have an intense attraction to the most dangerous criminals. </p><p>They often feel compelled to write to them in prison or look at those who are household names. </p><p>It is said that people with this fetish are usually those with low self-worth and those who firmly believe that they can help.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgkNsujoAD_WAjBUBv8IaY3aBNsUMjoLIoiguDE9EPELtLA-Fcjk6JRxYyZ5cWgxyMymrRtGe8prmIcbze4Pv6RTrp1K8HxrTSIVn3PvX2jJEWSNAYmaie-hhTynqy4ISa-tHn-98ngrFFJ/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgkNsujoAD_WAjBUBv8IaY3aBNsUMjoLIoiguDE9EPELtLA-Fcjk6JRxYyZ5cWgxyMymrRtGe8prmIcbze4Pv6RTrp1K8HxrTSIVn3PvX2jJEWSNAYmaie-hhTynqy4ISa-tHn-98ngrFFJ/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>The national lockdown was a nightmare for many, but this sounds like more of a dream for others. </p><p>Blocking out the outside world and being forced to focus on one emotion can be powerful. Therefore, it is often used in BDSM scenarios where one of the turn-ons takes a sense away. </p><p>Maybe explore using headphones or even a blindfold.</p><p><br /></p><p><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</b></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/08/8-ways-to-experience-best-car-sex-of.html" target="_blank">8 ways to experience the best car sex of your life</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/08/the-four-types-of-love-explained-from.html" target="_blank">The four types of love explained: From toxic to positive</a></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4jV257xp0-sLGxcAs5uzxez4lyOcDzLZoDQh4jcEDnKHCRjG7fUzXWnuEw4x_vwDZ3DEYwT0r9wj658k7bnPTA8yGRryHEsOULvKQQDXPXh7XfGwmtoa3BL_ztp0iO-RjJD7WBsHhjhyphenhyphen2/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4jV257xp0-sLGxcAs5uzxez4lyOcDzLZoDQh4jcEDnKHCRjG7fUzXWnuEw4x_vwDZ3DEYwT0r9wj658k7bnPTA8yGRryHEsOULvKQQDXPXh7XfGwmtoa3BL_ztp0iO-RjJD7WBsHhjhyphenhyphen2/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>It is often called Shibari. It is a type of bondage where the person is tied with rope. </p><p>Often it is very intricate and can be challenging to master. Still, there are lots of tutorials on the internet that you can find. </p><p>Its aim is not always sexual, but the designs are aesthetically pleasing. </p><p>One thing we recommend is maybe practising first on a pillow. It could be awkward if you are home alone and tied up in knots.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhlVgXkE5tMafcQmUTXn_mn5M8UOWagQeTdFkBK85qWSDbsJbuacWpVb2068NB5WjH0jGyvEul3ieUGOlCp7bdyc-zQsYViUcmaXxG-eppKD_M7FUzgdxjL3RwvoP83bcjEbiYt2py08kR6/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhlVgXkE5tMafcQmUTXn_mn5M8UOWagQeTdFkBK85qWSDbsJbuacWpVb2068NB5WjH0jGyvEul3ieUGOlCp7bdyc-zQsYViUcmaXxG-eppKD_M7FUzgdxjL3RwvoP83bcjEbiYt2py08kR6/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>Ever find the mirror houses at the funfair more amusing than you should? This is a fetish for mirrors. </p><p>Those with this fetish just love all things mirrors stripping, shagging or self-pleasuring in front of them. </p><p>A simple way to try is to attach a mirror to the ceiling above your bed. </p><p>Who knows, it may heighten your pleasure - or give you nightmares if you wake up and forget it's there.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilEM9f8-sDr2SQ8nrFJgi2ghi_jWB20roaqmuwRbh8nzGI-plQaJTdHdHagY88N9iH2Lc2cbgnDjL_qwsxhCxFF_rMqU448EwGAfnhX2i_xWuJ64eDM48nodrV9Ui0xJiUG0bt59ga_NO1/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilEM9f8-sDr2SQ8nrFJgi2ghi_jWB20roaqmuwRbh8nzGI-plQaJTdHdHagY88N9iH2Lc2cbgnDjL_qwsxhCxFF_rMqU448EwGAfnhX2i_xWuJ64eDM48nodrV9Ui0xJiUG0bt59ga_NO1/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>As you may expect, many get arousal from these various types of clothing, but all for different reasons. </p><p>The way that lace is see-through but protects some of your modesty means some find it irresistible. </p><p>The leather hints at 1940's pin-up models, and the lycra/latex can be shiny and cool to the touch. </p><p>All of them mean you can dress up and transform yourself into something that can make you feel sexy and empowered.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6RmZPFfgfOmOmr0yHVJs5wIhEQ91xuOdfePKHfPlxnvfrraJYTTTpQd7jLIvMr2_pf9Q7X4M67HyrdxsE52JLML71S4V8BalmcJ9KM8pCzfV2e4c3oq6wMHiAuz0wFrDX-RzVy-TFVQJ4/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6RmZPFfgfOmOmr0yHVJs5wIhEQ91xuOdfePKHfPlxnvfrraJYTTTpQd7jLIvMr2_pf9Q7X4M67HyrdxsE52JLML71S4V8BalmcJ9KM8pCzfV2e4c3oq6wMHiAuz0wFrDX-RzVy-TFVQJ4/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>Another pandemic pleaser, people that are turned on by those wearing masks. </p><p>The main attraction is the idea of quickly changing your visual appearance and the ability to become anyone else.</p><p>Perhaps you can get more use out of your masks than you thought!</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVXAthG1Lzury9Qn_VmQbgGCHACpk1MjLwsGGypoD7PT8_bu9Uqg59fUsdnapo4xPWssl0-Sym5jxp8Vdvpgtzl-S9kUCZYxt06_cxWDEV16JhM_pNB7WtNBtfCaQpIFYKZbH1w-dbJxKL/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVXAthG1Lzury9Qn_VmQbgGCHACpk1MjLwsGGypoD7PT8_bu9Uqg59fUsdnapo4xPWssl0-Sym5jxp8Vdvpgtzl-S9kUCZYxt06_cxWDEV16JhM_pNB7WtNBtfCaQpIFYKZbH1w-dbJxKL/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>Are you someone who enjoys erotic fiction or talking dirty? Then, this kink may apply to you. </p><p>It is precisely for audio, and the visuals happen inside your head. </p><p>Just hearing sexual stories spoken by a partner or recorded is enough and can be achieved very quickly. </p><p>Ask your partner to send a voice note of what they want to do to you, and you are well on your way.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiRHkf9UN2qsWXqT7twMNMubS-T76P5YqjRjLGyHXRJI4_cENwAb-dt1O7VHLTBp7mIFt_tgtbqGo_-9r4PXlA8FnoTTUrphj2JBEZDch0ODS0y6gK2N2cJovR4d5zMnVY_L3qGDbM1FW5k/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiRHkf9UN2qsWXqT7twMNMubS-T76P5YqjRjLGyHXRJI4_cENwAb-dt1O7VHLTBp7mIFt_tgtbqGo_-9r4PXlA8FnoTTUrphj2JBEZDch0ODS0y6gK2N2cJovR4d5zMnVY_L3qGDbM1FW5k/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>Both of these things are caused by the sexual arousal from smells. </p><p>It can be triggered by anything but Olfactophilia is usually bodily smells from the more active parts. In contrast, Ozolagnia is any smells that aren't from the body. </p><p>These would be easy to explore – why not work together to bake something like cookies, analyse the smell, and see if it does anything for you? If not, just eat them and have a laugh doing it.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj3gm5upIt40xtvWlOlLVgUv-lEkIlDvWsuRj5XNrKkg0MVRJUow-XkwkOXxHq9r-F8JHarYnlkcTQTxDq6xT3CdgPKjwdlt-hNTuzRsPxFc7mwLJN-1YGoeSIb0luDsHuAZQSDFpmFJev0/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj3gm5upIt40xtvWlOlLVgUv-lEkIlDvWsuRj5XNrKkg0MVRJUow-XkwkOXxHq9r-F8JHarYnlkcTQTxDq6xT3CdgPKjwdlt-hNTuzRsPxFc7mwLJN-1YGoeSIb0luDsHuAZQSDFpmFJev0/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>Size really does matter for those with this fetish. </p><p>Fellow size queens, this is simply put, the urge to have sex with huge penises. </p><p>I mean enough said really, but it may take a lot of attempts to fulfil this.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg2AR099Di5IFmZ1NiwcvKtK6GJIVF0-SRNJUEApF2BpAfuvEcYnDvIX-LIbDo2orkzDscqbAiR-D5y1MppvOCqOnHRyWUmq6uyHqb2VNsktipSWEUhS4bewxVKZUVJjbNxzobWchMSnd9d/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg2AR099Di5IFmZ1NiwcvKtK6GJIVF0-SRNJUEApF2BpAfuvEcYnDvIX-LIbDo2orkzDscqbAiR-D5y1MppvOCqOnHRyWUmq6uyHqb2VNsktipSWEUhS4bewxVKZUVJjbNxzobWchMSnd9d/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>This is a fetish for hands. It can be an attraction to fingers, smoking hot hands or just a fabulous manicure. </p><p>Whether it is the idea of what the hands are capable of or the physical hands themselves, one person's chore is a hand fetishist's dream.</p><p>And if you're lucky enough to have a partner with this fetish, they will likely offer to pay for your manicures!</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhwOxpwdLN4ccjf0NJw5ZWtmUiakhwBn84eSMCPsKKq3QWJpM6eTnVVneL-UEq8KOAMDprwGk5gNYIravJf1gKw76WlfJyPpJd7Fikf6tCGWaAIRGNZVHDmTka6Mb1ZKQxarxHupIeZMhzW/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhwOxpwdLN4ccjf0NJw5ZWtmUiakhwBn84eSMCPsKKq3QWJpM6eTnVVneL-UEq8KOAMDprwGk5gNYIravJf1gKw76WlfJyPpJd7Fikf6tCGWaAIRGNZVHDmTka6Mb1ZKQxarxHupIeZMhzW/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>This one is a common fantasy. </p><p>It comes from the thrill of ripping or fantasising about tearing clothes off of somebody you want to have sex with, which can cause uncontrollable desire. </p><p>If you want to try this out, maybe just don't wear your favourite top, or you may not be getting it back in one piece.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTJ0tpafgS6o2C0M7EB8fYR8MA9CfzjNxuyYd8LDv0BOwilhEF-N57t8nbhMYE-oB_6sAQ_EaE6AzVvOzh-6I2ZtDQD0_IP8m_1BvyDCrDvvrT4qvddDpD5lDKG_CLgrF_mLY4PNYM6wMK/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTJ0tpafgS6o2C0M7EB8fYR8MA9CfzjNxuyYd8LDv0BOwilhEF-N57t8nbhMYE-oB_6sAQ_EaE6AzVvOzh-6I2ZtDQD0_IP8m_1BvyDCrDvvrT4qvddDpD5lDKG_CLgrF_mLY4PNYM6wMK/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>The lights on lights off debate are not up for discussion for people with this fetish as it is a sexual preference for the darkness or nighttime.</p><p>It is also an easy way to try something new. </p><p>Block out the light or put on a blindfold and focus on your other senses feeling in the darkness.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjrDc-F3Jb95GuyGau7lj-DySPtU3Pss8xKCs0yLMht2G8R334Ye-XNiMRxkxfQ7Vkl_7ihtJhoOuWyep4lQIX58ng1g_fi_EIDTGbrDSwUf8iKEr6ZrAobvRMCGlOPJttGsUEuw73lHPNF/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjrDc-F3Jb95GuyGau7lj-DySPtU3Pss8xKCs0yLMht2G8R334Ye-XNiMRxkxfQ7Vkl_7ihtJhoOuWyep4lQIX58ng1g_fi_EIDTGbrDSwUf8iKEr6ZrAobvRMCGlOPJttGsUEuw73lHPNF/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>Do you know someone who loves technology a little bit too much? Maybe they are a technophile. </p><p>As a sexual paraphilia, people want to use their vibrating controllers to play with themselves instead of playing games. </p><p>A technophile may also fantasise about having sex with robots or other gadgets.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIFfR9ie9Nmr6au0NQSCAdNjLuJv-kmH6XPmdzm8ganGG_sXLCQsR0vUPnvFm8lkuYcmQSkQMcIdzmiv1RKofmW4QNEa9yO7zj_-T18CchiCUDPFjGz6JDA0ctgO6vFNpySQRzuNuFExdw/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIFfR9ie9Nmr6au0NQSCAdNjLuJv-kmH6XPmdzm8ganGG_sXLCQsR0vUPnvFm8lkuYcmQSkQMcIdzmiv1RKofmW4QNEa9yO7zj_-T18CchiCUDPFjGz6JDA0ctgO6vFNpySQRzuNuFExdw/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>Also more popularly known as watersports or golden showers. </p><p>This kink is for those people who find urination sexually arousing. </p><p>There are many things you can do with urine, though the most common way to enjoy pee play is to give or receive golden showers.</p><p>To be honest, when attempting this kink, maybe try out in the actual bathroom to make clean up easier.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgeZNJBLWdFXNsPcJ2xUymNMNT_NiPmeDEiRYfS_9ronCPBQOkq76WsNmwLC7yZFATzwZ-WOG4L8I3acvhPkXQytPWAZmhWK1XMWa9e0DqfRA_dAibyyCiuEZEFd2mMOTkM622HaYT6sPNI/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgeZNJBLWdFXNsPcJ2xUymNMNT_NiPmeDEiRYfS_9ronCPBQOkq76WsNmwLC7yZFATzwZ-WOG4L8I3acvhPkXQytPWAZmhWK1XMWa9e0DqfRA_dAibyyCiuEZEFd2mMOTkM622HaYT6sPNI/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>A voyeur is someone who derives sexual pleasure from watching others engage in sexual activity. </p><p>Exhibitionists enjoy being watched, and voyeurs enjoy watching them, making these two kinks a common item at kink events. </p><p>The issue with voyeurism is you need to make sure that they are being indulged consensually.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSLSk3G8Ui_WHrQK9PFCnBUqscWUFAJmkGoa5jcRog_z4tgM8fhHZnUlDcKlIyNf0Pbs1cF5whNLqWJkJm2rgSe5oiQ3ZkPXjPcvi7-dVkxzppcNZP02VbuYsZJb5yi2PLYJEocun8v9Kq/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSLSk3G8Ui_WHrQK9PFCnBUqscWUFAJmkGoa5jcRog_z4tgM8fhHZnUlDcKlIyNf0Pbs1cF5whNLqWJkJm2rgSe5oiQ3ZkPXjPcvi7-dVkxzppcNZP02VbuYsZJb5yi2PLYJEocun8v9Kq/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>This is short for Wet And Messy. </p><p>As the name suggests, it's a fetish for messy play using food or drinks. </p><p>This can be things like custard or cream. WAM is also known as food play or sploshing.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgCdhtgfu2I5tL9n9-lHYc-Yw3Jdli61wBFlA7gLBRABhzjfMx6LNf1_y-xvi5LEKE_6qMlBE-Nsfm4sdWmatn4YKBCZkPNTMQ28jTLWM9GIdBKQeJdt_mxYXxrp47D8aaIVSGkoiRqbdVS/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgCdhtgfu2I5tL9n9-lHYc-Yw3Jdli61wBFlA7gLBRABhzjfMx6LNf1_y-xvi5LEKE_6qMlBE-Nsfm4sdWmatn4YKBCZkPNTMQ28jTLWM9GIdBKQeJdt_mxYXxrp47D8aaIVSGkoiRqbdVS/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>This is the intense desire to form a particular union with those from a different place. </p><p>Xenophiles are the kings and queens of holiday romance.</p><p>They also tend to love adventure and meeting new people.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhn8pLfV7GuVRBGw0hJ1TagBcPra01oiRoPYP0886Cb2V4y2VvBDmwvfGOvJ4Xos5nm2OZNPxo_qv5amRUrpgoPISFPbAos0eoSxu5_VOPRZjhoCUVTN0zuVR3enerxy6B2oIXK1AqT12FJ/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhn8pLfV7GuVRBGw0hJ1TagBcPra01oiRoPYP0886Cb2V4y2VvBDmwvfGOvJ4Xos5nm2OZNPxo_qv5amRUrpgoPISFPbAos0eoSxu5_VOPRZjhoCUVTN0zuVR3enerxy6B2oIXK1AqT12FJ/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>One of the not so common fetishes is the fetish of having sex with baked goods. </p><p>It is uncertain where this stems from, but it may have something to do with American Pie. </p><p>All we suggest is don't get banned from the local bakers.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHvNy6pLTutitCI5gvjxRZ4c4ATBjrfpZd7k3mS49Sj5Kx4ep7GCGh3bTIrwGK68DhW3QslFz-5EDU5K190D8asLVlU7dzz8PEYIsMIxWi8PFKG0NF7GsUuKGKXTf1k5LMLIgblJmRK5Tz/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHvNy6pLTutitCI5gvjxRZ4c4ATBjrfpZd7k3mS49Sj5Kx4ep7GCGh3bTIrwGK68DhW3QslFz-5EDU5K190D8asLVlU7dzz8PEYIsMIxWi8PFKG0NF7GsUuKGKXTf1k5LMLIgblJmRK5Tz/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p>This is part of role play where you pretend to be different animals having sex. </p><p>Yes, you read that right.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>By <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/JessicaMurray" target="_blank">Jessica Murray</a>. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-58247998757968541512021-09-02T17:00:00.012+01:002021-09-02T17:00:00.236+01:00Feeling unfulfilled and disempowered in your relationship? Here's how you get it back | By Life Coach Jadie White<p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhC2Pt-LPMpAVzq-LPKqM_um6gYtKwA7hmZzUaOpB0p1rhaOtkvLJRl5MVYw1dqNS7zfPUJaikDZE28zCfDy9pftP8r3Oxf5O7yLuCLDf8DC1BBCQUfTVQTjb9n6pFcXKiY8SLpUYyLE-to/s2000/kim-cattrall-sarah-jessica-parker.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1335" data-original-width="2000" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhC2Pt-LPMpAVzq-LPKqM_um6gYtKwA7hmZzUaOpB0p1rhaOtkvLJRl5MVYw1dqNS7zfPUJaikDZE28zCfDy9pftP8r3Oxf5O7yLuCLDf8DC1BBCQUfTVQTjb9n6pFcXKiY8SLpUYyLE-to/s16000/kim-cattrall-sarah-jessica-parker.jpeg" /></a><br /><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Ladies in relationships, do you tend to take control, make plans and provide the structure and safety? Does this leave you feeling as if you are running the connection on your own, and there is no space for you to feel like the free-flowing, nurturing and soft female you actually are? </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Then it may be that your feminine energy is out of balance so here's what you can do...</p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">PRELIMS: </span></p><ul style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><li style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; list-style-type: disc; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><em style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">This article can be applied to everyone depending on what gender you identify with, not just the ladies as referred to throughout. </em></li><li style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; list-style-type: disc; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><em style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">We embody both masculine and feminine energies within ALL of us. </em></li><li style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; list-style-type: disc; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><em style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">When I refer to masculine and feminine, it is in regards to ENERGY, NOT GENDER. </em></li></ul><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">"He gets intimidated because he can't handle the fact he's with a strong woman." </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">"If I don't do everything, nothing will get done." </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Sound familiar? </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">*Cough* toxic femininity *cough*. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">This way of thinking could mean you are shifting all the blame into your male partner, creating MORE resentment and stress when actually YOU have more to play in this than you may initially think. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Typically, for a healthy relationship to thrive and for both parties to feel empowered in their sexuality and roles, it is necessary that if you identify as a female, you should embody 60% of your feminine energy and only 40% of your masculine power (energy) and vice versa. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">If there is an imbalance within you, you will notice feelings of resentment, frustration, and unfulfillment within your relationships. You are simply not being given the space to EMBODY your feminine energy, probably because you're too busy embodying your masculine. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Here's why... as a woman who embodies more of her masculine energy, she tends to attract men who represent more of their feminine to create an equal balance. However, she really wants and needs someone who embodies their masculinity MORE than she does so she can feel safe to surrender to her feminine flow. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Women who have more masculine energy tend to come from a background where their father/male figure was absent or could not/refused to provide the safety/security that she needed to trust a man to keep her safe. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Therefore this pattern is repeated in adult relationships. The female will embody the man all by herself because she believes she is the only person to keep her safe, not allowing her romantic male the space to prove that he can keep her safe. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">How does this go wrong? Naturally, a female needs to feel protected, safe and looked after, while a man needs to feel like a man - protective, not controlling. When this is taken from him, he has to overcompensate in other toxic masculine ways, which sabotages the relationship in various ways = unhealthy/unfulfilled relationship. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">To balance this, you need to identify the top 3 </span><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">mistakes we masculine women do wrong in relationships.</span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">These are: </span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhwc7K3byBRi2ftc7ndg4qJgi9-Dq-pPweazgfCMLokbb1RhzRfctsL0pq7KBpaDZTcnLgO8Lj5Kwz9BYF4qxIp35STx45DQHEKBIFQR89EdYFbPnvAcr6G4aHaOuIYP20mLZNeoCBSBt2u/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhwc7K3byBRi2ftc7ndg4qJgi9-Dq-pPweazgfCMLokbb1RhzRfctsL0pq7KBpaDZTcnLgO8Lj5Kwz9BYF4qxIp35STx45DQHEKBIFQR89EdYFbPnvAcr6G4aHaOuIYP20mLZNeoCBSBt2u/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">We stay guarded and untrustworthy of men to keep us safe. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">"I'm independent, I can take care of myself" translates to men as "I don't need you", which to a man is like cutting off their balls with a kitchen knife. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">If you want to be given the space to feel like the woman in your relationship (whatever that means to you, i.e. unique, sexy, looked after, protected, safe, worshipped), then drop this "independent" facade and LET YOUR MAN LOOK AFTER YOU. </span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiyUD6MHZWHVP5voCW_iQGMH8GxxRwJDLlCT5GQT8iQeq8R3XED9jEBQrvi5784Yq_F-7FXbHEhdnXBHjazfiZ17ZRoW5ZMqU3oDoW6J1C7dqye9E2BTv45qIR7KtndIf6uHeN-hUf5TF6A/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiyUD6MHZWHVP5voCW_iQGMH8GxxRwJDLlCT5GQT8iQeq8R3XED9jEBQrvi5784Yq_F-7FXbHEhdnXBHjazfiZ17ZRoW5ZMqU3oDoW6J1C7dqye9E2BTv45qIR7KtndIf6uHeN-hUf5TF6A/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">If you are a boss bitch, a business owner or just incredibly career orientated, you are tapping into your masculine energy more than the average female (thanks society, not). </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">When you bring this energy home with you back to your partner, it can translate into nagging, moaning, delegating tasks, which in turn makes your partner feel like you're his mum and naturally rebels to regain an ounce of his masculinity back. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">So woman, go secure your bag, build your empire but leave that shit at work. If you find it hard to switch off, take some space to tap back into your feminine before coming home, like doing a yoga class, meditate, dance, sing whatever gets you into your feminine. </span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWB5YzS8mcTQv_BaIYcX2gJdXtBiSXixzpDdzpq-D2iG6u-TnNdU_ZyLUeRW1LtGK7QV1HWehJaZnXR9G2uLA063qXtTVfntcg2NEtsWaAPpZP1eIZUaFyXwwR8yd5JvtXQgXltLE9OdeZ/s1920/Subheadline+template.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="261" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWB5YzS8mcTQv_BaIYcX2gJdXtBiSXixzpDdzpq-D2iG6u-TnNdU_ZyLUeRW1LtGK7QV1HWehJaZnXR9G2uLA063qXtTVfntcg2NEtsWaAPpZP1eIZUaFyXwwR8yd5JvtXQgXltLE9OdeZ/s16000/Subheadline+template.png" /></a></div><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Don't allow your daddy issues to get in the way of your romantic relationship. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">You have to learn to separate the two. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">If your dad left when you were a little girl, don't assume your partner will go too. Instead, build trust back towards men and heal this dynamic within yourself for the fairness of yourself and your partner. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">So yes, there is work to do on both sides, whether you are the female part or the male part, but right now, I am talking to the ladies because you cannot control anyone, especially your partner. But you can control how you respond, and the only way to take your power back is to take ownership for your part to play. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Ask yourself, are you giving your partner enough space to embody his masculinity? Or are you taking up both feminine and masculine energy in one? </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">I could speak about this for hours, so if anything from this post has spoken to you today, please feel free to send me a message via Instagram, and I'd love to chat further - @vibrat3higher</span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Written by VavaViolet's columnist and Life Coach, Jadie White.</span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">PS: </span><span style="color: #0e101a;">Jadie (<a href="https://www.instagram.com/vibrat3higher/?hl=en" target="_blank">@vibrat3higher</a>) is an inner child and embodiment coach who helps women work through their wounds by acknowledging sabotaging patterns and work on healing and releasing blocked emotions to come home to who they truly are. </span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="color: #0e101a;">Suppose you seek some nurturing support and need a compassionate and warm coach to hold you through your healing journey. In that case, Jadie has availability for bespoke coaching packages that suit your individual needs - book a complimentary intro call <a href="https://msha.ke/jadiewhite/" target="_blank">here</a>!</span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></span></p><p style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></span></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-86452679070320720012021-08-25T17:00:00.001+01:002021-08-25T17:00:00.605+01:00The four types of love explained: From toxic to positive <p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4lZKSpmvsRK_d90fB93uZ5MiNrIOWnFKtO42QT6OwnT9_iysT_Vw4QKiq8BjuBGK5KbyM_rEbKa5fl9jX6VHT23dxTKfa8FnbEq4Yw46K9BO3wOS5V3geUFfg2qu9gpBlQt3_4fAtDZiM/s2048/istock_000016631850_large_3.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1366" data-original-width="2048" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4lZKSpmvsRK_d90fB93uZ5MiNrIOWnFKtO42QT6OwnT9_iysT_Vw4QKiq8BjuBGK5KbyM_rEbKa5fl9jX6VHT23dxTKfa8FnbEq4Yw46K9BO3wOS5V3geUFfg2qu9gpBlQt3_4fAtDZiM/s16000/istock_000016631850_large_3.png" /></a><br /> </p><p>We throw the word love around as if it is nothing, but it has the power to crumble our entire nervous system or set our world alight with blessings. </p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>For years Theologians and Philosophers have deeply explored the concept of love. Now Neuroscientists and Clinicians are starting to take a deeper look at the actual effect on us and our emotions. </p><p>Because it has a massive impact on your entire life, even more than we think it does. Thus, we must spot those old toxic red flags and knowing the types of love helps.</p><p>Even as far back as the Ancient Greeks, the concept of love has been examined, and in doing so, they created four different words to describe what they believed to be the four types of love.</p><p>These are Eros, Agape, Philos and Storge. </p><p>Here's what each one means:</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwD0LmoLTkBgEizuaaTVBzB3Sc5ZhQIqTewzUgq-6ZLwI_J1LLKGtrO-srW-lTyAeefmMimSovFBWAJFUgFx1LnA_a9F263NbHj1Vcr52_cdk2IrdIe3WiuiIZwuLsfJX163we-1SQKGlU/s1920/1.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="272" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwD0LmoLTkBgEizuaaTVBzB3Sc5ZhQIqTewzUgq-6ZLwI_J1LLKGtrO-srW-lTyAeefmMimSovFBWAJFUgFx1LnA_a9F263NbHj1Vcr52_cdk2IrdIe3WiuiIZwuLsfJX163we-1SQKGlU/s16000/1.png" /></a></div><p>Also, know as the addicting love. Eros is the kind of adoration that is sexual, passionate, and erotic. </p><p>It is usually more focused on the need and sexual interactions and energy - hence its addicting nature. </p><p>Experts reckon this kind of love isn't always good, especially if you're looking for a much deeper connection than lust. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_3QHUIAmwnVOxCobdiV1jQIn7puW6uMfcldoYrb-lV6uBYM9Z8dHWwb0VqVnKY_6vVM26_koYBxxapiKfXYZ_oYCtKLeV7Uk-SrxxMe0gt2g43hrugoLoXGbX_8_06x9qNcYXqxdZ1X34/s1920/2.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="272" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_3QHUIAmwnVOxCobdiV1jQIn7puW6uMfcldoYrb-lV6uBYM9Z8dHWwb0VqVnKY_6vVM26_koYBxxapiKfXYZ_oYCtKLeV7Uk-SrxxMe0gt2g43hrugoLoXGbX_8_06x9qNcYXqxdZ1X34/s16000/2.png" /></a></div><p>The sweet love, one where lovers have usually been together a while, and although it's not as mysterious and sexy anymore, there's still a loving relationship.</p><p>Philia is also known as the brotherly/sisterly love - not actual siblings, but the love we have for dear friends who feel as if they are family. </p><p>Out of all the loves, it is suggested this one is the best for our health. </p><p><br /></p><p><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</b></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/08/8-ways-to-experience-best-car-sex-of.html" target="_blank">8 ways to experience the best car sex of your life</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/08/how-to-succeed-with-dating-apps.html" target="_blank">How to succeed with dating apps, according to the UK's leading dating expert James Preece</a></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg-LdDc8CzPTErw9isfEeVCJ1hSEN7CvDWbdgm-6gc6ViRcNfaP7SN2ASOhrpY3hDDTgjXn-g8i94os-kUixyOpmNB-VIFEUKE5HLBBdiA1HD3-swtODf0wxlC6sm76TzeuqpSRP8OXyCkU/s1920/3.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="272" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg-LdDc8CzPTErw9isfEeVCJ1hSEN7CvDWbdgm-6gc6ViRcNfaP7SN2ASOhrpY3hDDTgjXn-g8i94os-kUixyOpmNB-VIFEUKE5HLBBdiA1HD3-swtODf0wxlC6sm76TzeuqpSRP8OXyCkU/s16000/3.png" /></a></div><p>The love we talk about the least, yet it is one of the most important as it is the first we experience.</p><p>Storge is the love we know best from our parents. It is known as the most natural because it is instant usually - a real-life love at first sight.</p><p>It is the kind of love we can't help. Thus, some parents do not stop loving their children even if they carry out the most horrific acts. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgPw3UmMYIyUGUOAxltDaPcA4SSpsgo_YHRu5jQebL8iLDA_V-cEaKHqkTbPEtdBh0C4ybdfqKUavIzWk5uUCSTK3kbrEiJE-ucIsegTnHeUn6DgDZMBQuu5_EOuuoor836G19Rf5yOEbId/s1920/4.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="272" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgPw3UmMYIyUGUOAxltDaPcA4SSpsgo_YHRu5jQebL8iLDA_V-cEaKHqkTbPEtdBh0C4ybdfqKUavIzWk5uUCSTK3kbrEiJE-ucIsegTnHeUn6DgDZMBQuu5_EOuuoor836G19Rf5yOEbId/s16000/4.png" /></a></div><p>Agape is the love the Christian God has for us. </p><p>Whether you believe it or not, Agape is also known and referred to as the love given but does not have to be returned - something many of us have sadly experienced. </p><p>Buddhists also preach this kind of love as they believe it is the foundation to their health as they link it to forgiveness, happiness, and contentment, rather than being filled with hate for others they love. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>Written by VavaViolet Magazine's Founder and Editor-in-Chief, <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/sophieblackman" target="_blank">Sophie Blackman</a>.</p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7113448077197081685.post-64335270540101823252021-08-23T17:00:00.003+01:002021-08-23T17:00:00.238+01:00My Irritable Bowel Disease nearly saw me give up on love, here's why you shouldn't <p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3rCsQVu-TNnb101lAuOGQe6jfIVyKC6IdqPII4ffhlwoAPHS3aQOQsiI6eSgGo0dCuRLIH8KrIpijyz04oukop9P2Pa_hUNy-pvM-WJ_ty5wxiCw22yKXlYSXBcEK_mHXo9j0olCM9KC3/s1702/crohns-disease-1582294693.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1074" data-original-width="1702" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3rCsQVu-TNnb101lAuOGQe6jfIVyKC6IdqPII4ffhlwoAPHS3aQOQsiI6eSgGo0dCuRLIH8KrIpijyz04oukop9P2Pa_hUNy-pvM-WJ_ty5wxiCw22yKXlYSXBcEK_mHXo9j0olCM9KC3/s16000/crohns-disease-1582294693.jpeg" /></a><br /><br /></p><p>Love is not something to give up on - and that's coming from someone who realised she was falling in love with her best friend at the same time as being diagnosed with Irritable Bowel Disease (IBD).</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>Double whammy but here's why it's not worth giving up on love if you have or have just been diagnosed with a chronic illness (and I've got a new ring to prove it).</p><p>I have felt heartbreak more than most. My Dad once described me as the girl that "loved the idea of being in love". </p><p>If you name a rom-com, I have likely seen it twice, and the all-consuming love portrayed in novels and movies was what I wanted for me. </p><p>In reality, although I longed for this fairy-tale life, I was ok being the single friend. I was happy being the 'fat one' that saw their friends kiss boys at parties and go on dates. As much as I would have loved those things after being worn down by failed relationships and emotional abuse, I was content on accepting what I was told: "if I don't want you, nobody will". </p><p>Then in 2018, I reconnected with my best friend, Stephen.</p><p>We had lost contact while he was working abroad in France, and it is safe to say the connection was instant when he got back, but I was petrified. </p><p>It resulted in many excuses for why I couldn't go on dates and never really any explanation. </p><p>In May of 2019, after talking for months and our feelings developing, we finally got together, and the boy I had considered my best friend in the world was now my boyfriend. </p><p>Not many people can say they have fallen in love with their best friend, but I had….and hard. </p><p>He knew everything, all of my darkest secrets and being that vulnerable scared me. </p><p>For the first time in my life, it felt like nothing from my past defined me. Instead, he loved me for the here and now. </p><p>Stephen accepted that, at times, things triggered me, and instead of punishing me for it, he guided me through it. </p><p>The road wasn't easy at first, but our first holiday together in September 2019 to Majorca was the turning point. </p><p>We had an incredible trip and made some friends for life, but this is when the first signs of my condition started to show themselves. </p><p>At first, I just put it down to eating poorly whilst I was away and drinking too much. </p><p>Then we got back from the holiday, and the stomach cramps were still pretty intense, so after speaking to my mum about it, she suggested going to the doctor if I had picked up a stomach bug. </p><p>The GP brushed it off as food poisoning and said to continue with over the counter medicines, which seemed not to do much.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjjK-MKCXtAdj_lS_eTN8lG9u3UtyzLs-8jzMZ1u9665O7iP7hyphenhyphenlg8YVWi9QM4YThek7mzGpKank2rH9AVJ8sC84j8RPwkdV8ThWTwqAOtMr_V0IKtiKU-wj2ifVgeP9d3ayhG8REOWD8uK/s1920/QuoteTemplatePSD.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="903" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjjK-MKCXtAdj_lS_eTN8lG9u3UtyzLs-8jzMZ1u9665O7iP7hyphenhyphenlg8YVWi9QM4YThek7mzGpKank2rH9AVJ8sC84j8RPwkdV8ThWTwqAOtMr_V0IKtiKU-wj2ifVgeP9d3ayhG8REOWD8uK/s16000/QuoteTemplatePSD.png" /></a></div><p>Fast forward to Christmas, and I was still feeling pretty unwell, and I had started to lose a bit of weight, and the half a stone I usually gain over Christmas from eating crap didn't pile on. </p><p>When I stepped on the scales on January 1st to start my fitness regime for my resolution, I had lost nearly two stone without even trying. I was astounded, 'lucky cow,' I thought to myself. </p><p>My intuition told me that this wasn't right, so I called the GP again and went in… "food poisoning, but we will do some further tests." </p><p>After the success of our first holiday, I had booked our next and surprised Stephen with it just before Christmas with a card that said: "Lanzarote for your birthday in February?" </p><p>We were so excited, and he couldn't believe it at first, but he was so grateful as always. </p><p>To feel a little more confident in my swimsuit, I then hit the gym three times a week for about a month. </p><p>The fatigue after a gym session was intense, but I put this down to being unfit and working long hours and various shifts. </p><p>On February 1st, my next weigh-in day came around, and I had lost another two stone, and my stomach still wasn't feeling right, so I went back to the GP. </p><p>I walked in, and my doctor looked shocked. </p><p>"How much have you lost in 2 months?!"… "Erm, about four stone," he looked at the screen and back at me and went white but remained calm. </p><p>He examined my stomach, and when he touched it, the pain seared through my body like nothing I had ever felt. I screamed the place down. </p><p>After it was over, he said my results were showing abnormally high, and my reaction to the examination had meant he was going to call the gastro team at the hospital. So I needed to go there immediately, or he would call an ambulance. </p><p><br /></p><p><b>Enjoying this article and intrigued to read more like it? Check out:</b></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/02/you-say-from-duff-to-buff-we-say.html" target="_blank">You say 'from Duff to Buff', we say sometimes losing 8 stone is not what it seems: Chronic Illness Awareness</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/04/sex-with-chronic-illness-how-to-feel.html" target="_blank">Sex with a chronic illness: How to feel sexy when you feel so poorly</a></p><p>- <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/2021/08/my-chronic-illness-wreaks-havoc-on-my.html" target="_blank">My chronic illness wreaks havoc on my self-development journey, here's how I changed my mindset</a></p><p><br /></p><p>I walked back out to the car where Stephen sat waiting, and I just burst into tears. He knew that I was not too fond of hospitals and was petrified, but he came with me. </p><p>After several procedures and various tests, the details of which I will not go into, I got diagnosed with IBD.</p><p>"Please can I go on my holiday, though," I said to the consultant, pleading with him. </p><p>"I don't think you realise how poorly you are, do you, Miss Murray? But if it gives you something to look forward too I will do everything I can to help get you there but be prepared. It is not going to be easy, and I can't guarantee it," said my doctor. </p><p>Every bit of advice the doctors gave me, I followed. </p><p>A liquid diet, foam enemas, daily blood tests and eight different medications were all trying to get it under control. </p><p>After three weeks reluctantly, the consultant agreed that I could go on holiday but with strict rules.</p><p>Stephen and I boarded the plane and our holiday was fantastic – I pushed myself to the limits, but he was there to tell me when it was time to take a break and reassured me that he was tired too, so I didn't feel bad for the necessary day time nap that I had promised my consultant I would have. </p><p>We faced our fears on that holiday, and he reassured me that anytime he had spent with me was impressive.</p><p>Once we got home within three days, I broke down. </p><p>The holiday that had been getting me through the reality of my crumbling health was over. Then set in, the fact of what the doctors had said had hit me. </p><p>How could there be no cure for this? In my head, being told that no matter what I do, this is something that I will have for the rest of my life, I couldn't cope. </p><p>My plans of travelling the world as I please were over, my body was fighting me, and everything changed.</p><p>Stephen was incredible support for me, managed to calm my nerves and helped me focus on the end goal of setting my condition under control and into remission. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhZTKQwn2lhnfp57QmTu98WONsE2o3V4glPbrVSs3_3x0LQ8h92Mt6L6l_UwWb4ZOzSmbNo1CyvnpjbFDVw6k5fm1pJ6fwPkvTigl7_UfgvV76zDTbE2iBhhIZu-IbJC4ZKckwJM_X-8EwN/s1920/QuoteTemplatePSD.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="903" data-original-width="1920" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhZTKQwn2lhnfp57QmTu98WONsE2o3V4glPbrVSs3_3x0LQ8h92Mt6L6l_UwWb4ZOzSmbNo1CyvnpjbFDVw6k5fm1pJ6fwPkvTigl7_UfgvV76zDTbE2iBhhIZu-IbJC4ZKckwJM_X-8EwN/s16000/QuoteTemplatePSD.png" /></a></div><p>Then Covid-19 hit the world, and my new illness meant I was in the most vulnerable category, so we didn't see each other for almost six months. </p><p>Facetime and texts were a godsend but not the same as seeing each other face to face. </p><p>In that time, the drugs had made my body swell, my hair fell out, and it caused me to have a rollercoaster of emotions. </p><p>I pushed him away so much, but he stayed no matter what – at my lowest point, I had lost eight stone in six months. I couldn't eat, sleep, and I didn't even have enough energy to leave the house, but when we were allowed again, he would sit outside the toilet door, just somehow making me laugh over it all. </p><p>Fast forward to today, and after lots of trial and error, I am now on a new medication which means that my symptoms are more manageable, and we are working on getting me into remission. </p><p>As for myself and Stephen, we have now been living together for the past nine months, and on June 17th, Stephen popped the question, so now we are onto a new chapter of wedding planning which is so exciting and gives us something more to look forward too.</p><p>To anyone reading this who is going through something similar, going through heartbreak or just feeling like giving up on love – there is someone out there for you! </p><p>You may think that is a lie, but I never thought anyone would be capable of sticking by me through all of this and the problems that everyone faces are different. </p><p>The road to love isn't easy, but if it is meant to be, then you make it work. </p><p>It may be the person you least expect, but even when you feel like you have no value in yourself, someone out there values you. </p><p>You matter to someone, and hey, it may not be the love of your life. It may be a friend, relation or work colleague, but there is always someone. </p><p>I have gathered so much strength through having this illness because I know that no matter how ill I am feeling or how tough life seems to be treating me, it is ok to feel sorry for yourself. </p><p>If a friend were going through this, you would feel sorry for them, so it is ok. </p><p>Admitting that you are struggling is ok, and picking yourself up even if you need help from someone else is ok too. </p><p>My new mantra in life is "right now, I am surviving, but one day I will be thriving!" it is something that has helped to pull me out of some dark places. </p><p>I had given up, but somehow this beautiful person loved me. No matter what happened, no matter how ill I was, he was by my side through it all with no judgement. </p><p>In the moments that I hated myself, he loved me his hardest. </p><p>I never thought that it would ever be possible for someone to be so supportive and unique to me, I was the queen of pushing people away, and he stayed.</p><p>PS: Stephen wanted to add that if he can make it out of the friendzone, then anyone can.</p><p><br /></p><p>Written by <a href="http://www.vavaviolet.com/search/label/JessicaMurray" target="_blank">Jessica Murray</a>. </p><p><br /></p>Sophie Blackmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05923615353203582911noreply@blogger.com0