Sex talk can be a quick and straightforward way to get you in the mood, even if you've never done it before.
It never has to be complicated. The best kind is simple and straight to the point with clear instructions, but many can freeze at the moment, making it super awkward for everyone involved.
Here are our top tips to help you become a sexting and dirty talking filth bag!
Less is more
When talking dirty, it doesn't have to be a full play by play of what is going down.
Keeping it short and sweet is an excellent way to get your point across. Consider starting simple with "I want" or "I wish" sentences to really open up the communication with each other.
Simple terms
Use terms that you both understand and maybe have discussed before instead of coming in with something really left field.
Start with things you have done with one another before as a failsafe in communication and what you know your partner will enjoy and want to hear.
Flattery will get you everywhere
Nothing beats a compliment, especially during sex.
Giving confirmation if something is good or you enjoy what your partner is saying to you is an easy way.
You can do this by using phrases such as "It feels good when" or "I like/love it when" this gives your partner reassurance that they are doing things right for you.
Be descriptive
When you're feeling more confident, get out the thesaurus and think of exciting ways to describe your partner and different parts of their body.
It is proven that couples enjoy hearing their partners describe their bodies.
For example, saying someone is robust, warm or sexy positively impacts them, so scrub up on your adjectives.
Get inspired
It could be a book, a movie or a song. But, if it is narrative and makes you feel a certain way, why not use it.
Maybe look into song lyrics and see what makes up their favourite song and alter up the lyrics to appeal to the parts of them you love.
Just go with what flows now but make sure it is not too outrageous if new to it.
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Eu Natural
Nothing is more awkward than forced conversation or the use of terms that make you shudder. Just remember you don't have to use them.
If your partner hates the word "moist", don't use it to describe how you will make them feel.
Just remember being honest and not forcing it are easy ways to make sexting more enjoyable for all involved.
Get comfortable
The more comfortable you are talking about sex daily, the more satisfying your sex life will be.
It will reduce inhibitions and allow you to be more open with your partner.
Sex is not something forbidden and can be talked about, so opening up the narrative with a partner can help you discuss what you think about certain things and what you like or dislike.
Have fun
It is supposed to be fun, so if even the thought is filling you with dread, then don't do it.
You should both enjoy the experience without feeling judged or uncomfortable so try to relax and not second guess yourself.
By Sophie Blackman.
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